Aceface,
Aceface123 said:
I am 40 and have been married for 10 years. About 4 years ago my wife cut me off, saying sex was boring and it was not important to her anymore.
Nothing unreasonable about that. It seems like the sort of thing any 10 year or 10 year-plus married woman might have done...
Aceface123 said:
I have no evidence that she has seen anyone else. But, I found out she signed up for a "boudoir session" next week.
Thanks for your explanation of what a "boudoir session" is. Otherwise I too would have asked, "what's that?"
Aceface123 said:
As it should, of course...
Aceface123 said:
Either she is taking pics for someone else to see, or she has had a sexual reawakening. If the latter, I'm pretty sure it won't be [directed] toward me.
Or both, you might have said. Either or both seem likely at this point, and your inference seems reasonable as well.
Aceface123 said:
Any thoughts? I don't want to confront her since I want to see who she calls and what she does after.
I suggest enjoying your delicious state of uncertainty. If you can determine who your wife starts calling after her "boudoir session," or who she begins communicating with on her computer, without her realizing you're snooping around in her affairs (so to speak), that may be the best strategy.
If being overly snoopy (which I don't recommend) does not appeal to you, you might, instead, begin being aware of the usual signs of an affair... working late, being gone at times when she usually isn't for reasons that seem slightly implausible, paying more attention to her appearance and looking good when she leaves the house, etc.
If it becomes apparent your wife is having or attempting to initiate an affair, you'll probably have to start talking with her about it. That, of course, will be best done in ways that are non-confrontational. In essence, I suggest giving your wife permission (sans arguing) to start dating other men and taking lovers, even if she protests she isn't doing that and has no desire to do so.
—Custer