I suspect I should have started a new thread by now but here goes...
(Hiki - I'm with you - I tend to skip by Peak and Will's squabbling...)
First - I don't think Sue is likely to just drop Frank, at least not before she has someone else in her sights and that's not happening just yet.
But you are all correct and after our holiday-weekend, I now know more fully what she's experiencing and what she wants, etc. It's a bit of a kick to see that after all of what we've done together, that in the end, it's still not much more than your typical stereotype cuckold relationship where - she simply wants more than I can give her.
There's a range of things to convey here so I'll just start...
We'd actually not had sex all weekend - I know I wasn't online here as we were busy - but we'd also sort of agreed that we would try to wait till New Years Eve. What we did was be like high-schooler's again and we spent time on Saturday and Sunday just "making out". Kissing, petting, nibbling at her neck, grinding against each other standing in the hallway or lying in bed. Let me tell you by Monday we were hot for each other. Such that when we dropped our daughter off at her boyfriends house - our passions nearly boiled over. We all had dinner together before we dropped her off - and a glass of wine with dinner got the ball rolling for Sue and I. Followed by one, then two and into a 3rd bottle of prosecco - we were in quite the horny mood.
We'd done our share of teasing and the like all along the way. Sometimes as we'd be making-out she'd tease me about "cheating on her boyfriend" amongst other things - and all it had done was make me want her even more. By the time we got naked on New Years Eve, I was wicked horny.
As I posted already - we had quite the bout on Monday evening. What I will say struck her most was how much I wanted her - how hard my cock seemed, how forceful or aggressive I was with her, etc. After we'd had our intense fuck that culminated about 11:30ish - we lay there and talked for a while while we waited for the ball to drop in Times Square.
She said to me at one point that she wished Frank would show nearly the enthusiasm and desire that I did. It wasn't just what she said but it was how she said it too that emphasized her disappointment in him. And it is disappointment at this point that she feels. Despite the highs she was able to feel with him, it's not sustained and she says it leaves her feeling a longing.
At one point during our sex-session that night I got the belt from her bathrobe out and playfully tied up her hands to the headboard on the bed. She playfully struggled a bit (and she could have pulled free if she'd wanted) she seemed to, finally, relax and give into it. I absolutely loved making her cum like that - feeling her bring her own legs up and back to enhance her desire and seeing her struggling with her hands restrained. What felt amazing was how her body responded - a gush of wetness from her pussy - her body writhing between me and the restraints. Hearing her loud and even louder moans. After I felt she'd cum enough while restrained, I released her hands and that was when the passions overflowed.
I know we'd had a few days home to begin unwinding - coupled with our make-out sessions - that by the time Monday night got here, she was well in the mood. When we reached that point that night - all I can say is - WOW. I think we both outdid ourselves sexually. She was just so responsive - the slightest touch would bring out moans and groans. As we moved from position to position - she just got wetter and wetter until I drove her over the edge as I'd already described and I felt her body just totally give in. Had my cock not been in her I am sure she would have spurted her juices all over the bed - as it was she came violently under me as I fucked the heck out of her and it's been years since I've felt her cum like that.
As we lay together afterwards she told me that what I'd just done to her was as intense as what she'd felt with Frank (and that really made me feel good) and she asked me "is it terrible of me to want to feel that with another man?" and that was when she made her comment about wishing Frank would want her like that too.
I held her tightly and we talked about how she wishes sex could be like this with me all the time - and how in the future it might return to that - once the kids are out of the house and such. But we both knew even without saying it that it simply won't happen like that - that as husband and wife with a house and jobs and a family - that we can't be that sexually aggressive with each other - and in that unspoken moment I know that we both knew that this is why she wants a lover. That she and I will always have these times - New Years Eve, vacations together, etc., where we will reach this passion again - but I also know she'd like to feel it more often than that - and that she can really only get that with another guy.
We talked pretty openly about how she's simply not feeling the type or level of desire that she wants from Frank. I asked if he's aware of it and she's saying that this seems to be how he is - which may also explain what went south in his marriage if he sexual desires tend to decrease over time. At one point I told Sue that she deserves a lover who will truly want her. I think we both understand the possible implications of that but we didn't talk about it much more other than for her to say that while she's disappointed at times with Frank, that she does still enjoy the time they spend together. As she put it "he still makes me cum" - and again she asked me if I was truly okay with her wanting to feel this type of sexual fulfillment she wants with another guy.
I told her honestly that I loved what it has all done for our own relationship. I said that it'd taken me a while to come to accept and embrace it all but I looked at her and said "it is just sex" and how after the closeness and tenderness that we've felt and all we've gone through in the past few months, that I thought it had been a good thing. She agreed and with a little hesitation she admitted/owned-up to wanting and even needing sex like this more often and again wanted the security of my telling her that I am okay with her getting it from another guy.
We did talk about Frank and she said what I'd said above - that she wasn't just going to drop him. That was part of when she said "he does still make me cum". (and I have to tell you all - it is so erotic to hear her say that like that - to openly admit and enjoy that she cums with another guy). I didn't ask about when or how she'd find another lover but merely said that I'd think she'd probably wean herself off of Frank when another guy caught her eye. She giggled and said that I was probably right. And that was when she said "but I think I'd always spread my legs for him if he really wanted" - her admission to what I'd long thought - that I didn't know if she was ever going to give up Frank totally or be totally turned off on him, despite her complaints at times.
Harry - you pointed me back to the postings I'd made when she was seeing Don and how some of these issues were ones we'd discussed back then. I did go back and re-read a lot of what was in my head back then. Wow - I guess I have come a long way...
What I see as the biggest difference - and it may be the one that is influencing me - is that back then it was Sue that wasn't ready for his requests/demands. I re-read and it truly brought back so many memories of her own struggle back then between where she was at the time vs. what Don wanted of her. I know that back then she wasn't nearly ready or confident enough to be able to accept what Don had wanted.
So the bigger question, which I think has already been answered, is what is going to happen when it is something she wants. I know in my heart that while I love having sex with her - bareback or even with a condom - that in my heart I also now know that if she ever truly, honestly and openly came to me that SHE wanted to do things with her lover and not me, that I now think I would - reluctantly perhaps - accept them and make the best of it.
But isn't that merely confirming that I am a cuckold?
I re-read what I'd posted from her/our time with Don and I know I can personally see so much growth and maturity in her since then. Sorry if I'm rambling on......