TMW - I am accepting a more submissive role in general but Sue would need to push it more if it's something that she would want. I enjoy it when she teases me as she does at times, but I can't really see how it will be with another guy just yet. We've talked about it and so much depends on who he is and how things go. There are times when I can see enjoying it if he took a truly dominant role where as you pointed out, I might even need to ask permission. Again, that wouldn't be something I'd do because of him, but I would do it if it was something that worked for Sue (and, in turn, me). On the other hand, we have also considered what might be if her lover wasn't so comfortable with me around and such. From talking, neither Sue nor I want that, but we can't rule it out, again, depending on who "he" is.