Lifelong cuck,
Re.: "My wife has been doing this to me for almost 30 years now and she still believes I don't know she's been fucked by somebody before she comes home to me."
I assume you're putting us on. Your wife has been fucking other men for 30 years without saying anything to you about it, and she honestly appears to believe you don't know? For real? Thirty years of (attempted) deception is a lot of (attempted) deception. I have to say, it lends real meaning to the concept of a "conspiracy of silence."
Surely, there must be some way to bring this out into the open, and let her know that in addition to accepting her need to take lovers, you *admire* her strong sexuality and love her more because of it than you would otherwise...—?
Always attempting to conceal that aspect of her life and pretend it isn't happening must take a lot of your wife's energy. I would think it must take a toll, in some sense. Surely she could be brought, somehow, to recognize the wisdom of the old saying: "Always tell the truth, because then you don't have to remember what you said previously."
I strongly suspect getting your wife there would involve convincing her that her relationship with you, and yours with her, would improve substantially if she were to acknowledge to you that her need for sexual satisfaction exceeds what you can give her, and you not only accept that but would love her more if both of you were to acknowledge and accept it... and you are fully capable of that.
—Custer