Eric, I think that you are correct. Photos of her at the time show a spectacular female. see attached.
She may still be loyal in her heart to her first love, a guy who betrayed her. She was his regular fuck in High School and for 3 years after that. She followed him around the country when he left home and went to college. She provided pussy whenever he wanted it. He used her as a "key" to join in swing parties by sharing her with other party attendees. He also used his control of her cunt to give her sexual services to his associates for the boyfriends personal benefits. She was his *****.
For example, at college, the bf wanted to join a fraternity. To assure his favorable vote into membership, he took her to the frat house for the weekend and let his future frat "brothers" fuck her all weekend. Some of the "brothers" fucked her 3 or 4 times that weekend.
Then the boyfriend knocked up another young woman and married the baby mama. My wife was enormously betrayed. She gave him everything she had. And then some! She went on binges, overeating, revenge fucking dozens of random guys, for services which she took financial benefit, and started some lesbian activity.
She got a job with a famous US government agency and fucked every man and some women in her huge office building. Some guys may still be alive who fucked her. She was nicknamed "LoriDoubleD" She got careless and did not use birth control protection. A married guy who was fucking my future wife on a regular basis knocked her up. She now regrets having an abortion to resolve that immediate issue. The bastard who got her pregnant refused to pay for her abortion.
After she became my woman, I paid for that abortion. That may be another reason she is cold today. At our wedding several wedding attendees speaking privately and individually told me about fucking her and seeing other guys and gays having sex with her.
The first 3 -4 years of our marriage went as I wanted. Swinging, sex clubs, sharing, nude resorts, etc, were regular events, although she rarely initiated sex with me. But I was always hungry to get at her spectacular body and she was almost always available for those services. But she never was a good cocksucker.
Then her father died and she may hold his death against me. I suspect that he may have been the one who took her cherry. She was very strongly attached to him. Almost immediately after he died, getting sex with her became very irregular and she seemed to be uninvolved. Her cunt and tits were there for me but no enthusiasm.
I am now sorry that I met her. She is a total sexual disappointment.
My only hope is that some guy, other than me, will shake her up and wakeup her sleeping sexual drives. At least to the point where I could be a voyeur while watching them fuck. I have introduced her to several guys who are hot for her body, but she has not responded as I hoped. I will keep looking for that bull and maybe find a match for her
Wish me and her good luck.