Size
WHY I WENT BLACK - by KYSA BRASWELL
For me, and for most of my active friends, penis size is NOT unimportant. Average to most of us is 5.5 to 6.5 inches in length (I quantify girth as circumference 'around' the cock, but it's enough to know that I like my dicks thick) and I'm indifferent to a man of that size - I want better than average. When I'm dating, above average is all I require unless I'm just looking for dick (through email, ads online, or by personal referrals) and nothing more, then I demand 8+ inches and very thick. Under "normal conditions" of dating when other factors (physical and intellectual compatibility) are important as well, bigger than average is enough. Just average is a "not see again," but without shame to the man. I consider under 7 inches as inadequate, and I do tell my friends that the guy is small, but not to the extent of making fun of him.
Now if a guy is under five inches, that is a different story. I consider him tiny. This probably has to do with several factors, including the female mentality towards men. Making fun of a man's size (or lack of it) is a way of neutralizing the fact that men are physically superior to women. It's common for women to make lewd comments and jokes about a tiny or even a small penis among themselves. It physically vanquishes a man down below that of a woman even if the rest of him is large, muscular and otherwise very masculine.
The involuntary (internal) laugh that happens when many women see a poorly endowed man requires another explanation. When a woman desires a man for sexual purposes it's instinctive that she wants and expects him to be masculine. The most masculine quality of a nude man before me is obviously his penis. So when a woman sees a man for the first time, and he lacks the masculinity that she desires, she experiences deep-rooted displeasure and resentment that he can't provide her with the pleasure she deserves from a real man's cock. I assume the "giggle" is a defense mechanism to overcome the frustration of not being able to fulfill her needs with a potential mate she is considering.
I'm sure the evolution that has occurred through natural selection has engraved its sexual patterns of thinking into our psyches, too. To put it bluntly, women do want to weed out the weenies (through spreading the word or even humiliation to liquidate a man's confidence) for both procreational and recreational purposes.
That's the way I feel and always have felt since I first started being sexually active at the age of 15. I thought my first "love" was average only to found out differently. In fact, he turned out to be very big I soon found out (he was over 9 inches and pretty thick). I found a larger penis felt more pleasurable and conveyed more masculinity than a smaller one and was naïve when I thought ALL GUYS were about his size!
As I dated guys for a while after him, I would laugh and thought it sad and pathetic that they'd pull out their little 6-inchers for me to suck on. But that's all they got: a blowjob, as I wouldn't fuck a guy that small, knowing it would be leading him on to let him fuck me. But that's also probably why sometimes I back off on my true feelings or say that I'm the exception and not the rule when a guy is being polite or I think he's young and impressionable.
Most guys have what girls call a Goldilocks cock - not too small, not too big, but just right. That's actually a good place to be as a man. Your penis will fit with a wider variety of girls, most of whom are content with large enough. Only the first few inches of the vagina have nerve endings, and a girl's pleasure during intercourse comes as much from your penis girth (which indirectly helps to stimulate the clit during penetration and thrust) as length. If length were important to most women, they would all own horse-sized dildos and vibrators. But that's not the case. In college, the girl who had the biggest dildo was one that was 7 inches long, but 7.5 inches in girth!
So while an extra-large cock feels great to some girls, like myself, just as many will find it uncomfortable. Which is where guys will here their girlfriends say something like, "My last boyfriend had a huge penis, but you're just perfect." Don't focus on the old boyfriend's cock size at all. Her perception of his size is probably larger than the reality. (Just like when you're looking at a girl on the street and she says that her boobs are HUGE! You reply, "No, not really....")
More than anything, I have one rule: NEVER HURT A PENIS! I've had guys offer to let me do some pretty seriously painful things to their [small] penises, but I refused, as I love and worship cocks, and just because a guy has the misfortune of owning a smaller one, this does not mean he derives any lesser pleasures from it. I'm sure his orgasms as just as powerful as the 8 and 9-inch guys I've fucked. The difference? The 6-incher can't fuck, and will never be able to fuck and pleasure a girl like the guy with the 9-incher hanging between his thighs!
These are only my personal opinions that are a culmination of my personal experiences and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of other women.
