Wow, I stepped away for a few days (from posting here to let things calm down) and I come back to a pleasant surprise.
Dig - thank you.
Well, the subject of discussion, thought and fantasizing for the weekend was Paul.
Yes, Sue met him for lunch on Friday. The conversation was very interesting. It was a beautiful day out and she said that they were able to talk more easily eating at the outdoor tables than she would have been indoors.
She said he was very complimentary and said that she'd attracted his attention when he'd seen her on line for lunch in some of the past weeks. After some idle talk where she says she was already aware that he was interested in her she said he came out and said "I have to ask you something". She couldn't figure out what why he said that until he said that he didn't want to seem disrespectful (or something like that) but he looked at her and said something like "what's your story?" and pointed to her wedding rings. He said he'd seen her for several weeks (when she was going to her photography class I guess) when she didn't have them on and he said he hadn't realized she had them on when he asked her to meet for lunch.
Now this came out over the weekend but she admitted that she'd obviously already begun to think of him sexually when he'd talked to her last week the first time. And she later told me that she remembered that her less-than-honest situation with Glenn had backfired on her by limiting what could and couldn't happen so when he first started to say something about her rings she was already thinking about how to answer him.
I was actually very interested in what she said. She told me she thought about telling him that we'd been separated for a little while but then she thought that might work against her as he might feel he should leave her alone to repair her marriage. So instead she looked at him and said something like "well, that's a long story". And she told me that she really looked for his body language in what happened next. When he leaned forward towards her, his arms on the table and, as she said, a smile on his face and he said "I'm interested", she said she suddenly felt very "*******" (her words). She took a deep breath and said something in a round-about way that basically said "I"m 53, soon to be 54 years old and my husband lets me have fun when I want to". I wasn't sure where this was going until she said that he smiled and didn't make her feel awkward or uneasy at all and he said "that's nice" and a second later he added "I'd like to get to know each other if you'd like that".
And so it happened. Over the rest of lunch she said she found herself feeling shy, embarassed and very sexy all at the same time but that he was a gentleman even if he did leer a bit more at her as they talked.
He's an accountant at a nearby firm. Not a partner but secure enough to have flexibility in his work-hours. She said he is 45 years old and divorced for "many years". His office is near the shopping center where they met for lunch and his home (condo) is nearby. He lives alone but has 2 older kids who sometimes visit for periods of time but are on their own.
She said they didn't talk about sex at all during lunch. He never asked more about what kind of "fun" or anything like that. Instead they talked about general things - what types of food she liked, what kinds of movies and music. He talked about some of the rock-concerts he's been to including some that we attended too. Towards the end of lunch the conversation moved towards what each of them wanted in their future. Sue said she talked about her and I and our family. Over the weekend she told me more - that when she said that, she wanted to see his response. I told her that I was impressed that she was that on-top of things and had given it that much thought, she said that's why she hadn't told me right away a she wanted to work stuff out in her head. I asked her what she said his answers were. She said that he too mentioned his own family and wanting to spend time with them - but that also wanted to travel and enjoy things like they'd talked about, good food, movies and such too.
When I asked her "so - what else?". She said that she too didn't know what was going to happen next so she used the "I have to get back to work" thing to push the conversation ahead. As she went to get up she said he took her tray and stuff and as he got up with her he casually asked her "can we get together again?". I was eager to hear her answer so she said "sure, next week for lunch again?" And they agreed to meet on Wednesday at a different restaurant. They didn't kiss or anything like that but he did touch her arm when he said "hope you have a great weekend" and she replied back "you too". She said he gave her his business card and then handed her a second one that she put her email address and cellphone number on and gave it back to him.
The smile on her face and the fact that I don't think her feet touched the ground the rest of the afternoon told me that she'd been thrilled by it all. I joked with her that she liked being "asked out on a date". She smiled and hugged me and said that the best part was that she'd been honest with him.
I'll post more about our weekend conversation after lunch.
