Hey all. Here on a rainy Sunday while Sue is out shopping with our daughter.
I saw the last few posts here and wanted to take the time to answer them as well as share some of the things we've been talking about (and teasing me about too).
From what I see, Sue isn't into the computer and web that much. She'll watch YouTube videos with her favorite country music, she'll send some Email every now and then but beyond that, she's not really into being online. Maybe we're old-fashioned, this is my outlet for my thoughts - and yes, I've blocked it on our router - but she's much more the magazine and printed-story type of person. I suppose it works better for her as I've watched her masturbate many times and she enjoys having a magazine laid out on the bed (or printed story) and her toys and lubricants handy - as opposed to me enjoying porn on the computer and just needing my right hand free.
Will - you may be correct about Frank. As I said, one thing I noticed was that she isn't/doesn't/hasn't really mentioned him by name or shared with me anything other than her own parts of their time away. As I said, it's a bit anticlimactic as I expected a bit more. Oh, she'll tease me with it as I'll share in a moment but I honestly feel that this trip was more of her own desires and I think, fulfilling them, than it was to get more out of or closer to Frank. It's actually a bit weird that they spent so much time together and she won't now see him till Thursday.
Other than describing her own experience - she hasn't really described anything special or unique or otherwise about Frank. I haven't heard about much "romantic" between them other than the moments she shared such as when they checked in or other points when the thought of them being a couple seemed to turn her on.
To be honest, I think Frank is just a pastime in a way right now. At least in my head, she doesn't seem to want more from him - as I said above, I feel now that this trip was more about her being able to maybe know that she can let herself go - but for a while now, I have felt that there isn't as much passion in her regarding him. In a way, everyone's posts here plus what I'm seeing, is making me think that she's literally using Frank, maybe until the next guy that turns her on comes along? I am thinking, or rather, know, that at this point in this evolution of her, that she enjoys and wants to have a lover in addition to a husband.
I have given things a lot of thought and I wanted to share my conclusion before going much further. Sue is a submissive at heart. She is controlling of a situation - perhaps to keep it within boundaries, or to directly or indirectly set a goal - but she is then, when she can feel comfortable in letting go, that she in fact does want to do so. We have always enjoyed a lot of variety in our sex - including her enthusiastic response to what we did together regarding dom/sub. Whether it was master/slave role-playing, spanking or other types of experiences, or even her being ****** into experiences like when I took her naked at night out into our backyard while the neighbor teens were in their yard just beyond the fence. But I also know that I cannot do this all the time with her - it's just not me / not us. So, my realization is that she would like to find someone a bit more forceful - perhaps not as extreme as Don - or perhaps not quite as rigid. Actually, watching this side of her come out, I think I can see how she might want a bit more of an opposite of me. The warm loving husband with me, and perhaps a more physical and demanding lover to fulfill her emerging desires?
To me, this seems more in line with what she wants. One of the comments that she shared and we've talked about is essentially from her point - whats the point in denying me more if it only gives her less sex too. And what we've talked about is what she's said already, the Frank isn't the guy who would want her much more often and he's certainly not the kind of guy who will make demands (requests?) of her.
Anyway - there's more to share but Sue just called and she's on her way home so I'll end this post now and save the rest for later or tomorrow.
