Wife with her boss

[redheads]

have you considered hiring a private detective to follow them?

Not really worth it, like I said, I am almost sure they are having a relationship. Today she just left me because the boss got in to a minor accident apparently, that was 8 hours ago, she is still not home, almost 11pm here now. She texted me two hours ago that she is driving him home, haven't heard from her since, they are probably in bed as we speak. The funny thing is he didn't even inform his wife regarding his minor accident.

 

[redheads]

Expecting your wife and her boss to agree to let you watch them fuck would probably be a bridge too far. For one thing, her boss is married (as you said) so he may feel a need to protect his reputation. If you know he's fucking your wife (because he does it in front of you), you would be able to blackmail him by threatening to tell his wife unless he does something you want (give your wife a raise, for instance). Another consideration would be that your wife seems to want to protect her reputation vis-a-vis you as a respectable married woman.

Thus, you'll probably be better off adopting an intermediate goal, such as gently guiding your wife toward realizing it's OK to be open with telling you she's having an affair with her boss during their late-night hours at the office. A way to approach it may be to propose, while you're in bed together on a weekend, that you confess your sexual fantasies to each other. If your wife freezes up and says she doesn't have any (as she might), don't try to push her. Rather, tell her gently and sincerely that your fantasy is that you would be deeply turned on if you knew she was seeing other men and having passionate orgasms with them. That knowing other men find her so attractive they want to seduce her and take her to bed, and she responds to that, would cause you to love her even more deeply than you already do. Then, don't push her to tell you a fantasy of her own. Rather, let that sink in. And, on work days when your wife comes home from a late night at the office, ask her in a good-humored way how it's going with her boss — while smiling and perhaps winking, as if the two of you are sharing a secret.

Simultaneously, you might consider moving forward with a strategy along the lines of the 8-part article that begins here:

A Wife Into a Hotwife:
http://www.hotwifeblog.com/2007/05/23/wife-into-hotwife/

which includes the following sections:

Part I — How can I turn my wife into a hot wife?
Part II — Getting things started
Part III — Other approaches
Part IV — First time with another man
Part V — Navigating some dangerous waters
Part VI — Emotional involvement
Part VII — How a husband copes
Part VIII — Conclusion

The purpose of this would not be to "force your wife to admit" she's having an affair with her boss, but rather to treat her as a normal married woman who finds herself attracted to another man, with all the contradictory feelings that go along with that, then gently guide her toward acceptance of the concept that it's OK to have (or take) a lover, because you want her to increase her sexual satisfaction and psychological well-being and it will cause you to love her all the more.

That's OK; I think you're on the right track, titillating yourself with thoughts and dreams of your wife fucking her boss. Your wet dreams are telling you that whole idea is turning you on. Your challenge is to gently bring it out into the open (between the two of you), without upsetting your wife and initiating arguments by causing her to feel you're accusing her of something undesirable.

True, it would be nice if they are openly cheating, then at least I know and we will be on the same page. I will try again talking to her tonite, though she will as usual ignore talking about her boss or work, not sure why she is trying to hide/avoid the obvious.

 

[Custer Laststand]

True, it would be nice if they are openly cheating, then at least I [would] know and we [would] be on the same page.

If your wife were fucking her boss with your approval and encouragement, she would be cuckolding you (a phenomena experienced by many married men), but arguably she would not be "cheating," right...?

I will try again talking to her tonight, though she will, as usual, ignore talking about her boss or work.

I recommend not trying to talk directly with your wife about her (apparent) affair with her boss, because she obviously regards that as you attempting to pry into aspects of her personal life she prefers to keep secret (as I think I mentioned earlier).

Rather, I suggest mentioning to her... in a friendly and non-confrontational way... that you have run across a couple of articles you consider interesting, and tell her you would appreciate it if she would be willing to read them. They are:

The Cuckold Husband / Hotwife phenomena:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-cuckold-phenomena/

The Science of Cuckoldry:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/

If you feel you cannot do this verbally, in person, you might send this suggestion — along with both links — to her in the form of an e-mail message. That is, try to do it in a way that does not result in immediate hostility or conflict.

Then, give her some time... maybe a couple of days... before you ask your wife (mildly) what her thoughts are about the articles. Even if she says something neutral, or doesn't want to talk about it, you will have planted the seed in her mind. She won't forget that you have brought up her cuckolding of you in a positive way.

I'm not sure why she is trying to hide/avoid the obvious.

My guess would be, it's because — like many married women who take lovers — she's convinced that if she tells you straight-out she's fucking her boss — or she assumes that if she tells you she merely has a close emotional relationship with him, you will assume she's fucking him — then you will probably end her marriage by divorcing her. And, she probably does not want that outcome.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Redheads,

If your wife seems interested in the articles at the above two links (i.e., if she is willing to read them), and since she works and there are thus many demands on her time, no doubt, you might suggest to her she read:

Real Women Don't Do Housework
http://www.rwddh.com/

(keeping in mind, before you turn white-in-the-face, the title is somewhat tongue-in-cheek). This too could be done by e-mail. Suggest to her she start with the "Marriage Quiz," which will come up when she opens the link, then read through the chapters, listed at upper left, one at a time — proceeding accordingly with you, as she does so.

If your wife seems even slightly interested in the above RDDH site, you might then introduce her to:

How to Cuckold your Husband Ch. 01:
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=346742

How to Cuckold Your Husband Ch. 02:
http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=411918

Your goal in this, IMO, should be to convince your wife that you are on her side, and you want to assist her with maximizing her sexual satisfaction and psychological well-being — while, at the same time, convincing yourself that loving her, providing her with emotional support, and her loving you within your marriage, is not equivalent to you "owning" her and demanding her sexual exclusivity. You need to recognize and appreciate that your wife is not your property, like (e.g.) your TV set. She a person in her own right.

—Custer

 

[lnohhnvm]

Not really worth it, like I said, I am almost sure they are having a relationship. Today she just left me because the boss got in to a minor accident apparently, that was 8 hours ago, she is still not home, almost 11pm here now. She texted me two hours ago that she is driving him home, haven't heard from her since, they are probably in bed as we speak. The funny thing is he didn't even inform his wife regarding his minor accident.

more than likely, there was no accident. just a spur of the moment booty call. i will admit, her behavior, as you describe, sure is questionable.

 

[Archie457]

I have to say that if it were my wife exhibiting those behaviors there would be no doubt that she is fucking him. He's her boss, doesn't think he's creepy when he is, defends him from criticism, lets him grab her and otherwise be physical with her, allows that in public, spends a lot of time alone with him, makes up excuses to see him, takes much longer than her excuses can justify....

Yeah, no doubt. That's very close to the way my wife is when she's cheating like that.

 

[redheads]

I have to say that if it were my wife exhibiting those behaviors there would be no doubt that she is fucking him. He's her boss, doesn't think he's creepy when he is, defends him from criticism, lets him grab her and otherwise be physical with her, allows that in public, spends a lot of time alone with him, makes up excuses to see him, takes much longer than her excuses can justify....

Yeah, no doubt. That's very close to the way my wife is when she's cheating like that.

Yes, I mean it is obvious, but this makes me look stupid, I wonder if she considers me stupid. One thing is, she was always attracted to intelligent men, her boss is a Lawyer and intelligent, I am nothing infront of him, in fact stupid. This is probably also the reason she loves him. I personally think it must have been my wife who offered her support/ love to him first, rather then the boss, because I think she was always attracted to him from the beginning when she started working here 3 years ago

Now the question is, what should I do? I hardly have sex with her now, because she has no time for me. I only masturbate now thinking about them fucking each other

 

[redheads]

I have to say that if it were my wife exhibiting those behaviors there would be no doubt that she is fucking him. He's her boss, doesn't think he's creepy when he is, defends him from criticism, lets him grab her and otherwise be physical with her, allows that in public, spends a lot of time alone with him, makes up excuses to see him, takes much longer than her excuses can justify....

Yeah, no doubt. That's very close to the way my wife is when she's cheating like that.

Did your wife admit to cheating? my wife hasn't done that yet, she just doesn't want to talk about anything from her work or boss

 

[Custer Laststand]

Now the question is, what should I do?

I've already commented in response to your question, so I won't comment further.

I hardly have sex with her now, because she has no time for me. I only masturbate now thinking about them fucking each other.

Since your wife has made you her cuckold (apparently — given that she is slightly mysterious about it), your behavior is entirely appropriate. Keep up your masturbation, thinking about what your wife and her boss-lover might be doing, while she's out late at night — and be grateful she does not require you to wear a chastity cage, with her your sole key holder.

 

[Archie457]

Did your wife admit to cheating? my wife hasn't done that yet, she just doesn't want to talk about anything from her work or boss

First, I don't think it makes you look stupid. Sometimes you just need to hear it from somebody else. Also, it's a pretty big thing to happen and if you are going to act on it then you need to be sure.

Second, I am measuring your circumstance against mine. But your wife may be very different from mine. I don't know your wife, which is why I related it to my wife and her behavior.

Third, my wife has never admitted it. I found out after the affair was over. I also then got confirmation from a couple of friends that it had happened. I raised it to her three times and she has denied it every time. Typically, she gets nearly hysterical when we talk about it.

Fourth, you ask what should you do. I don't know and I can't answer that for you. I stayed because of the children and it turned out to be the right answer. Note that if you don't leave her now you can always leave later, but if you play that card now then, well, it's been played. Timing can be very important.

Ask yourself, can you live with it? If you can, do you want to? Are there any exigent circumstances that might mitigate for one course of action over another? For example, in my case, the affair was over and there were children involved. These are all factors of which I am ******* and I know neither you nor your wife. So I can't answer the question. Sorry, wish I could do better but it would be wrong.

Fifth, you do what is right for you. There will be lots of people who will offer advice based on what they would do or on what they want you do for their benefit. That's fine, but none of them have to live with the consequences of your decision. You do. Not saying you can't listen to others, just don't do what somebody else tells you to do just because they told you to do it. Because I guarantee you, no matter what choice you make somebody is going to criticize it.

 

[redheads]

For what it’s worth... when I was first married and up until about 10 years ago I was insanely jealous of anyone so much as giving my wife a glance.
When she was 30-32 ish, she had a boss making the moves on her. She didn’t see it, but I did. Same story, the tight hugs, the dancing at the Christmas party, the early meetings, etc. He was a 40ish black professional banker, former college football star, big, handsome, wealthy.
She was infuriated that I suspected she was doing him, even more so when I made her transfer. Turns out, nothing ever did happen.
Fast forward and now I wish everyday my wife was taking BBC like a drug. About 2 years ago, the old boss died after a bout with leukemia. She had not worked with him in 15 years, but she was devastated and emotional. I had to rethink maybe something did happen.
Moral of the story , we are all looking for something and sometimes, those wants change. just thinking about her taking that BBC gets me hard. Unlike 25 years ago,if I could see her getting impaled in every hole while I joyously jerked off, I’d be in heaven.

Yes, maybe. But she has had BBC fantasy for aslong as I can remember, i mean we use to watch bbc porn together and her fantasy was always being fucked by black men

I think now because she found a black/Indian boss, who needed emotional support, she is fullfilling her fantasies with him. In fact I think Im late in suspecting them, they might have been envolved for a while

 

[redheads]

Ok guys look what i found on her phone. She is in the shower as we speak. She bought these really tight pants last week and she sent these pics to her boss the same day. She always wears tight clothing for office I have noticed

 

[redheads]

She sends a lot of pics to her boss and the boss takes a lot pictures with her

 

[ameerh]

She sends a lot of pics to her boss and the boss takes a lot pictures with her

Love it. Love to chat about her

 

[Bishot]

Ok guys look what i found on her phone. She is in the shower as we speak. She bought these really tight pants last week and she sent these pics to her boss the same day. She always wears tight clothing for office I have noticed

That's not a smoking gun, but it's pretty strong evidence. Stacked up with the other clues, I think it's safe to assume that she is fucking him. So you have to decide how you are going to handle it. Archie457 has some pretty good advice above.
The critical thing for me would be whether she is willing to admit it or not.
Nice ass by the way!

 

[redheads]

That's not a smoking gun, but it's pretty strong evidence. Stacked up with the other clues, I think it's safe to assume that she is fucking him. So you have to decide how you are going to handle it. Archie457 has some pretty good advice above.
The critical thing for me would be whether she is willing to admit it or not.
Nice ass by the way!

She actually sent to 4 people in a group including some of her female friends, but the only male she sent to was the boss, I agree still not 100%,, I already knew they share a lot of pictures. But now I know why she wears tight pants/shirts to her office all the time, clearly her boss wants her too, I think she bought these pants just for him to please him, why else would she take this pic and send it to him the same day?

 

[redheads]

I would think the idea of a BBC pounding that round ass would be exciting as hell

Ya I know, it is, but I wish my wife could let me see if her boss is fucking that ass

 

[lnohhnvm]

Ok guys look what i found on her phone. She is in the shower as we speak. She bought these really tight pants last week and she sent these pics to her boss the same day. She always wears tight clothing for office I have noticed

nice ass.

 

[redheads]

nice ass.

Thanks, wish to see a BBC going in that, but wife isn't allowing me the show

 

[ameerh]

Maybe one day she will