Steve,
I would like to take a moment to congratulate you on your journey year to date and for taking the time to make Mothers Day weekend a special time for Sue.
It is good that your wife was able to spending some time with your daughter and enjoying some pampering time in as they were getting mani-pedi’s done. As you have mentioned, there is truly something good about getting mani-pedi’s done due to how it makes a person feel and as you noted, Sue’s nail-polish is sometimes all she has on when she's with Paul.
As you mentioned, being beta does bring about a realization and appreciation of your relationship with Sue. It is great that you have reached that point in your relationship were you would never take Sue for granted on any level. You are clearly now in the mind set of a true beta husband, you also remind me of a man that is taking an approach that is actually pretty common in the FLR community. There is something to be said when a woman/wife takes the lead in many aspects of the marriage and takes control of the sexual side of the marriage. You have clearly transitioned and as you said, for now, the thought of her sleeping next to him with his semen leaking out of both her holes is amazing to think about. Congratulations…
As to the talk about romantic environments, restaurants and activities, it is amazing how we each interpret what romantic is. So many people seem to think you cannot be romantic without sexual contact; so many people seem to think you cannot have intimacy without sexual contact. At some point others that follow your story will see and understand that a couple can be romantic and intimate without being sexual.
In reality, being romantic can be as simple as an expression of love, amorous, tenderness, attitude and affection. This could include something as simple as "a romantic candlelit dinner", conversations, interactions, and while it may be sexual in nature it truly can be accomplished without being sexual. This can also be said about intimacy; as intimacy can be as simple as familiarity, closeness, affection, and yes while it may be sexual in nature it truly can be accomplished without being sexual. You and Sue have reach a point where you both can have a romantic evening out together and also continue to maintain a level of intimacy within your marriage even while knowing that your interrelationship sexual connection has evolved.
This is a journey that you and Sue have taken together as a couple and even with the inclusion of Paul within your relationship you still are in this as a couple. It is clear that Paul will be in the relationship at least up until the time you and Sue relocate as you mentioned in the past and even than it is likely that she will continue to always desire to have another man within the relationship. It will always be a positive move to continue to maintain the non-sexual intimacy and romantic nature of your marriage. Be the husband, and be the best friend that Sue needs you to be. This can be done while maintain your beta preferences.
SS