Well, so far she is keeping her word regarding sex with me and enjoying it! This past Sunday was no exception and was amplified by her not seeing Paul either. We have continued to talk about how we both seem to be more at ease with this less frequent but scheduled schedule for sex between us. I told her that it was working for me very well and she giggled that she could tell! She admitted to me that since my pullback from the extreme denial desires, that she's found it helpful to let herself focus on enjoying me every other week and has found it interesting in sharing with Paul too about how it seems to work for us both. Paul is still surprised at our continued use of condoms but like Sue, he seems to say that it's nothing too weird if it's what we both want and what turns us both on.
I did ask about the overnight and she reminded me that she'd always said she wanted to have that with him and she admitted that she does truly like making-love with him and enjoying the time afterwards and "feeling like his" and she asked me if that still turned me on - which was a rhetorical question because she knew my answer was yes. We talked for a little while and she again assured me that now that we are back to enjoying each other, that her time with him seemed to return to being more physical at least in terms of how she feels about it. As we talked she eventually said that cumming with me again (or as she said "truly cumming") had taken some of the emotional edge (my words) off of what she was feeling with Paul. And she then teased me mercilessly about "getting that condom on and finding out" what she was feeling with him.
I don't know who is still reading my posts here other than Peak - but I wanted to end this post with some things that I shared in a chatroom. the conversation was with a lovely woman named Jennifer - and yes, by her answers and perspectives, it was obvious she was a woman. The subject was how she felt about sex with a man with and without a condom. At first she admitted that it was very erotic to go bare with a man and to let him cum inside her - and she admitted to it being far more of a mental thing to her in accepting and wanting his cum in her - than it was from a pleasure or a sexual fulfillment aspect. I mentioned that my wife will often experience more intense climaxes with Paul after he cums in her, something she doesn't share with me because of condoms. She said that to her, it is nice and enjoyable and she too admitted to "feeling more" but she said that it was mainly physical and not anything else to her. In the ensuing discussion she said to me that for a woman - it is more the act of spreading her legs and allowing another man into her than whether he is bare or not. As we chatted for just a few more minutes, I asked her if she thought it was mainly a guy thing about how I (we?) feel about that as a big part about sex. She said that she understands that it is significant for a guy but that the intensity of the jealousy or other feelings about it - at least she thinks - are misplaced and that it's not the end when he cums in her that is significant - that it is the beginning when she accepts that she wants him. She admitted that my arousal at giving that up is significant for me and she said much of what Sue has said, that she thinks its beautiful that I would give that up and that it's very sexy too, but much of that she said is in my head. Which sort of aligns with what Sue has said that there's nothing weird about it, etc.
Sorry about rambling there but it was rare for me to get another female perspective. It was nice to hear that she found it sexy and would find it equally arousing if her own husband wanted to do that with her. It made me feel good about things if nothing else.
Gotta run.
