Wife Exclusive to BF for awhile... Then back to me (REAL)

[Custer Laststand]

Rick,

But it is quite uncommon for this scenario to occur with the husband's knowledge and approval.

Beats me. If you know that, you know more about military marriages than I do (which is very little). In any case, I suspect it may be more important for Wendell to be aware that goes on than to know statistical details like, "in what percentage of military marriages does the 'deployed husband' know, vs. not know, his wife has taken a lover?"

.... Interestingly, Wendell has been a bit possessive of Brenda where other men are concerned. He gets jealous when other men give her "the eye" in public.

Hm.... that doesn't sound too good. Possessive men are usually "problem cases" for their lovers/wives/married lovers (circle the applicable catagory). I gather, incidentally, Brenda is something of a good-looking woman...?

I wonder if he will begin to feel competitive toward me....

If or when Wendell does, that will be a good time for your wife to decide it's time to end her affair with him. (This situation, should it develop, would seem somewhat analogous to Brenda's previous lover deciding he was going to marry her, then asking Brenda to request a divorce from you so they could 'run off' and get married to each other. According to your description, Brenda dropped him like a hot potato.)

I wish Brenda didn't feel the need to "come clean" about things, but she really hates the idea of being "unfaithful" to her sexual mate behind his back.

Whatever. Apparently Brenda's like that. It seems to be necessary for you to live with this logically-absurd aspect of her personality (among others). Seemingly, you accept it as your lot.

—Custer

 

[radicalguy]

Good points

Hm.... that doesn't sound too good. Possessive men are usually "problem cases" for their lovers/wives/married lovers (circle the applicable catagory). I gather, incidentally, Brenda is something of a good-looking woman...?

Yes, Brenda is quite beautiful, and exudes an air of femininity that few women possess.... Actually, I find Wendell's possessiveness (with respect to other men) quite a turn on. Don't ask me why, but I feel quite a "tingle" in the groin when I notice Wendell exhibiting behavior showing that he regards Brenda as "his woman" in a sexual sense, at least as this behavior relates to other men. I think Brenda likes it to.

I do know that Brenda does not want to share Wendell sexually, and has always demanded her other men to be sexually exclusive to her. Ironically, Brenda still freaks if she thinks I am interested in another woman, which I really like. I mean, it would bother me if she didn't care if I slept with other women.

If or when Wendell does, that will be a good time for your wife to decide it's time to end her affair with him. (This situation, should it develop, would seem somewhat analogous to Brenda's previous lover deciding he was going to marry her, then asking Brenda to request a divorce from you so they could 'run off' and get married to each other. According to your description, Brenda dropped him like a hot potato.)

Wendell is not an assertive type of fellow--more like an adorable puppy dog. He has never hinted at wanting marriage or any type of formalized relationship with Brenda. But he certainly regards her as more than a "fuck buddy" or "friends with benefits."

I am not worried about Wendell's feelings towards me when he becomes aware that Brenda will be having sex with me while he is in Afghanistan. He might pout a bit. I don't feel any threats to my marriage. My only concern is that it may affect Brenda's and Wendell's relationship. I really like the guy and am hopeful that their relationship will continue when he returns to the US after his deployment.

Whatever. Apparently Brenda's like that. It seems to be necessary for you to live with this logically-absurd aspect of her personality (among others). Seemingly, you accept it as your lot.

I wouldn't trade my "lot" for anything in the world

By the way, although all military members in Afghanistan (and Iraq) are at risk of harm by being in country, some positions are more risky than others. Wendell will be working in some sort of administrative position, dealing with personnel or something like that. He won't be on the front lines searching for Osama or any other dangerous endeavor, at least according to him.

Thanks again for your valuable and though-provoking input.

Rick

 

[Custer Laststand]

Rick,

Thanks for your reply, which sheds significantly more light on you, your wife, and her lover Wendell.

.... By the way, although all military members in Afghanistan (and Iraq) are at risk of harm by being in-country, some positions are more risky than others. Wendell will be working in some sort of administrative position, dealing with personnel or something like that. He won't be on the front lines searching for Osama or any other dangerous endeavor, at least according to him.

That's good to hear.

Thanks again for your valuable and thought-provoking input. —Rick

You're welcome. I find your and Brenda's relationship quite interesting.

—Custer

 

[radicalguy]

Last weekend Brenda decided to go ahead and tell Wendell about the fact that I am not impotent, and explain the nature of our marriage. She also told him that our marital sexual relationship will resume once he is temporarily out of the picture in Afghanistan.

Well, Wendell didn't react badly, but is a bit confused. He was annoyed that Brenda falsely led him to believe that I am impotent, but understood why. He is not happy that I will be making love to "his woman," but completely accepts the fact that Brenda is a married woman. He has asked that my sexual relationship with Brenda not be "in his face," and that neither of us give him any details. He admitted that he feels jealous when he thinks of Brenda being intimate with any other man, but completely understands that, as her husband, I must come first in her life. However, Wendell is happy that Brenda will be completely sexually exclusive to him until he is deployed, and that her body will be exclusively his again when when he returns.

I am pleased about how this is working out. Wendell is, at heart, an old fashioned guy even at his young age, and has said many times that eventually he hopes to fall in love with a young lady, get married, and have kids. In no way do I feel threatened by any of this. On the contrary, I find Wendell's semi-possessiveness of Brenda's sexuality--his need to "own" her pussy--quite exciting. Interestingly, Wendell has vowed that he will remain "faithful" to Brenda while he is deployed, even though he knows that she will be having sex with me during this time. So it seems that, during this time, Wendell will be the cuckold, in a way. Go figure.

Rick

 

[radicalguy]

Hi folks,

Well, since Wendell left for Afghanistan last October, Brenda and I have been focused on each other, and making love 5-6 times a week.

The 2-week vacation in Florida last September was quite an experience. We were staying in a 1 bedroom suite, with Brenda and Wendell taking the bedroom, and me on the sleeper sofa in the main area. I could hear every sound, which was incredibly erotic. Unfortunately, I had to leave Florida one week early for unforeseen work-related reasons, so Brenda and Wendell were able to enjoy the last week in Florida alone, as sort of a goodbye vacation.

When Wendell finally left for Afghanistan, Brenda was saddened for awhile, and it took a few weeks before she felt ready to "reconnect" with me again sexually. But when we finally did, it was like fireworks!

One memorable experience was last December, when Wendell called from Afghanistan. I was licking Brenda's pussy while she was on the phone with him, but she made me stop because it made her feel "weird."

It is unclear whether Brenda and Wendell will ever resume their relationship. He doesn't know where he will be assigned once his Afghan deployment ends. In any event, Brenda and I are in no hurry for her to pursue any outside relationships. We are just enjoying each other now. This is the way things usually happen. She never plans to "find" another guy. They just happen--or not.

I will let y'all know when and if there are any changes... But don't hold your breath!

Rick

 

[radicalguy]

The Rollercoaster Ride Begins again!

Hi Folks,

Well, time for an update. Brenda has fallen in love again. About a month ago, Brenda met Ramiro, a 42-year-old guy who emigrated from Mexico approximately 12 years ago. He owns a small towing and used auto parts business, and first met Brenda when she called for a tow truck after a fender bender car accident.

Brenda was initially attracted to Ramiro on a variety of levels. On a physical level, Brenda is taken with Ramiro's muscular physique, huge rough hands, dark-skinned Hispanic features, dark brown eyes, and thick Mexican accent. As for his personality, Ramiro is a rather "macho," take-charge sort of man--perhaps a cultural trait of males from Mexico--yet he is still shows respect and acts like a gentleman. Brenda was amazed at Ramiro's self-confidence when they first met. He could see from her wedding ring that she was married, yet didn't hesitate to ask her for a drink that first day when she was riding in her tow truck.

When Brenda told me about Ramiro, after they spent a couple of hours at a local TGI Friday's, she had that very familiar sparkle in her eye. That night, as we were making love, she went crazy when I asked her if she would like Ramiro inside her that moment instead of me. The next evening, she called Ramiro on the phone, and I could hear her talking and giggling for about 2 hours with him. They had a couple of platonic dates during the next week or so. Ramiro was eager to bed Brenda from the beginning, but Brenda wanted to wait until they had at least a couple of dates.

One day, after we made love, Brenda shared with me how Ramiro was such an "amazing" kisser, and how she loved feeling his big strong arms around her, and his huge hands touching her body. Brenda then gave me "that look" and told me that she wanted to make love to him. Well, it had been about 6 months since she had made love to another man than me, so I begrudgingly said "go for it." However, Brenda didn't want to tell Ramiro that I approved of her being with another man, at least for the present, because he was rather "old school," as she put it.

Two days later, on April 17, Brenda went out with Ramiro and stayed out with him until about 3:00 AM. When she got home, she climbed into bed and told me that she wanted me "one last time" before she would belong exclusively to Ramiro "for awhile."

I could smell Ramiro's cheap cologne all over Brenda, and when I touched her pussy, she was sopping wet. I was surprised at this because it had been many years since Brenda had made love to me so soon after being with another man, but I savored the rare delight of having "sloppy seconds" from my wife.

Brenda told me that Ramiro was an "incredible" lover-- not a sensitive, giving type of lover as I am, but more of the rough, animalistic breed of man. Brenda said that, when she and I made love, we always shared a beautiful and intimate connection; but with Ramiro, it was like he was "taking" her, sort of using her for his pleasure in a rather aggressive and "macho" way. She added that Ramiro was probably the second most well endowed man that she has ever slept with, especially in thickness.

Anyway, it has been 3 weeks since I have had had sex with Brenda, and she has been with Ramiro probably 4-5 times a week since that first time. He has been starting to question whether I, her husband, may be starting to become "suspicious." Brenda is wrestling with how she should break it to Ramiro that I have known, all along, that she was having an affair with him. That's the next step.

In all other ways, Brenda and I are as close as ever. She loves to share with me the details of her relationship with Ramiro, and we hold each other closely at night when we sleep. But, as is her nature, she needs to be sexually exclusive to one man at a time... and, for the present, that man is Ramiro. The rollercoaster begins again!

Rick

 

[Custer Laststand]

Ah, you're back...

Rick,

Good to hear from you again.

[Ramiro, my wife's Mexican-American tow truck driver] could see from [my wife Brenda's] wedding ring that she was married, yet didn't hesitate to ask her for a drink that first day when she was riding in [his] tow truck.

Excellent, good for him. Did your wife "arrange" for her car to break down, on the chance she might meet someone like Ramiro, or was it an authentic accidental (so to speak) encounter?

.... Brenda told me that Ramiro was an "incredible" lover-- not a sensitive, giving type of lover as I am, but more of the rough, animalistic breed of man. Brenda said that, when she and I made love, we always shared a beautiful and intimate connection; but with Ramiro, it was like he was "taking" her, sort of using her for his pleasure in a rather aggressive and "macho" way. She added that Ramiro was probably the second most well endowed man that she has ever slept with, especially in thickness.

Cool... obviously, your wife chooses her lovers with consummate skill.

Anyway, it has been 3 weeks since I have [been allowed to have] sex with Brenda, and she has been with Ramiro probably 4-5 times a week since that first time. He has been starting to question whether I, her husband, may be starting to become "suspicious."

Yes, I would think so... it's hard to underestimate the astute insight of tow-truck drivers.

Brenda is wrestling with how she should break it to Ramiro that I have known, all along, that she has been having an affair with him. That's the next step.

Well, your wife should be very cautious about that, of course. Guys like Ramiro are well-known to have very tender feelings, so he could become profoundly upset — indeed, crushed — when he finds out he has not been both fucking your wife AND pulling the wool over your eyes, but rather he's merely been fucking your wife.

In all other ways, Brenda and I are as close as ever. She loves to share with me the details of her relationship with Ramiro, and we hold each other closely at night when we sleep. .... —Rick

Well, it's good to hear your wife is continuing to lead her life of intensely-satisfying sexual gratification with her lovers, and that you are continuing to accede to her insistence on "no sex for you" while she does so.

Keep up your good work!

—Custer

 

[SoonToBe]

I think I was assuming that Brenda had always formed deep emotional bonds with the men she goes exclusive with. From the way Wendell and her predecessors had been described, it sounded like she was genuinely in love with them.

But now with the rapid shift of her physical desires to Ramiro, and without mention of a developing emotional involvement, I'm realizing that it really is as simple as you say it is. That Brenda simply can't be sexual with more than one guy at a time. That said, he must have really rocked her sexually for her to go to him so quickly. That's quite a turn-on knowing he will be replacing you for a while. For me though, that is also something that I am not ready for and could not take for the type of timeframes you are talking about - even 3 weeks would seem an eternity for me much less speaking in terms of months.

From how you posted of your sloppy seconds with Brenda one last time, I am assuming that Brenda and Ramiro go bareback - so I am also wondering if perhaps she is one of these women who derive some sort of chemical/hormonal/pheremonal attachment through him cumming in her and that is possibly what drives her to desire exclusivity with her lovers so quickly and totally.

I will confess, a part of me is very aroused by this possibility of this part of her behavior being something that she can't necessarily control. That must be very exciting to witness in her, to know it is almost instinctual when it happens. That may even soften the impact too, knowing it is a subconscious desire and not something she necessarily seeks out.

 

[radicalguy]

I think I was assuming that Brenda had always formed deep emotional bonds with the men she goes exclusive with. From the way Wendell and her predecessors had been described, it sounded like she was genuinely in love with them.

But now with the rapid shift of her physical desires to Ramiro, and without mention of a developing emotional involvement, I'm realizing that it really is as simple as you say it is. That Brenda simply can't be sexual with more than one guy at a time. That said, he must have really rocked her sexually for her to go to him so quickly. That's quite a turn-on knowing he will be replacing you for a while. For me though, that is also something that I am not ready for and could not take for the type of timeframes you are talking about - even 3 weeks would seem an eternity for me much less speaking in terms of months.

From how you posted of your sloppy seconds with Brenda one last time, I am assuming that Brenda and Ramiro go bareback - so I am also wondering if perhaps she is one of these women who derive some sort of chemical/hormonal/pheremonal attachment through him cumming in her and that is possibly what drives her to desire exclusivity with her lovers so quickly and totally.

I will confess, a part of me is very aroused by this possibility of this part of her behavior being something that she can't necessarily control. That must be very exciting to witness in her, to know it is almost instinctual when it happens. That may even soften the impact too, knowing it is a subconscious desire and not something she necessarily seeks out.

Brenda has been developing a deep emotional bond with Ramiro, though I didn't really dwell on that in my last post. When she is not with him, she's often on the phone with him giggling, and trying to talk to him in broken Spanish. Brenda is not interested in just a purely sexual relationship. She feels the need to "give" herself to a man, both physically and emotionally.

But you are right about one thing. Brenda seems to have a physical, "chemical" attraction to Ramiro to a degree I've never seen before. For example, she shared with me that at least half of the time she sees him, she is so overwhelmed with desire that she almost rapes him, though he is too "macho" to simply submit to any woman. The way she describes it, she often grabs and kisses him, squeezes his cock, and then Ramiro throws her on the bed and ravishes her aggressively. Brenda also shared with me that Ramiro often speaks Spanish to her while they are making love, which for some reason really makes her go crazy with passion.

A couple of nights ago, Brenda revealed to Ramiro that, despite the fact that she is married, she is sexually exclusive to him, a revelation that pleased Ramiro tremendously. However, she has still not revealed that I am aware of her relationship with him. He thinks that I am simply focused on my career, and not interested is sex with my wife. Nevertheless, he accepts that Brenda is 100% committed to me as her husband, and is quite happy to simply have his place as Brenda's only lover.

I hope Brenda tells Ramiro the truth about me soon, so Ramiro doesn't feel he needs to see my wife behind my back. This would, I think, open the door to her having Ramiro spend the night with her while I am sleeping in the downstairs room. Brenda did mention once that her and Ramiro tend to be a bit noisy when they make love, which I would love to be able to hear sometime.

I am so happy that Brenda is feeling so fulfilled these days. I was pleased, however, that she reaffirmed my importance to her when she said that, despite the intensity of her relationship with Ramiro, she would end everything with him if I ever asked her to. She had a big smile on her face when I replied that I will always be patient with her, and that her happiness brings me happiness.

Rick

 

[radicalguy]

Update!

Hi folks,

There have been some developments with Brenda's relationship with Ramiro. First of all, they are still going strong. Three weeks ago, Brenda took a 3-day weekend trip with Ramiro to his home town, Acuna, Mexico. He introduced Brenda to his friends and family as his girlfriend, without mentioning the fact that she is married. That sort of bothered me a bit, but I can understand how that might be difficult for him to explain to his family.

Brenda told me that they stayed in a hotel in Acuna because Ramiro didn't want to deal with objections from his parents, who are rather conservative Catholics. It was a bit difficult for me being alone, and thinking about Brenda all the time. She has said that their relationship has deepened, and she likes the feeling that she is "his woman," though her commitment to me as her husband is never in question.

Brenda says that her relationship with Ramiro is different that what she's had in the past with David or Wendell, or any of the others. She feels "consumed" by Ramiro, to use her words. She says he is so very macho, very earthy, and 100% male... and when they make love, she feels filled by him completely. She says that when Ramiro ejaculates and withdraws, she feels a tremendous sense of emptiness and needs him inside her again and again. Fortunately, according to Brenda, Ramiro has the libido of a 16-year-old.

Up until 2 weeks ago, Ramiro believed that I was not aware of his relationship with Brenda. All that changed by accident..

In the beginning, Brenda had been going to Ramiro's place, an apartment he shares with a friend. However, she really prefers being in our bed, so we had been coordinating when I would be home. I travel out of town sometimes, and on those occasions she had Ramiro spend the night with her at our house.

Well, about 2 weeks ago, when I was on a business trip to San Diego, she misunderstood when I would be arriving home: She thought I said 2:00 pm on Saturday, but I meant 2:00 am...12 hours earlier. Anyway, Brenda had Ramiro spend the night, as he had been doing all week. It was the classic scene of a husband walking into his bedroom and finding his wife in bed with another man.

Ramiro jumped up and was TERRIFIED, which was rather funny because Ramiro is a tough, muscular Latino who could easily defeat me in any physical match. (I am more of a brainy, collegiate type.) But Ramiro was not so much afraid of me physically as he was of being in a position of moral disgrace. He felt ashamed that he was intruding on another man's home-- and I must say I respect him for that.

Ramiro started running around, frantically trying to grab his clothes so he could get the hell away. I started laughing at him, telling him, "Hey, Ramiro, calm down! Everything is cool." When I mentioned his name, Ramiro had a funny look on his face, and stopped being so frantic. He just said, over and over with his thick accent, "I'm sorry, man, I'm sorry." Well, after Ramiro got a grip, we all went downstairs for a drink.

It was a bit tough with the language barrier, but I eventually got through to him that I was aware of what Brenda was doing with him, and I was okay with it. We have an "understanding," I told him. Ramiro eventually smiled and just said, "Thank you, man." I invited Ramiro to go back to bed with Brenda, and said I would sleep downstairs. They did go back up together, but Brenda later told me that Ramiro was, at that time, still too shook up and confused to make love with her with me in the house.

Over the following week, Brenda spend several evenings at Ramiro's place, but came home to me later. She said that he was annoyed that she hadn't told him that I knew about things, but wasn't angry or anything. She had some time to explain to him that she was truthful about the fact that she was sexually exclusive to him, and that I was completely understanding and supportive. According to Brenda, Ramiro gradually became comfortable with the idea.

A week ago, Brenda persuaded Ramiro to come to our home, have dinner with me and her, and spend the night if he felt comfortable. It was a success! I was very friendly to Ramiro, we all had a nice dinner and a couple of beers, and then after the three of us watched a movie, Brenda grabbed Ramiro's hand and said to me, "Well, honey, Ramiro and I are ready for bed. Good night." When I answered, "Good night, both of you," Ramiro had a funny look on his face, but followed Brenda up the stairs. An hour later, I quietly went up the stairs and could hear the bed squeaking, and Brenda and Ramiro moaning, though it seemed that Ramiro was trying to be as quiet as possible. Since then, Ramiro has stayed overnight twice, and has become much more relaxed with me around.

Brenda has been exclusive to Ramiro for 3 months now, and there is no end in sight. However, my marriage to Brenda has never been stronger. I love how her face lights up when she talks about Ramiro. She not only tells me everything, in great detail, she is enthusiastic about doing so. I mean, she doesn't wait for me to ask questions that she would begrudgingly answer; she loves to share everything with me. She says that it makes her feel more intimate with me when she holds nothing back.

When Ramiro isn't around, Brenda and I still sleep in each other's arms. Once again, a couple of days ago, Brenda reminded me that if I ever wanted her to end things with Ramiro, as painful as it would be, she would do so without hesitation. Well, I love her too much to take my gift away from her. Besides, I get such a thrill knowing that Brenda, my wife, is being filled so completely by such a manly man. I guess I must admit, I am definitely a cuckold!

Rick

 

[Custer Laststand]

Brenda has been exclusive to Ramiro for 3 months now, and there is no end in sight. However, my marriage to Brenda has never been stronger. I love how her face lights up when she talks about Ramiro. She not only tells me everything, in great detail, she is enthusiastic about doing so. I mean, she doesn't wait for me to ask questions that she would begrudgingly answer; she loves to share everything with me. She says that it makes her feel more intimate with me when she holds nothing back.

That's very cool. Thanks for your great post.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Rick,

To enlarge on my previous post:

About 2 weeks ago, when I was on a business trip to San Diego, [my wife Brenda] misunderstood when I would be arriving home: She thought I said 2:00 pm on Saturday, but I meant 2:00 am...12 hours earlier.

Ah, yes... a calculated misunderstanding. These things can happen. I'm sure you did not say "I'll be home Saturday at 2:00," omitting the AM and assuming there'd be a good chance your wife would assume you meant PM. But, setting aside this detail...

Anyway, Brenda had Ramiro spend the night, as he had been doing all week. It was the classic scene of a husband walking into his bedroom and finding his wife in bed with another man.

Awright...

Ramiro jumped up and was TERRIFIED, which was rather funny because Ramiro is a tough, muscular Latino who could easily defeat me in any physical match. (I am more of a brainy, collegiate type.) But Ramiro was not so much afraid of me physically as he was of being in a position of moral disgrace.

I don't think so.

He felt ashamed that he was intruding on another man's home-- and I must say I respect him for that.

You're getting closer, but you don't quite have it right yet.

Ramiro started running around, frantically trying to grab his clothes so he could get the hell away. I started laughing at him, telling him, "Hey, Ramiro, calm down! Everything is cool." When I mentioned his name, Ramiro got a funny look on his face and stopped being so frantic. He just said, over and over with his thick accent, "I'm sorry, man, I'm sorry."

As you say, this is quite funny. It brings to mind a seemingly benign and unrelated incident that happened in my home a couple of days ago that is actually quite closely related.

My neighbors obtained a new dog a while back, a puppy, to replace their previous dog who died of old age. More recently, about 1.5 weeks ago I hired a contractor to re-stain my house, which is natural cedar, and re-paint the trim. Doors, of course, are easier to re-paint if they're open, so I left my doors standing open.

Now dogs, as you know, mature rapidly and my neighbor's erstwhile puppy — now a large dog — came over to check out my place. He walked in and was strolling about, looking here and there. I then walked in from outside, noticed him, and also noticed his tail was between his legs as he walked around. I said: "Hey! Dogs are outdoor animals! You're a dog, ya' hear? Get outta' here!" (pointing toward the door). My neighbor's large, wolfish, physically-powerful-looking dog, his tail still between his legs, sheepishly walked to the door and left without protest.

The issue, of course, was territory. My neighbor's dog was acutely aware he was in my territory, not his. When you "caught" Ramiro in bed with your wife in your home, his response, as you have described it, was essentially identical to that of my neighbor's large dog when I "caught" him inside my house. The dog didn't have to rush about putting on his clothes, of course, but he left as soon as practicable without any show of resistance, just as Ramiro attempted to depart your home as fast as he could. Clearly, he was acutely aware your home is your territory, not his.

Had you burst into Ramiro's home uninvited and "caught" your wife in bed with him, you can be sure his response would have been very different.

Well, after Ramiro got a grip, we all went downstairs for a drink.

Awright. You handled it very well, thereby managing to meet Ramiro (albeit in circumstances he probably wouldn't have chosen himself), assure him you're OK with what he and your wife are doing, thereby relieving him greatly and becoming his friend, while at the same time you "broke the ice" with your wife Brenda such that she now realizes both of you have a better relationship when she tells you about the intimacies of her trysts with her lovers.

All in one swell foop. Not bad. Congratulations!

—Custer

 

[jelous_of_wifes_bf]

Amazing thread!

Hey Rick, loved your posts this thread is compelling reading! Gee, you are extremely lucky with Brenda and her attitude toward your acceptance of her activities, I have never met a woman who isn’t weirded out by cuckolding fantasies although I guess that since humiliation is not a part of it for you that this makes it easier to accept. Still, you are more or less living the dream, you’re a lucky man.

I have a couple of questions if you will humor me (you don’t have to). I get the sense that you are doing this purely for Brenda’s happiness, which is extremely noble, but if hypothetically you could choose between your current lifestyle and a ‘vanilla’ lifestyle, where Brenda would be as happy and fulfilled regardless of which you chose, what would be your choice?

Also, are you not even just a little bit concerned about Brenda’s relationship with Ramiro? It seems quite intense, I mean I was thinking that when the David business happened you were in trouble, but this seems to be another level above that. I personally am a bit worried for you, I hope this turns out okay. Thanks again for your posts and I would love to read an update, cheers!

 

[radicalguy]

Well, I certainly get a vicarious thrill from knowing Brenda is being sexually possessed by another man, but it wouldn't be as exciting if she was just doing it for me.

I was never really "in trouble" in the David situation. Brenda never even considered leaving me, and she immediately broke off entirely with David as soon as he crossed that boundary.

I am not worried about Ramiro. Yes, Brenda is totally enthralled by him, but he is still basically a "rollercoaster ride" for her.

 

[duke9555]

I just read through this thread. I am soooo envious! You are such a lucky guy!

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some cucks love to get cut off
and become celibate .........they get turned on
hot about it .what can i say they love it
while other cucks like me love continuing marital
relations so as to always present an A B comparison
with her present lover .........in such a comparison
the cuck invariably comes in last

 

[radicalguy]

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some cucks love to get cut off
and become celibate .........they get turned on
hot about it .what can i say they love it
while other cucks like me love continuing marital
relations so as to always present an A B comparison
with her present lover .........in such a comparison
the cuck invariably comes in last

I don't think I could handle it if I thought it would be "forever." For me, it's a temporary break in sex, albeit a long one, while I defer to the relationship my wife is having with her boyfriend. Invariably, Brenda's outside relationships run their course, and then Brenda and I start fucking like rabbits!.

Rick

 

[duke9555]

I don't think I could handle it if I thought it would be "forever." For me, it's a temporary break in sex, albeit a long one, while I defer to the relationship my wife is having with her boyfriend. Invariably, Brenda's outside relationships run their course, and then Brenda and I start fucking like rabbits!.

Rick

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all the same one night she'll lie to you
and meet lazlo alone in his rooms

 

[radicalguy]

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all the same one night she'll lie to you
and meet lazlo alone in his rooms

Who is Lazlo?

If you mean Ramiro, she is free to meet him anywhere she wants, and she knows it.

Rick

 

[duke9555]

Who is Lazlo?

If you mean Ramiro, she is free to meet him anywhere she wants, and she knows it.

Rick

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LOL

 

[radicalguy]

Hi Folks,

A lot has happened since my last update, but I just haven't had time to post....

After Brenda and Ramiro appeared to break up, Brenda was feeling really depressed. She was very clingy to me in bed, wanting to hold me tight all night in bed, but still not wanting sex from me. I didn't push it, of course, feeling that things would just naturally move along... or that maybe Brenda and Ramiro still had unfinished business.

About 2 weeks ago, much to my surprise, I got a call from Ramiro. He wanted to meet me for a beer later that evening. Brenda was taking a class, so it was perfect.

Well, when Ramiro and I met, he seemed rather awkward and hesitant, which was a bit magnified due to his somewhat broken English. Anyway, Ramiro managed to communicate to me that he really missed Brenda, but was shy about contacting her. He asked me to be "honest" about what I really felt about his relationship with Ramiro.

As best as I could, I explained to him that I loved my wife, and that I would never allow someone to take her away from me. But I also explained that Brenda was honest about the fact that she would only be in a sexual relationship with one man at a time.

Ramiro also expressed his feeling about not wanting to share a woman sexually. He said that he had no interest in being married again, but just couldn't take the idea of having sex with Brenda while knowing that she was also having sex with me. He just couldn't believe that Brenda and I could sleep in bed togather without having sex.

Folks, I must admit that I was tempted to tell Ramiro that Brenda was lying and that, yes, she and I had been having sex all along. But I could see how much Brenda longed for Ramiro, and I felt that if I could help repair the relationship, perhaps it could continue and later end on a more positive note, rather than as abruptly as it had due to a misunderstanding.

I then told Ramiro, as best as I could, that Brenda and I shared a connection that went much deeper than just sex. I confirmed for Ramiro that Brenda had been honest, that she had been exclusive to him the entire time they were together, and that when we slept together, we were never sexual. I explained further that when Brenda is sexual with a man, she belongs only to him sexually.

After talking with me, Ramiro seemed ashamed and embarrassed about his behavior, but I could tell what was really on his mind: Did Brenda and I resume sex since the breakup? I then told Ramiro that, although I was tempted, Brenda and I had not yet had sex with each other, and that the last man she had sex with was him. When I told him that, I could see a sparkle in his eye... he was obviouslu quite pleased.

Ramiro then asked me if it would be okay with me for him to see Brenda again. I told him that I just wanted Brenda to be happy, and that in my opinion, Brenda really wanted him also. (Given Ramiro's macho mentality and mediocre English skills, I couldn't bring myself to explain that I got a sexual thrill at the thought of Brenda fucking him.)

Knowing that Ramiro was still feeling a bit awkward, I suggested to him that he accompany me home, and he could then speak to Brenda directly when she got home from her class. I knew that Brenda would be thrilled to see him, and I longed to see that big smile on her face, but Ramiro was still nervous. Nevertheless, he agreed.

When Ramiro and I arrived at my home, Brenda was still not there, but arrived about 10 minutes later. When she walked in, and saw Ramiro, her eyes suddenly turned watery, and she ran into Ramiro's arms, whereupon they started kissing each other passionately, all the while Ramiro trying to say, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." Brenda then looked at me with a big smile, and mouthed the words, "Thank you."

Knowing that Ramiro would never be so bold, I suggested that Brenda take Ramiro upstairs to our bedroom to "talk" while I catch up on some work in my study. They went upstairs, and 30 minutes later I tip-toed up to the bedroom door and, as I expected, I could hear that they were making love very passionately. I became hard instantly, and went back to my study to get my "release."

Well, since that evening, Ramiro and Brenda have been together about every other day, always at our home. When Ramiro spends the night, I stay in our downstairs bedroom... And when Brenda and I are alone, we sleep together in each other's arms.

Looks like I have a bit of a wait until Brenda and Ramiro tire of each other and move on. He's quite a unique and amazing guy!

Rick