Last night I treated myself to a movie at one of our local independent movie Theaters, and saw Lars von Trier's 2013 Nymphomaniac vol-1 and vol-2, yes a double bill. This movie has excellent acting, directing, super interesting story-line and content, and just simply has it "going on". It could be/should be used to teach Sex Addiction 101. After I returned home however, I pondered some interesting questions/thoughts, and since they at least indirectly relate to this thread and others on the site, I thought I'd pose them here where I could perhaps be enlightened by experts.
First off let me say that I'm in no way insinuating that Sue is a Nymphomaniac, (and I mean that in the true clinical sense, not the pop culture definition of the term) however, as with the majority of people that live this lifestyle and contribute to the sites, it would be reasonable to believe that SOME degree or level of sexual addiction does exist. It has to. And I'm certainly not implying that’s a bad thing. With any type of addiction however, hard core or not, (especially anything sex related) the (addictive) behavior is supported by a set of compulsive thoughts and beliefs. “I must do this”. If I don’t/can’t do this then I will feel badly about myself”. ETC, ETC. Also I would think that performing the behavior creates an energy high, which in turn creates momentum, which in turn creates more of an energy high. IMO then, it would be near impossible to VOLUNTARILY turn the (addictive) behavior on and off like a light switch. Yet, following the last two Threads in this series, that is exactly what it appears Sue has been able to accomplish. Shutting off the light switch (voluntarily) with Robert before last Christmas, will turn it on again—at some point yet to be determined—in the future.
What happened to the (compulsive) thoughts of “I need to feel the energy that I do when I do this”. “Having a lover makes me feel good about myself”.
The sex-addicted lead character from last night’s movie had to keep the behavior up. It became a huge part of her identity. Further, she needed the energy from the momentum she was creating, and in turn needed the momentum to create more energy.
What’s Sue’s secret for being able to turn the switch on and off at will??????????