koreanslut said:
I hoped I would have time to write more tonight, but I don't. And given my schedule, I doubt I will again until the end of the week. Sorry to disappoint!
KS,
Someone said "You're not our monkey". Dammit, I wish you were my monkey. I would strap you in front of a terminal and only give you a food reward (maybe half a banana) when you produced another post.
Maybe we should take up a collection here to pay your salary so you have more time?
Since you are pressed for time, maybe you can post a few digits and a name to answer a burning question I have: How many times have you had intercourse with Min-Ju since KA left? If it's a small number, who's holding back: you or Min-Ju? How many white pills were in the "not for you" envelope?
More generally, I hope you're not losing interest in describing what happened. Of everything that happened during that week, 95% of it happened out of view, and it must have been amazing. We've only gotten a tiny fraction of the story, and I, for one, want to know a lot more.
For you, posting must enhance the experience. It helps you to comprehend it, as well as re-enjoying it and maybe getting some suggestions. It's also a journal you can use to remember, for yourself and for stories to tell Min-Ju. If you stop posting on this, it means you've moved on mentally, and I think it would be a real mistake to do that until you've absorbed what happened this time. You did this for the experience, but you haven't really fully experienced it until you've gone back through it enough to comprehend it intellectually and emotionally (which is really hard).
On a related note, I'd STRONGLY advise that you and Min-Ju leave third parties out of your sexual relationship until you have reviewed with her everything that happened enough that you've both gotten used to it. You've had this flood of new experiences and you need to make them your own and reach a new understanding of your relationship before moving on.
I emphasized "partnership" in a previous post. Since you were apart so much, you and Min-Ju need to relive each other's experiences to reinforce that partnership. It's also how you will learn about each other emotionally and sexually. In particular, you need to understand more about what turns her on, which is different from what turns you on. Basic questions, like what made KA so great in bed (for her), why did he have such an effect on her, really need to be answered (to the extent that she knows -- I understand that there may be strong subconscious factors that she can't access). What were the most intense and exciting moments for her?
On that same theme, I really think she understands you pretty well now and is an expert at pushing boundaries to the point where she maximizes your excitement without causing disaster (with one possible exception, for a later post). But I don't think you're necessarily as good at doing that for her. You're not bad, but I question whether you really understand her sexuality to the point where you can create an experience for her that compares with what she has done for you. Suggestion: Set aside your own fetishes for a bit, and focus your entire mental energy on her sexual desires, needs, and mental erogenous zones. My reading is that are some things that she would dearly love to experience with you alone, maybe just for you to act more like KA sometimes or maybe something else. You should figure out how to do those things for her. You want to make her happy, and you'll find it incredibly exciting. Maybe it will help for you to think of yourself as her sexual servant, even if she doesn't understand that that's what you're doing (because it's incompatible with making her submissive, which she seems to like in the right dosage).
If I were you, I would feel a certain amount of outrage (in a stimulating, not a bad way) at all the things she did for KA that she doesn't do for you (even though she did what you asked and wanted). If so, you should tell her that, as her husband, you are ENTITLED to be served the same way KA was (for awhile). I bet she would love that!
When you get a chance to post at length, which I hope is very soon, here are some things that I consider priorities (of course, I'll enjoy whatever I get):
You haven't described what happened Tuesday night between going to the store with Min-Ju and hearing her in the shower the next morning. You hinted that it was something amazing. You've told us the major events from your perspective, except for this major gap. I want to know what happened just as you experienced it.
It's great that you started retelling what happened from Min-Ju's point of view. Before KA left, your experience largely consisted of wondering what they were doing. She was actually experiencing those things! And her experiences must have been much more intense than yours! I'm REALLY eager to hear what she tells you.
Your most recent description started when she was first alone in the apartment with him. Of course, I want to hear what happens next!
I would also like to know a little about what was going on just before that:
(1) What was it like for her on the taxi ride back from the airport? Was her heart hammering?
(2) What was it like for her booting you out of the apartment? Did she plan to do it so abruptly, without so much as a goodbye kiss?
(3) (MORE IMPORTANT) What did KA know? Had she promised to sleep with him, or was he unclear about that? Did she have to explain your cooperation with their affair at that point?
I'm planning to post on another topic, and thenI'll try to hang back until you have time to post some more. But I'll still be checking for updates every 10 minutes, even though I know you said you probably won't post until the end of the week.
