Seeking Honest Advice

[ratherbecucking]

So, you met him without seeing a picture? And you were disappointed? Well, I am not surprised. I had assume that you had exchanged pictures, so that was a big mistake.

We had exchanged pictures, but he had a black band across his face on his. So I couldn't tell exactly what he looked like. I looked at his pics again after meeting up and, just based on body and hairstyle, they clearly were not actually him anyway.

As for him being attractive, that's really for your wife to decide...

Excellent point. And further reason for me never to meet a potential bull again unless we've progressed to a point where Tash is involved in the search.

So, what now. You made a mistake, which we all do and will continue to do, so don't let that get you down or deter you. Look back and learn from your mistakes, then move forward. Hopefully you've learned that you need your wife to make this work.

Yep, most definitely. Live and learn.

At this point, I would probably take some time to recover, take all the time you need. Then do what you should have done in the first place, and that is to get your wife interested. Sell her on it. Don't push her, encourage her by planting ideas in her head, and then let them grown. It may take time, but there is no hurry. Slow down. Don't forget to enjoy the journey, you may find it more exciting than the destination.

Thanks again for the wisdom. I'll do the best I can to apply it in my particular situation and see if we can't build up to the cuck lifestyle I so deeply crave.

 

[okdeacon]

Its Very Possible That It Can Be Done

Rather be. I wish you luck. Remember, When the timing is right. There is not a horse that cant be rode! There is not a cowboy that cant be throwed! There is not a wife that wont take a load! okdeacon

 

[OneForSure]

It's not easy to take things slow, but from all I understand, the chances of having a successful cuckold relationship with your wife go up when the husband doesn't push to progress things quickly.

Good luck, and keep on posting!

 

[IndyCpl]

Rather be. I wish you luck. Remember, When the timing is right. There is not a horse that cant be rode! There is not a cowboy that cant be throwed! There is not a wife that wont take a load! okdeacon

Excellent motto, deacon

 

[IndyCpl]

It's not easy to take things slow, but from all I understand, the chances of having a successful cuckold relationship with your wife go up when the husband doesn't push to progress things quickly.

Good luck, and keep on posting!

Thanks OneForSure. I'm taking it slowly and when I read between the lines, there just may be some hope after all.

 

[IndyCpl]

Well, no major news to share at this time. I don't reckon there will be anything major to share for quite some time, if ever.

That said, now that I've settled on the slow and steady approach, I am picking up on a few subtle things that are giving me hope that some day things just might work out.

1. This is a big sign to me - our anniversary was earlier this week. I bought Tasha flowers. What did Tasha buy? A vibrator. That really surprised me. Apparently she went to a sex shop with a couple gals from work and they helped her pick one out. We used it that night and it was a much different experience than we've ever had previously.
   
   
2. We've been trying to get pregnant for a little over a year now, with no luck so far. We agreed a couple weeks ago that if we didn't have one in the oven by January that we would switch gears to the adoption route. That prompted Tash to say that if we were going to quit giving 150% to try and get pregnant that she was going to dedicate herself to getting back into better shape so she could, quote, "start wearing her skimpy little outfits again."
   
   
3. Not sure if I just didn't notice it as much before, but her jokes and kidding-around comments are highly sexual lately. She made a comment the other day about us making a video together (seemed to be half-serious/half-kidding). And she flipped to Skinemax the other night while we were in bed and stopped on a softcore porn that was on. She was laughing at it more than she was getting aroused by it, but that's still a more positive reaction than she used to have which was saying "ewww" and changing the channel real fast.

Now, given, the leap from these little signs to becoming a hotwife is a huge one. And most likely, all these things mean are that she is expanding her sexuality a little as it pertains to our marriage. But, if I was keeping the odds of this ever happening, I would have put them at 25,000:1 about a month ago. And with these little recent developments I'd improve them to at least 10,000:1. Still long odds, but progress is progress. And I feel for the first time that if I can say/do the right thing at the right time, there's at least a chance that the door to my cuckoldry could swing wide open.

Still hopeful.

 

[Glenn]

Huh? Are IndyCpl and ratherbecucking the same person?

 

[ratherbecucking]

Huh? Are IndyCpl and ratherbecucking the same person?

Ha! Busted! Yes, they're both me. Like I said at the top of this thread, I've gotten my cuck fix for years now by going into chat rooms and message boards and fantasizing/roleplaying about being a true cuck. The IndyCpl handle was the one I originally created on this forum for that purpose.

But just before I started this thread, I decided that the whole make-believe-cuck-lifestyle simply wasn't doing it for me anymore and was a big waste of time. And that I needed to think about making it reality or dropping it altogether. That's when I came across the opportunity to meet with the "bull", which is what inspired me to post this thread. I figured since I was trying to turn over a new cuck leaf and take things to the next level, I should ditch my "fake" handle and start clean with a new one where I just speak about what is really going on in my life and try to get some genuine, heartfelt advice. Enough with the made-up stories that have been my release for years now.

So, I created the "ratherbecucking" account for that purpose. But it'd been awhile since I posted anything when I came on tonight and I guess I just had a brain fart when logging in and I entered the old "fake" handle that I've since retired. Old habits die hard.

Anyway, sorry for the confusion. I really am sincere about everything in this thread. I hope that some of you who have gone through that "pretend" stage before it became a reality for you can understand where I'm coming from.

 

[OneForSure]

Ratherbecucking,

I understand that this is thread is real, not a fantasy. You are not a cuck, but want to be. You realize that this won't happen by typing posts on the internet, and you need to DO something to make this happen, right?

I think that it sounds like Tash is thinking about being more sexy. Perhaps now is the time to slip her the "Science of Cuckolding" article that Custer suggested. You can say that you are not sure it's true or something else to indicate that you're not suggesting that this is what you want. You can judge her reaction and decide where to go from there.

If she is as opposed as your first post suggests, she may say it's disgusting. It's then going to be up to you to calm her down and indicate that it's not for your marriage, but just an interesting article.

Yes, go slowly, but DO SOMETHING - by starting the conversation with Tash. If you don't you'll never be cucking!