I suspect the first of many interesting conversations along these lines Steve. Already you floating away from your grounding into your own headspace thinking about the denial. I can see how it excites you. Don't imagine that you pulling on a condom only has the effect of making you excited though. You are currently experiencing what Sue regards as her best (from her perspective) sex with you, and it doesn't involve condoms. So the effect from her in asking / compelling you to use them acts only to deaden her feelings of sex with you in order to sharpen the sex with Paul. It is this withdrawal from full sensation with you, not the sex with him, that creates the risk. You have all summer to talk it through though, and most of that to re-cement in both your minds how good it can be between you. I would suggest you savour these moments for what they are, rather than what they will become closer to the denial period. At that time, your angst will start cutting across the pure feelings between you and make you enjoy the sessions more because they are the last before denial, and less because they are the best connections. Either way, it seems Sue is getting her side going by planning ahead in her head. It's good that you have already started to give her feedback that says there are limits to what you can accept / enjoy. She needs to know these as much as the areas you say you enjoy.
