Hi Ms. Britainnyhotwife,
Thanks for your reply.
Britannyhotwife said:
he loves anal now and be a slave for me but no chastity
If by "he loves anal now" you mean your cuckold loves you fucking him up his ass with your strap-on, as illustrated (for instance) in the CD "Bend Over Boyfriend," that.... of course.... is very good. You're well on your way toward feminizing him, which was the question you began this thread with ("Should I feminize my husband?").
If, however, by "he loves anal now" you mean he loves fucking you anally, that's less good. It would not be an indication you have him on his way toward feminization. So, maybe you could clarify this....?
Anyway.... if your cuckold loves being a slave for you, as you say, that's also important progress.
To keep your cuckold moving forward in the direction(s) you desire, I suggest ordering and reading a copy of:
Sutton, Elise, 2003, Female Domination: An exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (298 pp., softcover).
Also, since your man is already your cuckold (although he doesn't know that yet, I gather), I suggest encouraging.... actually, requesting.... he wear silky feminine panties (/knickers) in suitably feminine colors (say, pink) to symbolize his status. If he wants to know why, there's no need to tell him it will symbolize his status as your cuckold. Rather, you could tell him you want him being pantied to be an aspect of him being your slave — and because you like the silky feel of pink panties while you're fucking him.
Then, if he refuses, make it clear you'll fuck him only with great reluctance; i.e., make it clear you aren't enthusiastic at all (or refuse to fuck him at all), until he gives in and starts wearing panties for you. Then, when he gives in, fuck him with great enthusiasm (you on top, preferably — or in any case, in your favorite position).
I sounds like you're making progress with your cuckold (as I mentioned, above). I encourage you to continue and not give up.
—Custer