A "fairly large percentage" (whatever that means) of men, IMO, find masturbation about as sexually-satisfying as sex with a woman. In a sense, it can be more satisfying. This is because while beating our weenies, we men can focus mentally on the fantasies that most turn us on and orgasm on a time-scale that suits us. Also, we can beat our weenies with nothing more than our hands; hardware (/a toy) is not required.
Yup, I can sure believe that!!
Sex with a woman, by contrast, requires focusing on her and how she is responding in order to bring her to orgasm (we hope), while also focusing on ourselves in order to avoid orgasm too soon (we also hope). This can be *very* satisfying, especially if the woman is highly sexual, but the required division of attention makes it more challenging.
Women, by contrast (IMO), tend to find sex *much* more satisfying if they are stimulated by emotional and psychological interaction with a seductive and sexually-appealing man; even more so if they are not accustomed to predictable sexual procedures with the man because they live with him.
True! True!
In other words, if a married woman can attract lovers and wants to do so (see my previous post), she will almost certainly find sex with her lovers *much* more stimulating than sex with her husband AND considerably more satisfying than sex with her dildos.
Perhaps sometimes in some cases, just for the sense of adventure, I mean.
Of course, this does not preclude women from masturbating by hand and/or using (e.g.) vibrating dildos of whatever size maximizes their pleasure, to attain intense orgasms whenever they have the time and the privacy. But, satisfaction attained "risk free" with a mechanical device evidently does not compare to the emotional/psychological high a married women attains from trysts with her lovers.
( "Adventure" again is the chief motivator - exiting interaction with some "else" who is new and unpredictable, that is.
I assert this because if this were not the case, essentially all unsatisfied married women would masturbate with their dildos (often instead of having sex with their husbands, probably), instead of subjecting themselves to the risk, intrigue, and "time-schedule inconvenience" of taking lovers.
Now, this does not preclude some married women from finding satisfaction with their dildos (in addition to their husbands), and no doubt "some percentage" of married women prefer this to the risk of taking lovers. This preference, I would say, is consistent with the hypothesis in my previous post if one views it in terms of a woman's position on the "female sexuality scale" relative to her husband's position on the "male sexuality scale."
Enough for now. More later, probably.
Yes, all in all, I can buy everything you've mentioned here. It makes a lot of sense to me and I'm really curious about anything else you might like to add as we go along! Thanks again for contributing these interesting perspectives. I'll bet a lot of readers are getting a better perspective on their own feelings and drives because of what they're reading here.
—Custer[/QUOTE]
Yup, I can sure believe that!!
Sex with a woman, by contrast, requires focusing on her and how she is responding in order to bring her to orgasm (we hope), while also focusing on ourselves in order to avoid orgasm too soon (we also hope). This can be *very* satisfying, especially if the woman is highly sexual, but the required division of attention makes it more challenging.
Women, by contrast (IMO), tend to find sex *much* more satisfying if they are stimulated by emotional and psychological interaction with a seductive and sexually-appealing man; even more so if they are not accustomed to predictable sexual procedures with the man because they live with him.
True! True!
In other words, if a married woman can attract lovers and wants to do so (see my previous post), she will almost certainly find sex with her lovers *much* more stimulating than sex with her husband AND considerably more satisfying than sex with her dildos.
Perhaps sometimes in some cases, just for the sense of adventure, I mean.
Of course, this does not preclude women from masturbating by hand and/or using (e.g.) vibrating dildos of whatever size maximizes their pleasure, to attain intense orgasms whenever they have the time and the privacy. But, satisfaction attained "risk free" with a mechanical device evidently does not compare to the emotional/psychological high a married women attains from trysts with her lovers.
( "Adventure" again is the chief motivator - exiting interaction with some "else" who is new and unpredictable, that is.
I assert this because if this were not the case, essentially all unsatisfied married women would masturbate with their dildos (often instead of having sex with their husbands, probably), instead of subjecting themselves to the risk, intrigue, and "time-schedule inconvenience" of taking lovers.
Now, this does not preclude some married women from finding satisfaction with their dildos (in addition to their husbands), and no doubt "some percentage" of married women prefer this to the risk of taking lovers. This preference, I would say, is consistent with the hypothesis in my previous post if one views it in terms of a woman's position on the "female sexuality scale" relative to her husband's position on the "male sexuality scale."
Enough for now. More later, probably.
Yes, all in all, I can buy everything you've mentioned here. It makes a lot of sense to me and I'm really curious about anything else you might like to add as we go along! Thanks again for contributing these interesting perspectives. I'll bet a lot of readers are getting a better perspective on their own feelings and drives because of what they're reading here.
—Custer[/QUOTE]