Upmeplease,
upmeplease69 said:
My wife is adamant that any activities take place away from the house or when our children are away, as she does not want our children ******* to anything.... and no accidental slip-ups!
Your wife's view is reasonable. Your life as her cuckold will go much more smoothly, and your home life will be much more peaceful, if you comply with her wishes. Others have suggested this (above), and I agree.
upmeplease69 said:
With regards to panties, my wife told our children I lost a bet with her; therefore I have to wear panties all this year.
Very good! Your wife has you on the right track. She has broken ground for later developments, so to speak, by informing your children she has pantied you and you have accepted that. A year will be plenty of time for her to think of a gentle and plausible way to inform them you have become her permanently-pantied husband.
upmeplease69 said:
Although this is not the case [i.e., the "bet"], she has the power in our bedroom and also knows her husband is wearing panties.
Excellent! Your wife is moving forward, and is moving you forward, nicely.
Regarding your original question: I suggest the most positive way to proceed — given your family situation, your wife's wishes, and the fact she has pantied you and is taking the lead in your sexual relationship — would be for the two of you to agree it is her prerogative to date other men and take lovers as she wishes, while you must remain faithful. This would facilitate you staying home, caring for and "being there" for your children while your wife dates. I suggest also making it a part of your agreement that you will do so.
As you and your wife move in this direction, as it appears you will, it may be helpful for both of you to read:
http://cuckoldcouple.wordpress.com/the-science-of-cuckoldry/
By way of considering the future, you and your wife might want to read the thread by ffred (of Germany) that starts here:
http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/11114-living-cuckold-lifestyle-children-home.html
As you will see, he and his wife Nadine dealt successfully with the problem of how to inform their grown daughter of their cuckold husband / hot wife marriage, and talk with her about why they live that way, when she became curious and verified for herself that her mother was fucking other men. (Briefly, after initial feelings of angst Nadine and Fred became much closer to their daughter. I don't know what the situation is vis-a-vis their grown son. To my knowledge, Fred hasn't said anything on this forum about communicating with him vis-a-vis he and Nadine's lifestyle.)
Regards—
Custer