What next?
Personally, I'm surprised at the 'infighting' here!
When Sue was just getting started in this, and Steve was 'gung-ho' at, "Getting-her-out-there," Custer was posting page after page of, "Recommended material" to read, while several others were pleading with him to, "take it easy", "Go slow" and "Don't rush her into this", 'just let it happen'.
Steve did decide on the 'don't rush her' policy, and it's worked so well that 'Custer' hasn't offered any 'links' or 'sites' for years.
Though I may have some trepidation for where this could eventually go, I also know from what Steve has written, that he & Sue have talked a lot. They have shared their fantasies with each other about 'what Sue wants', as well as Steve.
If Sue wanted Steve to come to the, 'after work parties', I'm sure she would invite him. (and he would go if he could) I'm just as sure that she would not show up with her, 'tits' and 'ass' hanging out for work-mates to see.
If you want to get a glimpse of Sue's attitude, during this transition period, it would be worth going back to Steve's thread called "While we're between lovers" STB, 10.31.2010 Post #42. This was the time after Don, when they were considering something less demanding. Steve and Sue had agree'd on some specific's that would serve to move things forward, while assuring safety and spontaneity.
Post #42 quote: “.....So, over the past few weeks, as I began to mention someone like Frank, as someone who could be a potential partner, and she's come to warm up to the idea. What I'm saying is that we are both of the same feeling that perhaps, going another route, with regards to cuckoldry, or "naughty wives," as Sue says it.
She (and I agree), is now, not looking for what she had with Brad & Don. That's why she said the Frank idea might be good, because it could be less scheduled, and more spontaneous. I suggested (and she agreed), that perhaps at least at first, she not let it be known that I know what's going on.
I was a bit disappointed at some points when we were talking about all of this, and I guess it showed so she asked me if I was concerned that she was warming to the idea of ‘a Frank,’ (let me clarify here, it's more the idea than the person). I told her that, that wasn't it at all, and then I let it out that, I was going to miss some of the demands that a (Don) would make on her / us.
Some of this was earlier today, and this afternoon, as we were having a glass of wine and relaxing after raking up the leaves. The wine loosened her up, and she sidled up to me on the couch, and we kissed, and she started to tease me a bit. It was not much later that she came out and said that, she didn't need, "Him" (meaning Don), to make demands on her, and to have her, in turn make them on me. Then she said, "You know, I did sort of like making you wait sometimes."
So, for me personally, I did like the experience, (during that week that she was Don’s and not mine). I mean that week still feels so strong to me that, even now it gives me the most erotic thrill, thinking about it. She knows that it turned me on, and she's okay with that. She's also made it clear that she doesn't want that sort of relationship the next time, and she's also made clear, That there will be a next time. She's admitted that she does miss, having sex with someone else.
So, the idea of someone local, that we feel okay about, seems to be the direction we're both thinking may be a good one to try. It might give us what we want and, dare say I say, a bit of a, ‘sexually demanding side,’ coming from Sue! What a total turn on to see this happening. Her wanting again." un-quote.
Sadly, what didn't materialize with Frank, was the 'Sexually demanding part', which after Don was a factor Sue really wanted.
I think some seem to forget that Sue and Steve are, 'in this together' It is to fulfill both their need's, Not just Sue's It would not work any other way.
I have to wonder: What will become of the friendship with Frank, if Sue totally stops seeing him when she finds what she's looking for?
Cheers, Harry