My wife has cuckolded me for many years with many differnt men. I have learned a great deal from her and them about humiliation. When they humiliate me it adds to their sexaual pleasure so becomes a very important part of the act. It is a transfer of power to the one in charge. Part of the reason a woman takes a lover is for the power. They may feel it is all sexual but power is sexual. The woman wants the alpha male, she wants to submit to a real man for real pleasure. Many women don't regard their position as one of submitting to the lover but they are and they need to understand that the real reason the sex is so great is the power associated with it.
To have a real man take you in front of your husband! Thats powerfull. To be with your lover in front of your husband, thats even more powerfull. But to have your husband act completely submissive out of charecter and reinforce the power of your lover is the ultimate. That said the humiliation heaped on the husband by the lover and or the wife increases the feeling of power. if you can make the husband dress as a sissy as my wife does. Ask the or beg the lover to do what he can not that adds power and justifes any hidden guilt the wife may have. She can say, "well you pansy, you begged my lover to fuck me, what was i suposed to do turn him down?" Removing my manhood by dressing me as a sissy. making me act and look like a sissy gives her power and control and emasculates me. Any control the lover takes over the husband will impress the wife and turn her on as long as he is not cruel. Women love a stud in control and when a lover takes control and gives orders he is attractive. thius is one reason why so many white women prefer Black bulls over white. Blacks tend to be more agressive in controlling the husband.
The most effective with me are the public humiliations. My wife or her lover letting some one know i am the husband and he is her lover. For example they took me to a costume shop one day and when the female clerk approached and asked if she could help my wife said, "My lover and I are giving a party and my husband has agreed to serve at the party for us so we can spend more time together with our guests. Do you have a suitable uniform we could rent for him to wear?" My wifes lover is Black so you can imagine the look I got from the clerk. She smiled and eyes darted back and forth and told us to follow her. She took us to where they had some butler type uniforms and showed them to my wife. My wife looked at them and said, "Not what i had in mind, they are way to masculin for my husband, after all i had to take a lover to make up for his lack there of, do you have anything more apropreate for a cuckold like him?"
She smiled and said she maybe did and took my wife and us to where she had maids uniforms. My wife was delighed and said that was much better. The clerk showed us the dressing room but my wife said i should try them on right there and since no one else was in the store the clerk went for it. I was told to take off my shirt and pants and then the clerk saw that i had a bra, cami, panties and nylons on. She laughed and covered her mouth and watched as i put the maids dress on. I tried on several more and my wife choose the one she liked the best. She the nasked the clerk if she could finish me with make up an dshoes that she would pay for it. the clerk said she would and my wife and her lover left for an hour.
She asked me a few questions about had i worn a dress before and i told her i did that my wife made me wear one to serve her and her lovers dinner in. She asked me if I liked it or why did I not leave. I told her i was used to it and I guessed i was just not man enough to do that. She said she thought that may be the case meaning i was not man enough. She told me I looked good in the dress and I thanked her for helping me. She smiled and said she thought my wife did the right thing, finding a real man.
These public ******** humiliations are what have the most effect on me and teach me to do what i am told as a cuckold.