Reply to Anubis_30 (and Ms. Lexxi)
Anubis,
Regarding:
Anubis_30 said:
.... [That Ms. Lexxi convinced her husband] to happily get on board with what is essentially a tectonic shift in his entire concept of interpersonal relationships, marital roles, self-esteem, and a host of other major components of one's identity in just 3 months, is likewise laughable. You're talking about a complete reprogramming of a person's synapses in the neural net.
I suspect this assertion is not true. By way of illustration, consider that professional dominatrices cater to a thriving component of the sex-for-hire market consisting of men who seek to be humiliated by a woman... including, for instance, being "******" to wear female lingerie and clothing, spanked, whipped, ordered about in demeaning ways, fucked up the ass with a strapon, etc. Periodically (say, once a month or whatever), more than a negligible percentage of men instantaneously set aside what you refer to as "their entire concept of interpersonal relationships, marital roles, self-esteem, and a host of other major components of their identities" in order to experience such humiliation. It doesn't take them 3 months or a year to recognize this as something they want and need.
Ergo, since all forms of human behavior are imbedded in our DNA, this form of sexual or sex-related behavior (I argue) has become embedded in our DNA — along with the genetic makeup that determines everything we are — during the past ~4 to 7 million years of human and earlier hominid evolution, including the past ~200,000 years during which we homo sapiens have evolved.*
Regarding:
Anubis_30 said:
If it hasn't already started, it isn't going to happen quickly.
I suspect this assertion may be right. In response to the "if it hasn't already started" part of your sentence, I argue that a non-negligible percentage of men actively seek women for long-term relationships in which their woman will dominate and humiliate them over the long-term. If they've been married for some time and have always behaved in traditionally "macho" ways because of societal expectations, such men may try to develop strategies to persuade their wives to take the lead in their marriages including "dominating" them in humiliating ways. If you spend some time reading around in this forum, you will find quite a few of them. Obviously, submissive husbands being "dominated in humiliating ways" by their wives includes wanting their wives to humiliate them by insisting on their right to fuck other men, and doing so — usually while insisting their submissive husbands remain faithful to them.
Ms. Lexxi's husband, from her discriptions of him, appears to be such a man. That is why I pointed out to her that if she leaves her submissive cuckold for her dominant bull, she will (IMO) be abandoning an opportunity for a long, rewarding, and sexually-satisfying marriage to a man who appears to adore her, a marriage having high potential for her fucking many black lovers over time while her cuckold husband remains faithful to her and finds her sexual behavior a strong and rewarding turn-on, for an LTR or marriage that would (IMO) have high potential for not working out well, for the reasons I outlined.
Regarding the last half of that sentence:
Anubis_30 said:
.... it isn't going to happen quickly.
There are, of course, also men who are not cuckolds, or alternatively may be cuckolds or cuckold wannabe's, who maintain their "macho" views of themselves and have no intention of changing. If their wife is going to fuck other men they want to be "in control," by god. Among them are those who are objecting strenuously in this thread, presumably because they feel their "manliness" is threatened by the concept of female-led relationships and marriages.
—Custer
* [See "homo sapiens" in, e.g., Wikipedia, which notes: "Anatomically modern humans first appear in the fossil record in Africa about 195,000 years ago, and studies of molecular biology give evidence that the approximate time of divergence from the common ancestor of all modern human populations was 200,000 years ago.]
. Men are obsessed with size because as a human male animal it is probably the biggest factor in displaying our power. As an animal this is important. If he is small he will feel powerless and may have already gravitated to this interest on his own. I like to think that this interest allows me to turn a negative into a positive and lets me get something out of it at least. I think it is a natural animal behavior to end up here, with this interest, if you have a small dick. That is, if he spends anytime searching porn as most men do. So he has either already found it, or he needs help stumbling across it. If he is small, and knows it, nature will take over from there.