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Wife Exclusive to BF for awhile... Then back to me (REAL)
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Update on Brenda and Maury
Hi folks,
Sorry I haven't been around on here, but things have really gotten intense. I've never seen Brenda fall so hard for a man. I thought she had been really into Ramiro, her most recent boyfriend before, but there is no comparison.
As it turns out, although he is an educated man with a refined and suave personality, Maury is has a dominant and aggressive nature-- and Brenda is discovering, or realizing, that she is basically submissive and likes to be dominated. He isn't mean spirited or demeaning, or anything like that. Rather, he enjoys having a "take charge" role sexually. Amazingly, Brenda is the first white woman that Maury has been sexually involved with, just as Maury is Brenda's first black man.
Maury still doesn't know that I am aware of Brenda's affair with him. She just doesn't feel ready to explain that part of our relationship. However, Maury has made it clear to Brenda that he cannot handle the thought of her being sexual with anyone but him because, as he told her, "You are my woman, and I don't wanna share my woman!" Brenda did, however, tell Maury that she is committed to her marriage, and implied that I have lost interest in sex. Maury responded, "I'm not looking for another wife, so your marriage is safe-- but you are still my woman!"
When we are together, Brenda and I cuddle and share our thoughts and feelings. She told me that when Maury and her make love, it's like he totally owns her, fills her completely, and ravishes her like a "rag doll," as she puts it. She loves the way he takes control, and copulates with her in an almost animalistic way. Even though Maury talks more like a white guy in public (like Obama, perhaps), he occasionally digresses into "ghetto-speak" in the bedroom. I just about shot my load when she told me that Maury sometimes, when thrusting deeply into her, would say, "Does my woman like her nigga?".. and similar stuff.
Brenda has been seeing Maury about 2-3 times a week, usually at his apartment, but likes to have him stay with her at our house when I'm away on business. Last weekend he took her to the beach for the weekend, and Brenda told me that they made love so much, her pussy had gotten really sore. Interestingly, when they go out in public, Maury is still the perfect gentleman, highly intelligent and educated, nothing like the person he becomes in the bedroom.
Brenda continues to assure me that, as always, she would end things with Maury if I asked. However, she also said that she hopes that things will go on with Maury for a long time, and that she feels so possessed by him. I have assured her that as long as I know that she loves me, I will take a back seat, sexually, for as long as she needs and desires Maury to be her exclusive lover, her man! When I say that, Brenda has a big smile and twinkle in her eye, and gives me a big kiss!
I am hoping that Brenda will eventually have the courage to tell Maury that I know and approve of the affair. I would love to be in the house when Brenda and Maury are making love. She tells me that he is very vocal, so I'm sure it would be quite entertaining to hear them outside the bedroom door.
Rick
Hi folks,
Sorry I haven't been around on here, but things have really gotten intense. I've never seen Brenda fall so hard for a man. I thought she had been really into Ramiro, her most recent boyfriend before, but there is no comparison.
As it turns out, although he is an educated man with a refined and suave personality, Maury is has a dominant and aggressive nature-- and Brenda is discovering, or realizing, that she is basically submissive and likes to be dominated. He isn't mean spirited or demeaning, or anything like that. Rather, he enjoys having a "take charge" role sexually. Amazingly, Brenda is the first white woman that Maury has been sexually involved with, just as Maury is Brenda's first black man.
Maury still doesn't know that I am aware of Brenda's affair with him. She just doesn't feel ready to explain that part of our relationship. However, Maury has made it clear to Brenda that he cannot handle the thought of her being sexual with anyone but him because, as he told her, "You are my woman, and I don't wanna share my woman!" Brenda did, however, tell Maury that she is committed to her marriage, and implied that I have lost interest in sex. Maury responded, "I'm not looking for another wife, so your marriage is safe-- but you are still my woman!"
When we are together, Brenda and I cuddle and share our thoughts and feelings. She told me that when Maury and her make love, it's like he totally owns her, fills her completely, and ravishes her like a "rag doll," as she puts it. She loves the way he takes control, and copulates with her in an almost animalistic way. Even though Maury talks more like a white guy in public (like Obama, perhaps), he occasionally digresses into "ghetto-speak" in the bedroom. I just about shot my load when she told me that Maury sometimes, when thrusting deeply into her, would say, "Does my woman like her nigga?".. and similar stuff.
Brenda has been seeing Maury about 2-3 times a week, usually at his apartment, but likes to have him stay with her at our house when I'm away on business. Last weekend he took her to the beach for the weekend, and Brenda told me that they made love so much, her pussy had gotten really sore. Interestingly, when they go out in public, Maury is still the perfect gentleman, highly intelligent and educated, nothing like the person he becomes in the bedroom.
Brenda continues to assure me that, as always, she would end things with Maury if I asked. However, she also said that she hopes that things will go on with Maury for a long time, and that she feels so possessed by him. I have assured her that as long as I know that she loves me, I will take a back seat, sexually, for as long as she needs and desires Maury to be her exclusive lover, her man! When I say that, Brenda has a big smile and twinkle in her eye, and gives me a big kiss!
I am hoping that Brenda will eventually have the courage to tell Maury that I know and approve of the affair. I would love to be in the house when Brenda and Maury are making love. She tells me that he is very vocal, so I'm sure it would be quite entertaining to hear them outside the bedroom door.
Rick
This gives me hope ...
This story gives me hope that my situation will also work out in the end as well. My wife has been with her boyfriend for coming up on 4 years and things couldn't have gone more perfectly for us. Our sex life has gradually decreased from unsatisfying sex for her to blowjobs/handjobs only then finally to months at a time without any sex. She has talked about permanently ending the sexual part of our marriage and we just made plans for a trip where her boyfriend will be joining us for a few days while I stay at a different hotel.
She seems much happier these days and our marriage is just as strong as ever. She would tell me that we would fight more often in years past because she was so sexually frustrated and tried to avoid it at all costs. We now have two beautiful daughters and no one on the outside would think anything was different about us than your average next door neighbor. We are just as much in love as the day we met.
Hopefully our journey can be just as mutually satisfying as the one described here. Good luck and hope you keep sending in the updates.
This story gives me hope that my situation will also work out in the end as well. My wife has been with her boyfriend for coming up on 4 years and things couldn't have gone more perfectly for us. Our sex life has gradually decreased from unsatisfying sex for her to blowjobs/handjobs only then finally to months at a time without any sex. She has talked about permanently ending the sexual part of our marriage and we just made plans for a trip where her boyfriend will be joining us for a few days while I stay at a different hotel.
She seems much happier these days and our marriage is just as strong as ever. She would tell me that we would fight more often in years past because she was so sexually frustrated and tried to avoid it at all costs. We now have two beautiful daughters and no one on the outside would think anything was different about us than your average next door neighbor. We are just as much in love as the day we met.
Hopefully our journey can be just as mutually satisfying as the one described here. Good luck and hope you keep sending in the updates.
The thing I see that is different in my marriage, as contrasted with many cuckold relationships I see described on this site, is that Brenda has no problem with me as a lover. Our lovemaking is great, and we are both super satisfied. My penis is not small (though not as large as Maury's or Ramiro's before him), and I pride myself in knowing how to satisfy my wife.
It's just that Brenda enjoys having occasional affairs as a "change in pace," but has difficulty being sexually involved with more than one man simultaneously. She has said on numerous occasions that if she never had another fling again, she became permanently monogomous with me, she would be happy and fulfilled. But having her affairs are, as she puts it, sort of the "icing on the cake" of our marriage.
For some reason, Brenda seems to get, well, bored with her outside affairs after awhile, usually 4-6 months. Maybe "bored" is too strong a word-- it's more like she really misses me. After time goes by and she has remained exclusive to her boyfriend for awhile, she gets a gradually building "itch" to renew our sexual relationship-- and when that happens, it's explosive.
When Brenda and I made love for the first time after things ended with Ramiro, she was ravishing me like an animal, cumming over and over, and saying to me repeatedly, "Oh, Brian, GOD I missed you!"
Well, right now, Brenda is totally enamoured with Maury. She just can't get enough of him. But, as always, time will start wearing down the "newness" of their passion, and she will want and need to complete the circle by coming back to me sexually.
For me, this pattern is sometimes frustrating, but mostly exciting. Sometimes I wish that Brenda could simply have two lovers in her life simultaneously, but she just isn't wired that way. For her, sex is a total immersion, body and spirit, with one man. In any event, for me, it's definitely worth the wait each time she takes a sexual break from our marriage, and gives her sexuality completely to another man.
At this point, it seems that Brenda is going to want Maury for the longer end of her typical affair period. It's okay. I know she loves me, and it will eventually run its course, as they all do.
On a related note, Brenda has told me that she intends to let Maury in on our little secret soon, maybe tonight. Right now, she's in the shower, getting ready to spend the evening with Maury. She was with him Monday evening, and came home around midnight, put on her nightie, climbed into bed, and snuggled close against me. God, it was so erotic, as I could smell Maury's cologne on her, and a slight scent of sweat. In my mind, I could imagine Maury's semen deep inside my Brenda, and it was so difficult to sleep.
What a life!
Rick
It's just that Brenda enjoys having occasional affairs as a "change in pace," but has difficulty being sexually involved with more than one man simultaneously. She has said on numerous occasions that if she never had another fling again, she became permanently monogomous with me, she would be happy and fulfilled. But having her affairs are, as she puts it, sort of the "icing on the cake" of our marriage.
For some reason, Brenda seems to get, well, bored with her outside affairs after awhile, usually 4-6 months. Maybe "bored" is too strong a word-- it's more like she really misses me. After time goes by and she has remained exclusive to her boyfriend for awhile, she gets a gradually building "itch" to renew our sexual relationship-- and when that happens, it's explosive.
When Brenda and I made love for the first time after things ended with Ramiro, she was ravishing me like an animal, cumming over and over, and saying to me repeatedly, "Oh, Brian, GOD I missed you!"
Well, right now, Brenda is totally enamoured with Maury. She just can't get enough of him. But, as always, time will start wearing down the "newness" of their passion, and she will want and need to complete the circle by coming back to me sexually.
For me, this pattern is sometimes frustrating, but mostly exciting. Sometimes I wish that Brenda could simply have two lovers in her life simultaneously, but she just isn't wired that way. For her, sex is a total immersion, body and spirit, with one man. In any event, for me, it's definitely worth the wait each time she takes a sexual break from our marriage, and gives her sexuality completely to another man.
At this point, it seems that Brenda is going to want Maury for the longer end of her typical affair period. It's okay. I know she loves me, and it will eventually run its course, as they all do.
On a related note, Brenda has told me that she intends to let Maury in on our little secret soon, maybe tonight. Right now, she's in the shower, getting ready to spend the evening with Maury. She was with him Monday evening, and came home around midnight, put on her nightie, climbed into bed, and snuggled close against me. God, it was so erotic, as I could smell Maury's cologne on her, and a slight scent of sweat. In my mind, I could imagine Maury's semen deep inside my Brenda, and it was so difficult to sleep.
What a life!
Rick
Rick,
Thanks for the update. To say your wife's relationship with her new lover sounds steamy would be a vast understatement.
As a point of mild curiosity, how does this:
which implies, obviously, that your wife's lover Maury is married — reconcile with this:
which implies he isn't. I.e., if Maury frequently takes your wife to his apartment (his home, presumably), and if your wife also brings him to your home overnight when you're away, that implies Mauri's wife is either away frequently and sees no evidence of Maury's trysts when she returns; or his wife has no objection to overnight trysts at her and your homes. Also, Maury evidently has no problem getting sufficient time away from his wife to take your wife to the beach for a weekend, which obviously implies his wife has no objection to that either; and, furthermore, Maury... despite being a "respectable married man"... is unconcerned with being seen in public with "another woman."
Are Maury and his wife "extreme swingers," so much so she's highly disinclined to be jealous of all the time he spends with other women, or what...?
If you could fill in some additional explanation, perhaps that would clarify your wife's hot-and-steamy-sounding relationship with her current evidently-married lover.
Thanks—
Custer
*Sorry if this seems picky, but hey — as an attorney, no doubt you appreciate the importance of stories being, or at least seeming, self-consistent.
Thanks for the update. To say your wife's relationship with her new lover sounds steamy would be a vast understatement.
As a point of mild curiosity, how does this:
radicalguy said:
which implies, obviously, that your wife's lover Maury is married — reconcile with this:
radicalguy said:
which implies he isn't. I.e., if Maury frequently takes your wife to his apartment (his home, presumably), and if your wife also brings him to your home overnight when you're away, that implies Mauri's wife is either away frequently and sees no evidence of Maury's trysts when she returns; or his wife has no objection to overnight trysts at her and your homes. Also, Maury evidently has no problem getting sufficient time away from his wife to take your wife to the beach for a weekend, which obviously implies his wife has no objection to that either; and, furthermore, Maury... despite being a "respectable married man"... is unconcerned with being seen in public with "another woman."
Are Maury and his wife "extreme swingers," so much so she's highly disinclined to be jealous of all the time he spends with other women, or what...?
If you could fill in some additional explanation, perhaps that would clarify your wife's hot-and-steamy-sounding relationship with her current evidently-married lover.
Thanks—
Custer
*Sorry if this seems picky, but hey — as an attorney, no doubt you appreciate the importance of stories being, or at least seeming, self-consistent.
radicalguy said:
Tell me Rick last time she was bored with her lover. She never gets bored. Ramiro left her that's a fact that you've stated. Wendell too left her. It was only David that she left because he posed a threat to your marriage. So Brenda never quits because she gets bored, she quits when she is ****** to because of other issues.
radicalguy said:
I almost understand you. Remember the debate we had about love and lust about body and spirit. It seems now you concur that she puts everything into the relationship with her lovers while you are excluded - not only bodily but spiritually as well.
radicalguy said:
Isn't it cruel that she gave you only a month or so of exclusivity and got enough of you while as you say she is going to want Maury for longer end of her typical affair period.
I enjoy your narrative a lot and I know that you have enough confidence is your Wife that she comes back to you (She indeed has prooven that), but Rick you must accept that you too do not want to make love to her (and not only because she is not wired that way) while she is committed to another man. You too enjoy long periods of denial, while being in the saddle for the period when she finds another lover to replace her old one. Your status is that of a temporary shade that she takes to while she moves from one exciting terrain to another. You are just a filler! I know that sometimes I can be annoying, but it's just a "third person" analysis of the situation that you have so generously shared with us.
Regards
Raks said:
Obviously, my writing ability is woefully inadequate to accurately describe my marriage. You are correct, "bored" is not a correct word. Brenda seems to pick lovers who seem to be guys that she knows would be temporary, due to their situation, or who would have no possibility being any sort of "competition" to me. They are sort of pre-destined to end eventually. I don't know how to explain it any better.
In her current relationship with Maury, as enamoured as she is with him, she has commented that she could never want to be in a committed relationship with him, even if I weren't in the picture.
You are right that our return to the sexual part of our marriage was shorter than usual after Ramiro, only about 3.5 months, but these things aren't planned. Brenda met Maury when she did--sometimes times vary. In any case, she didn't pursue any sort of relationship with him until she had my blessings. Brenda mentioned that she had met someone she found attractive, but recognized that we hadn't had a long time to "rekindle" our sexual relationship after Ramiro, so she left it up to me. If I said it was too soon, Brenda isn't the sort of person who would pout and otherwise show her displeasure. Maury would have been forgotten, no questions asked. I know Brenda well enough to know this.
The part where my writing is especially deficient is in describing how Brenda immerses herself in a sexual relationship with only one man, "body and spirit." The way I describe it, I can see how a reader may think that Maury "replaces" me in all aspects, as if he becomes her soulmate. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The way Brenda describes it is a sort of "spirituality" aspect of being in a sexual relationship. She cannot separate love and sex, and when she plunges into a sexual relationship, she needs to feel "possessed" by her man, and that involves more than just fucking-- it's a spiritual thing, for lack of a better description.
On the other hand, I am Brenda's lifemate, her soulmate, the person she has committed her life to, and the one with whom she will remain until the day one of us dies. There's a level of deep love and trust that transcends mere sexual spirituality. I am Brenda's rock, the one she knows will never leave her, come hell or high water. We are in this journey called "life" to the end. I wish I could explain it better than that, but I guess you would have to be living my life to truly understand.
Rick
radicalguy said:
You are definitely right. I have to be living your life to truly understand. This is probably why I do not understand many things in your relationship, but I do enjoy discussing it out with you (And I hope you do as well. If you do not, tell me so and I will stop commenting on your story..No I won't stop reading it). What i could not understand earlier and still do not is that yes she sought your blessings..agreed. But if she knew that she was handing you the short end of stick she should (Again this is perspective of the third person) refrained from it by self. But clearly Maury must have seemed like a such an attractive option that she could not resist and wait and give you the time you deserved after her rather long fling with Ramiro. What if it happens again? What if she deals you the same cards again and cut your short in the process ?
Raks said:
Honestly, I don't feel like I am getting the "short end of the stick." Yes, sometimes there's a "twinge" of frustration, but for me this is vastly outweighed by the thrill I get in knowing that Brenda is in love with, and is being ravished by, someone like Maury. Although the physical side of our relationship is on hold, we share a level of intimacy that is unmatched by most married couples.
I never need to bug Brenda to tell me details of what goes on between her and Maury, she really enjoys sharing EVERYTHING with me, every detail, every feeling. For example, the other night while we were cuddling, she described in detail how Maury penetrates her so deeply, and fills her so completely, that she feels a sort of "good kind" of ache inside, like she can barely accommodate him. When he cums in her, it feels like, at that moment, she is his property. And when he withdraws, she has an empty sensation and needs to be filled by him again.
While Brenda shares these things with me, she squeezes her body against me, and can feel my hard-on pressing against her. She knows she is torturing me, but also knows that I am feeling an exquisite delight from this torture.
But it's not just the sex stuff she shares. Brenda also describes how she feels a sense of being "possessed" that comes from simple things like being held in Maury's muscular arms, walking with him with her delicate hand being held by his big strong one. And she also has a thing for his big lips, the way it feels when he kisses her, very different than me or anyone else she's ever kissed.
Yes, I do consider myself a "cuckold" because I get pleasure from the "pain" I feel by having my wife "owned" by her lover for a period of time, but she never makes negative or humiliating comments to me. It's not like that. But I guess there is a sort of undertone of feeling a twinge of humiliation by virtue of the fact that my wife sexually "belongs" to another man, albeit temporarily. But I have faced the fact that I enjoy the thrill I feel from this. So you see, Brenda and I both get what we need and desire from this unique lifestyle of ours.
But none of this would be pleasurable to me if I didn't feel 100% secure in our relationship, and our love for each other. Brenda has never given me any hint or reason to believe that her affair with any man could pose a threat to our marriage. Because she is also secure in my love for her, she is never afraid or hesitant about sharing her most intimate feelings with me-- and this is a type of "intercourse" that transcends anything I could ever describe with mere words.
Don't worry about asking the questions you pose. Indeed, they are very thought-provoking, and I wouldn't even participate in this forum if I didn't feel the need to tell someone about this very secret part of my marriage. I certainly can't share this with friends or family, and Brenda is even more private than I am. So ask away!
Rick
To Raks: One more thing...
When you ask things like, what if she cuts me "short" again, etc., the question presumes that Brenda simply makes a unilateral decision to begin an affair, and that is that, whether I like it or not. Nothing can be further from the truth. We talk about it extensively BEFORE Brenda becomes really in love with anyone.
In Maury's case, she merely found him attractive and interesting, and then she talked to me about it. If I had expressed a desire for her to wait, it would have been easy for her to just stop talking to him. No big deal. There was never any pressure for me to give my okay, it was just talk. Well, I told her to "go for it," and she did--and now she's "going for it" big time!
Rick
When you ask things like, what if she cuts me "short" again, etc., the question presumes that Brenda simply makes a unilateral decision to begin an affair, and that is that, whether I like it or not. Nothing can be further from the truth. We talk about it extensively BEFORE Brenda becomes really in love with anyone.
In Maury's case, she merely found him attractive and interesting, and then she talked to me about it. If I had expressed a desire for her to wait, it would have been easy for her to just stop talking to him. No big deal. There was never any pressure for me to give my okay, it was just talk. Well, I told her to "go for it," and she did--and now she's "going for it" big time!
Rick
hi rick
how did it go with her time with maury last night and did she tell
him about your deal and if so what did he say about it. and do you think when
he knows that you agree to it going on will he ask more of her at that time. to get more of her or her to agree to more doing more with him. let us know about any updates
how did it go with her time with maury last night and did she tell
him about your deal and if so what did he say about it. and do you think when
he knows that you agree to it going on will he ask more of her at that time. to get more of her or her to agree to more doing more with him. let us know about any updates
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