Hey Redheads — so go ahead with the hidden cam in your bedroom. You don't need to video-record your wife fucking her boss every time they do it. You just need to video-record them once. Then you'll have the "hot porn movie" you need to show to your wife (starring her). Bishot has suggested a method for doing it.redheads said:
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Wife with her boss
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Custer Laststand said:
Once you have it on video, she won't be able to deny having sex with him. And she will see that it turns you on. And you will have evidence that may give you a bit of leverage, so that you can get what you want out of their sexual relationship, too. It's a win-win-win.
I would love to see the pic of her sitting on his lap, if you want to share.
Ok. My wife has confessed she has fucked her boss She told me a whole story how in 2018, her boss supported her emotionally, when i was not supporting her. This lead to a sexual relationship in 2019 and they have been having sex for a year.
But she added that she wants to leave him now, especially when they are not getting along in work. She said she wants to quit his firm and leave him for good. She said she still loves me, despite me not being there when she needed me.
Im so shocked right now, Im in my car as I write this. I just walked out on her.
Im getting strange feelings, huge shock yet sexual arousal aswell
What should i do at this point? Also is she lying about quitting and loving me?
But she added that she wants to leave him now, especially when they are not getting along in work. She said she wants to quit his firm and leave him for good. She said she still loves me, despite me not being there when she needed me.
Im so shocked right now, Im in my car as I write this. I just walked out on her.
Im getting strange feelings, huge shock yet sexual arousal aswell
What should i do at this point? Also is she lying about quitting and loving me?
Very good, Redheads. Excellent, in fact. You got exactly what you wanted from your wife — an admission that she's been having an affair with her boss. And, if your wife's boss provided her with emotional support at a time when she needed it, but you did not, their sexual affair is not surprising.redheads said:
That's not surprising. Apparently office affairs with a boss (or a co-worker) last about 6 months, on average. If so, your wife's affair with her boss lasted significantly longer than average.redheads said:
This is not surprising either, since ending an affair with one's boss (or a co-worker), but then staying with the job, is sort of like getting divorced, but then having to continue living in the same home with one's former spouse. Hopefully your wife is confident she'll be able to get another job (this being early Nov. 2020, the time of the severe coronavirus recession), if the two of you need her income in addition to yours.redheads said:
That's a plus. And, that was also an indirect way of telling you a "time when she needs you" is right now.redheads said:
Why? You already knew your wife was having an affair with her boss.redheads said:
That was a very bad thing to have done. Your wife told you what you badly wanted her to tell you (and which you already knew). She also told you (somewhat indirectly) she needs your emotional support right now. You should have given it to her. Instead, you told her, with your actions, that you were rejecting her need for your emotional support.redheads said:
Go with your feelings of sexual arousal, and rise above your so-called feelings of "shock." Since your wife confessed a "secret" to you she found difficult, awkward and probably embarrassing (that she was having an affair with her boss), I strongly suggest you now confess your deep (and perhaps awkward and embarrassing) secret to her: that you have been secretly aroused and become erect when thinking about her fucking another man — her boss (who is a black or mostly-black man).redheads said:
Your wife is probably telling the truth about that, I would guess. But, if you confess your secret that you're turned on by thoughts of her, your wife, fucking a black (or mostly black) man, and your strongest desire is that she tell you in detail about her extramarital sexual trysts, and perhaps even let you watch when she and an extramarital lover feel comfortable with that, and if your wife agrees to these things, then it won't matter whether she is or is not telling you the truth about ending her affair with her boss and quitting her job. If she continues her affair with her boss and tells you in detail about her trysts with him, your deep desire will be satisfied.redheads said:
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redheads said:
If you truly love her and if this lifestyle is something that you are truly seeking to pursue; talk to her, be open with her, attempt to have a judgment free discussion as a couple. Take note on @Custer Laststand recommendation, he typically is on point.
The shock should pass pretty quickly, since in your heart I think you already knew what they were doing, and also since part of you wanted this.
I think Custer and Squirmingsub are right, now that she has come clean it's your turn and you need to tell her that her having sex with him arouses you. This is your chance to put it all in the table, and maybe both of you can move on to a new and exciting sex life together with more honesty (and no secrets).
At any rate, I'm glad you know now, and I hope it all works out for the best.
I think Custer and Squirmingsub are right, now that she has come clean it's your turn and you need to tell her that her having sex with him arouses you. This is your chance to put it all in the table, and maybe both of you can move on to a new and exciting sex life together with more honesty (and no secrets).
At any rate, I'm glad you know now, and I hope it all works out for the best.
Bishot said:
You're right, the shock has mostly passed now, mostly it is arousal now. I haven't talked to my wife since yesterday, she is at work still. I am kind of excited now that I can openly talk to her about her having sex with the boss. what should I say to her at this point?
I was thinking that I will directly tell her that I want her to have sex with BBC, I will tell her that since she has cheated me, she has to this for me, she has to fulfill my fantasy. I will say, this is the only way our relationship will improve and this is is the only way I will forgive her for cheating me. Do you guys think she will agree?
I know few black men, who will be willing to bang her, she just has to agree. Lets see what she says to this, it's making me really excited
redheads said:
Simply amazing -- while I typically recommend speaking openly to a partner, to a spouse about each others fantasies, I would NEVER recommend a partner/spouse threatening the other or telling the other that they owe them something because of cheating or affair. So if the only way you will forgive her is if she will perform your fantasy; while that might work for you, it would not work for many relationships and will likely back fire on you as you both will develop a tit-4-tat point system and there could/would be some underlying resentment at some point. If that is how you feel, you might should consider a separation or divorce. I would reconsider your approach.
Maybe you should have a simply open judgment free conversation were you both truly listen to each other, with your wife before you jump to the point of saying that she owes you something so you will forgive her.
Good. It sounds like you're gradually moving toward the right view of your relationship with your wife.redheads said:
If you've been refusing to talk with your wife or treating her coldly since you stormed out of the house after she admitted to having an affair with her boss, that's not good. You should treat her normally (be friendly), then have a serious and honest conversation with her as soon as possible, when the two of you are alone together. Try to create a romantic atmosphere for your talk, like candles and soft music in the evening.redheads said:
See below, after I reply to your additional comments.redheads said:
That's a bad idea. Your wife is a person in her own right; she doesn't "have" to do anything for you. If you do not provide her with what she needs now — gentle emotional support and assurances that you understand why she needed a sexual relationship with her boss, but you love her anyway (then kiss her deeply and sincerely) — but instead lay demands on her that seem to her to be harsh — she may leave you.redheads said:
Probably not. I think that approach is too harsh. Your wife's affair with her boss may not have been based on him being a black (or mostly black) man, but rather on their boss / subordinate relationship combined with them being in more-or-less close contact every day, plus him being willing to "understand her" and provide her with emotional support at time when she needed that (or so it seems to me, from what you've said).redheads said:
Being excited about it is good (for you, internally), but I recommend not "seeming excited" when you talk with your wife about it. Rather, I recommend discussing it calmly with her, sort of like you're discussing plans for an upcoming weekend or vacation.redheads said:
First, I suggest doing the above: create an evening with a romantic atmosphere, preferably with candles and soft music in your home. Then, spend the evening asking her (calmly, in an interested way) why she felt the need to have a sexual relationship with her boss. Try to bring out her emotional reasons, and why she felt you were not being supportive of her at that time — but absolutely do not be accusatory or try to induce guilt-feelings. Listen carefully.... do not interrupt her... as she tells you about the beginnings of her affair. Then, ask her how her sexual relationship with her boss developed through time. Again listen carefully, do not interrupt her. Cuddle with her on your couch while she's talking. Kiss her during pauses. When your wife has finished telling you all about her affair, with you asking her only gentle and reasonable questions (nothing accusatory, make no demands), tell her you want her to know you still love her. Then, kiss her deeply. You might also show her you love her with your actions, afterwards. Make love to her gently (don't just fuck her), and try to bring her to an orgasm.
Then (the next evening, if possible), again create a romantic atmosphere in your home.... i.e., candles and soft music.... for an additional conversation with your wife. This time, confess that you too have a secret you'd like to share with her. (Her interest will perk up.) It is that whenever you thought about her boss's black (or brown) cock pushing into her white married pussy, you found yourself feeling turned on and getting hard, in spite of yourself. Go on to say you've found, online, that more and more couples are adopting a hotwife / cuckold husband form of relationship and finding it rewarding. That is, a form of marriage in which, by mutual agreement, the wife is free to date, seduce and fuck whoever she wants, while the husband agrees to remain faithful (and actually does). Tell her you've found two articles on marriages of this nature you think she might be interested in, and you hope she will read them. They are:
The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/
The Science of Cuckoldry
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/
(Note, however, the second article is not "science" in the sense that it has not been published in a peer-reviewed scientific journal [apparently]. Rather, like the first article, it should be interpreted as opinion based on the author's experience.)
Then, tell your wife you hope she will give these articles some thought. As before, cuddle with her on your couch during this second conversation, perhaps kissing her from time to time — then, when you've finished talking, tell her again you love her deeply, and conclude with a deep and passionate kiss.
This is definitely a plus. You're a leg up, so to speak, if you know one or more black men you think would like to fuck your wife. But, I don't suggest proposing thet straight out, to begin with. It's too soon. Rather, I suggest a more indirect approach, like finding an excuse to get your black friend you think is the best candidate over for an evening of drinks — maybe to watch a game on TV. Then, during the game, "discover" you're almost out of beer, and make a run to a liquor store to buy more. That will give your friend and your wife some time to get more closely acquainted, and things can progress from there (but probably not that first evening.... I would guess you will need to give your wife some time to become comfortable with being alone with a black man).redheads said:
I hope this goes well for you.
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I have to agree that backing her into a corner and telling her that she has to do this "or else" is not a winning strategy and will probably backfire.
I would have an honest heart to heart talk with her, and try to re-establish trust between the two of you before moving forward with anything. You both need to put your feelings on the table, understand where the other is coming from, and figure out a situation that works for both of you.
You're in a good place to do that, but I think you need to get past the idea of using her behavior against her, to extort her into doing what you want. That will probably lead to the end your marriage, sooner or later.
I would have an honest heart to heart talk with her, and try to re-establish trust between the two of you before moving forward with anything. You both need to put your feelings on the table, understand where the other is coming from, and figure out a situation that works for both of you.
You're in a good place to do that, but I think you need to get past the idea of using her behavior against her, to extort her into doing what you want. That will probably lead to the end your marriage, sooner or later.
Sorry took long since last update. So my wife decided to go back to her office after taking almost 3 weeks off. She told me she can't find any other work and was getting bored at home
This morning was her first day back the office, look what she wore. I took this pic this morning
This morning was her first day back the office, look what she wore. I took this pic this morning
That's OK. Time passes quickly when you're having fun (as well as when you aren't).redheads said:
Sounds like enough time for some contemplation, even if your wife didn't take an actual vacation.redheads said:
I guess that's something she could have predicted....redheads said:
Hm.... sounds like strong motivation for your wife to end her period of contemplation and resume her job along with its benefit, that being, of course, her sexual relationship with her boss.redheads said:
Nice. No doubt your wife's boss will appreciate her attire (as you mentioned).redheads said:
What with all this emphasis on working from home during the coronavirus / COVID-19 pandemic, you might encourage your wife to invite her boss to come to your place from time to time, whether or not you are present, to assist her with "working from home." I mean, hey — now that your sexy wife has admitted she's been fucking her boss for quite a while, you might as well encourage her to begin running toward the next hurdle.... that being, of course, fucking him in front of you.
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I take it you have talked about it now and she knows that she has your blessing to fuck her boss?redheads said:Sorry took long since last update. So my wife decided to go back to her office after taking almost 3 weeks off. She told me she can't find any other work and was getting bored at home
This morning was her first day back the office, look what she wore. I took this pic this morning
