Why do we crave this? When did you get the fever? Do you want it to stop? Are you hoping for a cure?

[UKMarriedMarcus]

If I’m being honest my theory/personal interest is a bit on the tragic side. Much like a sexual assault victim who becomes promiscuous afterward as an attempt, consciously or subconsciously, to “normalize” sex and therefore invalidate the trauma they were put through. I’ve been with my wife longer than I’ve been without her at this point but early on in our relationship we were the on again/ off again couple. And each time we were off, we slept with other people. As a young romantic, I believed in the Disney BS version of love and 1 man with 1 woman, the sanctity of chastity and loyalty. Basically that each time another man “had her”, it somehow lessened how special what we had was. At some point, I think my subconscious created this “sharing” kink in an attempt to invalidate the pain of knowing she’d been with other men after me.

This is all theory and speculation of course. And it doesn’t change the fact now that the one time it happened, I loved seeing her breasts in another man’s hands and her pussy stretched around his slick cock as he pumped her raw! But also, at that time I felt secure that she’d never leave me since we were engaged to be married at the time and that security made me feel safe sharing her in that way. That too was proven wrong years later when she told me she was “unhappy” and proceeded to have nearly a year long affair. And no, that did not feed the fantasy. Quite the opposite.

Also, the Disney/Traditional version of love is BS! Or at least that’s what I believe now.

God that resonates with me so much. I strongly suspected my 43 year old wife of wanting to stray but could never quite find any evidence , even after we had shared endless fantasies at her instigation ,all about her having sex with others .


In the end I persuaded a good friend who she didnt know to message her and it was soon obvious that she not only enjoyed the attention , and flirting , but was eager to actually meet up with him , all of which he told me.

It excited and sickened me in equal measure , and nearly drove me crazy , but like you, I rationialized it as normal desire

I couldn't bear the idea of her continuing to lie to me so we have now agreed to meet another man "to satisfy *my* curiosity" (she says) .

I'm not sure how it will end up but I'm willing to go through with it. Yes it excites me in some measure but the main reason is that I know she will do it with or without my approval or participation

 

[Bartsimpson]

It's never happened to me. But I fantaze about my wife been taking by a big cocked gent & used for his pleasure.
I'm stroking me little dick thinking about it

 

[DanWilson]

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We just fell into it when my wife told me my best friend made it obvious he fancied her , she told me we both got turned on, so gradually week by week she took it further , from then on we had the most wonderful sex life we never wanted it to end but sadly it did a few years ago after over 40 years he was living with us when he died , but we would do it all over again , we had a very fullfilled life

It's strange how these things happen. One minute you're jealous, and the next minute you're not.

 

[CreamyBill]

It's never happened to me. But I fantaze about my wife been taking by a big cocked gent & used for his pleasure.
I'm stroking me little dick thinking about it

Fantasy's can be very horny,where wives are concerned.When in the zone I will congratulate her on taking so deep that BBC asking if I can have the honour of cleaning her cream pie. Even though she likes my fantasy but has never showed and enthusiasm about making it happen. She does admire dicks though.