what do you get out of the chasity bit??

[lifelong cuck]

BBC explanation

The cuckold horns were part of the humiliation on the streets by the entire town, to make it clear that a horny, frustrated wife should be allowed lovers of her own choice because she was being "short-changed" by a husband who was "victorious in battle, but a disaster in the bedroom".

The cuckold had no choice in the matter, because the entire town was saying, "she has the right", and the cuckold knew it was a waste of time getting a divorce because "marriage was for life" and religion did not allow it. And even if the cuckold got a divorce, no other woman would bother to go out with him because every woman knew he was a lousy lover......so why would they be interested in a poor sex life.

Cuckolds can get a divorce these days even if it takes five years, "so there are choices", but cuckolds mostly CHOOSE to stay married for the EMOTIONAL BENEFITS it gives them long term, and the fact that they love their wives sufficiently to want her to have an amazing love life.

A truer (primal) definition of a cuckold is a man with "Hobson's choice", which is no choice at all.

In the days of the horns, everyone knew his sexual abilities were poor, these days it is mostly kept private from family and friends and workmates; and a cuckold can relocate to the other side of the world and find a new relationship - not all women will think he is no good in bed. He might in fact be quite a bit better than a previous husband with an even smaller penis, or lesser know-how or a premature ejaculator that fires his cannon after only three strokes.

I also liked the BBC explanation of the cuckold horns that I posted in Cuckold News section, where it says often the cuckold horns could be seen by all but the wearer, just as often all know a husband is a cuckold but not the cuckold himself. That was very much the case for so long with me, it took me 5 years of marriage to learn I wore them, as my wife had cuckolded me from our honeymoon.

 

[lifelong cuck]

All comes to he who waits

I would have been long gone from such a relationship.
My only conclusion I can draw from your story is that perhaps you enjoyed it.
Beyond that, I cannot relate, sorry.

It took a long time to learn the pleasures of cuckoldry and chastity but learn them I did, while I can't say I ever wore my cuckold horns with pride I did learn to enjoy wearing them and stopped trying to cover them up. I felt I looked more ridiculous covering them when all knew they were there, than admitting I had them and got on with life.