Always good to see an update and that all appears to be going in a direction that works for each of you.
It is good that you and Linda have continued have discussions about how things are today and how they could be in the future. In either case, assuming that Linda is seeking to have Tom involved long-term, it is good that you and he are both more comfortable with each other and are also comfortable with your respective rolls within the household and your respective relationships with Linda overall. As I am sure you know, your marriage, your relationship with Linda includes multiple alternative lifestyle choices.
Custer Laststand made some great points on ‘Adult Baby Bev’ with Linda’s preference; it does seem that Linda desires to protect you both (herself and you) from what could be considered public ridicule by those that are external to your immediate social circle which may be more understanding. I would agree that if that is her concern, it would seem a reasonable perspective. As you already know, living as an ‘adult baby’ is not as widely accepted in society as other alternative lifestyle choices are these days. With that said, as long as you and your wife are in agreement with your alternative lifestyle choice, then you should confidently embrace it while also respecting Linda’s boundaries and concerns.
As to Tom’s perspective and with consideration to some things that were mentioned in the past, each couple approaches the inclusion of another person within the marriage for a variety of reasons. In your scenario, yours began as an early version of ‘adult Baby Bev’ that evolved over time. While Linda appears to be very supportive of your desire and need to be ‘adult Baby Bev’; Linda sought out and took a lover with your encouragement. To better understand Tom’s point of view, did he ever view you as Linda’s cuckold husband? It has been my understanding that he has always known you as a version of ‘adult Baby Bev’ and by the time Linda began seeing Tom, you had already transitioned into the spare bedroom which had been decorated to match your role in the home. As a result, it would seem that Tom began his relationship with Linda as the alpha male in the relationship and it would seem as if he has grown to fully accept how each of you fit within your 3-way relationship.
As noted by Custer Laststand during his prior reply to you, considering the relationship between Linda and Tom along with how Tom sees you within the 3-way relationship; while Linda may choose to minimize your ******** to the public as ‘adult Baby Bev’, I do believe that you being ******* a type of cuckold husband is inevitable as the relationship between Tom and Linda will eventually go public. There has already been talk about coming out to your immediate family (adult children, etc.) and the more public Linda and Tom are as a couple, they will be sharing the happiness of your relationship with each of their friends which likely will include your mutual friends. When your family and friends see the two of them together as a couple, at some point they will be accept as the primary couple as Tom transitions into the home as a live-in lover, as the alpha male within the home. At some point, someone will question Linda as to why and when that happens, what will Linda share with your friends and immediate family? Will she eventually open up about ‘adult Baby Bev’ or will you two as a couple come up with a framework for sharing that would be acceptable for all three of you as the basis for the inclusion of Tom and why you and Linda have chosen this lifestyle? As I previously mentioned to you in a PM, in a prior relationship, my than wife and I had developed what we commonly referred to as a Poly with a cuck-twist, as she and her lover became the primary couple yet we were loving Poly-Triad of sorts. I would agree with you that Tom’s suggestion about more or less ******** you to others as ‘adult Baby Bev’ does reinforce each of your respective roles within the relationship.
It is good that you and Linda have continued have discussions about how things are today and how they could be in the future. In either case, assuming that Linda is seeking to have Tom involved long-term, it is good that you and he are both more comfortable with each other and are also comfortable with your respective rolls within the household and your respective relationships with Linda overall. As I am sure you know, your marriage, your relationship with Linda includes multiple alternative lifestyle choices.
Custer Laststand made some great points on ‘Adult Baby Bev’ with Linda’s preference; it does seem that Linda desires to protect you both (herself and you) from what could be considered public ridicule by those that are external to your immediate social circle which may be more understanding. I would agree that if that is her concern, it would seem a reasonable perspective. As you already know, living as an ‘adult baby’ is not as widely accepted in society as other alternative lifestyle choices are these days. With that said, as long as you and your wife are in agreement with your alternative lifestyle choice, then you should confidently embrace it while also respecting Linda’s boundaries and concerns.
As to Tom’s perspective and with consideration to some things that were mentioned in the past, each couple approaches the inclusion of another person within the marriage for a variety of reasons. In your scenario, yours began as an early version of ‘adult Baby Bev’ that evolved over time. While Linda appears to be very supportive of your desire and need to be ‘adult Baby Bev’; Linda sought out and took a lover with your encouragement. To better understand Tom’s point of view, did he ever view you as Linda’s cuckold husband? It has been my understanding that he has always known you as a version of ‘adult Baby Bev’ and by the time Linda began seeing Tom, you had already transitioned into the spare bedroom which had been decorated to match your role in the home. As a result, it would seem that Tom began his relationship with Linda as the alpha male in the relationship and it would seem as if he has grown to fully accept how each of you fit within your 3-way relationship.
As noted by Custer Laststand during his prior reply to you, considering the relationship between Linda and Tom along with how Tom sees you within the 3-way relationship; while Linda may choose to minimize your ******** to the public as ‘adult Baby Bev’, I do believe that you being ******* a type of cuckold husband is inevitable as the relationship between Tom and Linda will eventually go public. There has already been talk about coming out to your immediate family (adult children, etc.) and the more public Linda and Tom are as a couple, they will be sharing the happiness of your relationship with each of their friends which likely will include your mutual friends. When your family and friends see the two of them together as a couple, at some point they will be accept as the primary couple as Tom transitions into the home as a live-in lover, as the alpha male within the home. At some point, someone will question Linda as to why and when that happens, what will Linda share with your friends and immediate family? Will she eventually open up about ‘adult Baby Bev’ or will you two as a couple come up with a framework for sharing that would be acceptable for all three of you as the basis for the inclusion of Tom and why you and Linda have chosen this lifestyle? As I previously mentioned to you in a PM, in a prior relationship, my than wife and I had developed what we commonly referred to as a Poly with a cuck-twist, as she and her lover became the primary couple yet we were loving Poly-Triad of sorts. I would agree with you that Tom’s suggestion about more or less ******** you to others as ‘adult Baby Bev’ does reinforce each of your respective roles within the relationship.
