Why are there so many fakes in the lifestyle?

[wellhunginnyc]

I've only just begun to actively seek out a cuck couple but it became apparent to me very quickly that legitimate cuck couples are few and far between. I understand this is not for everybody. I also understand that not everybody is looking for the same thing. But even with those things in mind is boggles my mind as to some of the stuff I've experienced. For example:

* I've had a few guys who tell me they're looking for a hung bull and later reveal that they're really looking for a guy to seduce their wife who has no idea about any of this.
* Men posing as half of a couple in a lame attempt to solicit pics from me
* Couples that want to appear to be legit but back out or don't return emails at the last minutes
* Couple that want to make plans "someday" or if they're "in the area". What a great way to straddle the fence while you get to hide behind a keyboard and jerkoff.

I guess maybe that's just the nature of the internet - having to wade through a lot of trash to get to what you want. But believe me it's very frustrating.

 

[Meat4MySweet]

funny thing is it goes both ways.......

we have run into a ton of phoney "bulls" simply looking for pics of my girl naked.......

thats the price of looking for sex on the web........we share your frustration ....

 

[tuppinsinmo]

Hm

As said it works both way and I have certainly heard it from both sides. Yet, I will give some thoughts to the original post because the second response is self explanatory for sure. Many guys just get a turn on seeing someones wife naked, instead of model.

1. Sometimes at least many that post here are just fantasying about what they think they want to have happen. If it really did they would be the first to toss her out on her ass. Dreaming about it and jerking off is a hell of whole lot different then waiting on her to come home and wonder and worry that goes with it. Fear of HIV or some STD is always side effect of those who want the cream pies, the danger of her getting hurt, or the ideal of losing of her attention, and on and on.
2. Many men that post here or closet gays who want you to think they have a wife, when in fact what they want you to be is their bull. Others are cross dressers who might have a real wife that accepts the mixed role but again its the guy who wants you not the women.
3. If a woman wants to play, any woman, even one ugly as hell never really has a problem of finding a willing male. Why take the risks that are involved, and time and effort of going after some guy on line, who might be a ******, or a murderer. After all a lot of men that post on this site are doing it from the prison library computers.
4. My wife and I are often asked if we would be willing to meet someone from this site or others we belong too. So far the answer has always been no. Again safety is a issue, she has to be in the mood, and she has to be home, we both travel a great deal in our jobs, so planning a encounter with a stranger from the net is not easy to set up.
5. Costs, seems that often the guy who is planning to fuck your wife thinks you should wine and dine him, pay for a motel room, and then let him do what ever he wants with your woman. As my wife put it, why in the hell would I pay for a fuck when I can get a new one every day if I want to.
6. The bullshit of normal or regular boyfriends for a sex partner, is more then sharing your wife sex organs, then your really sharing her and your life, truth is not many people really go in for this, and most who do end in divorce.
7. My wife and I have been to gather for almost nine years, she has played, had some bad experiences, where at one time she would do something almost weekly now she is not sure she even wants to continue to play. Many of the bragging bulls don't know how to do any thing more then jamb it in, pump hard, in five minutes its over. As she puts it hell I can last for hour on my bad days and two or more on a good one. Not one guy that ever has fucked her has given her what we have at home. She does it more for me, and my pushing to have her do it.
8. This site is not a good site, or any like it to really find honest open couples. You would be off if your honest, STD free, and good looking or at least with a big cock to join a local swingers club, or private sites that do charge for membership but at least those that are paying seem to be more honest.
9. My last point, to many guys watch way to many pornos and have no ideal real sex is not like the movies, this is true for women as well. Cuckolding is not about white or black, it is a bout a wife that cheats on her husband in pure definition. So a cheating wife is more likely to be found in private chat rooms or groups. If you want what is really known as a hot wifing, or open relationship wifes, same is true. To many crazies on sites like this one. What real man wants what most of the posters put on this site. The answer is the ones that are dreaming and jerking off and not really married.

 

[clokilumy]

I was one who answered...ur post once..n here it is..

Quote:
Originally Posted by clokilumy
i am dying to get her into lifestyle....need something like that to break her in!..check out her pics

YOU: "Great pics. I'd love to play with her sometime. Is she into this?"




This was from me to you..... NEVER HAVE I OR WOULD I SAY SHE(MY WIFE) IS INTO THIS LIFESTYLE> THE 3 POSTS I HAVE PUT ON THIS SITE, was for help getting her into lifestyle. Place i could take her, and things of that nature. So to even see or read a post like yours is a cop out and sad. Everyones female does not want this lifestyle, even if WE do. I am not a cuck, nor do i want to eat a filled pussy. I enjoy fucking and gang bangs. I am open about sex, and enjoy it with 3 men and a girl or 3 girls and a man.
I have a wife, who was raised religiously who refuses a life i always enjoyed. So i am stuck in a place where i accept but want to wish for a possiblity. My wife once jokes sarcastically if she did it, it has to be worth it. Meaning larger than me, so that is the only reason i care about size. So i can have that point covered, just in case.
I do not know if your girl is in the lifestyle, or if you share her. Maybe you dont even have a girl right now. Who knows, but if you do. I hope you do not have that same attitude with her.
Because at least, all people arent bullshitters..

 

[wellhunginnyc]

As said it works both way and I have certainly heard it from both sides. Yet, I will give some thoughts to the original post because the second response is self explanatory for sure. Many guys just get a turn on seeing someones wife naked, instead of model.

1. Sometimes at least many that post here are just fantasying about what they think they want to have happen. If it really did they would be the first to toss her out on her ass. Dreaming about it and jerking off is a hell of whole lot different then waiting on her to come home and wonder and worry that goes with it. Fear of HIV or some STD is always side effect of those who want the cream pies, the danger of her getting hurt, or the ideal of losing of her attention, and on and on.
2. Many men that post here or closet gays who want you to think they have a wife, when in fact what they want you to be is their bull. Others are cross dressers who might have a real wife that accepts the mixed role but again its the guy who wants you not the women.
3. If a woman wants to play, any woman, even one ugly as hell never really has a problem of finding a willing male. Why take the risks that are involved, and time and effort of going after some guy on line, who might be a ******, or a murderer. After all a lot of men that post on this site are doing it from the prison library computers.
4. My wife and I are often asked if we would be willing to meet someone from this site or others we belong too. So far the answer has always been no. Again safety is a issue, she has to be in the mood, and she has to be home, we both travel a great deal in our jobs, so planning a encounter with a stranger from the net is not easy to set up.
5. Costs, seems that often the guy who is planning to fuck your wife thinks you should wine and dine him, pay for a motel room, and then let him do what ever he wants with your woman. As my wife put it, why in the hell would I pay for a fuck when I can get a new one every day if I want to.
6. The bullshit of normal or regular boyfriends for a sex partner, is more then sharing your wife sex organs, then your really sharing her and your life, truth is not many people really go in for this, and most who do end in divorce.
7. My wife and I have been to gather for almost nine years, she has played, had some bad experiences, where at one time she would do something almost weekly now she is not sure she even wants to continue to play. Many of the bragging bulls don't know how to do any thing more then jamb it in, pump hard, in five minutes its over. As she puts it hell I can last for hour on my bad days and two or more on a good one. Not one guy that ever has fucked her has given her what we have at home. She does it more for me, and my pushing to have her do it.
8. This site is not a good site, or any like it to really find honest open couples. You would be off if your honest, STD free, and good looking or at least with a big cock to join a local swingers club, or private sites that do charge for membership but at least those that are paying seem to be more honest.
9. My last point, to many guys watch way to many pornos and have no ideal real sex is not like the movies, this is true for women as well. Cuckolding is not about white or black, it is a bout a wife that cheats on her husband in pure definition. So a cheating wife is more likely to be found in private chat rooms or groups. If you want what is really known as a hot wifing, or open relationship wifes, same is true. To many crazies on sites like this one. What real man wants what most of the posters put on this site. The answer is the ones that are dreaming and jerking off and not really married.

It's obvious you took some time to write this out so I appreciate it. I'll take it under advisement.

However one thing jumped out at me:
"After all a lot of men that post on this site are doing it from the prison library computers."
I don't think that's even physically possible. Was this in jest?

 

[wellhunginnyc]

Quote:
Originally Posted by clokilumy
i am dying to get her into lifestyle....need something like that to break her in!..check out her pics

YOU: "Great pics. I'd love to play with her sometime. Is she into this?"




This was from me to you..... NEVER HAVE I OR WOULD I SAY SHE(MY WIFE) IS INTO THIS LIFESTYLE> THE 3 POSTS I HAVE PUT ON THIS SITE, was for help getting her into lifestyle. Place i could take her, and things of that nature. So to even see or read a post like yours is a cop out and sad. Everyones female does not want this lifestyle, even if WE do. I am not a cuck, nor do i want to eat a filled pussy. I enjoy fucking and gang bangs. I am open about sex, and enjoy it with 3 men and a girl or 3 girls and a man.
I have a wife, who was raised religiously who refuses a life i always enjoyed. So i am stuck in a place where i accept but want to wish for a possiblity. My wife once jokes sarcastically if she did it, it has to be worth it. Meaning larger than me, so that is the only reason i care about size. So i can have that point covered, just in case.
I do not know if your girl is in the lifestyle, or if you share her. Maybe you dont even have a girl right now. Who knows, but if you do. I hope you do not have that same attitude with her.
Because at least, all people arent bullshitters..

I know you PM'ed me but I also received several others. The impetus for my original post wasn't your PM so don't take personally. I understand you were working with limited information at the time you wrote your post.

I don't understand the anger you seem to have. Is it frustration? You said your wife isn't into this sort of thing but it's just a fantasy for you. That's cool I guess. To each their own. As long as you don't put yourself out there as couple looking to meet and this doesn't seem to be the case then I have no issue with you.

My post is neither a "cop out" nor "sad" but rather is the sum of my experiences thus far.

My suggestion to you is just relax and try not to be so up tight. Like I said a few sentences ago, my post wasn't about you specifically so don't take it as such.

 

[wellhunginnyc]

I'm bumping this because it happened again. I guess sincerity is too much to ask for.

 

[chicagobaby79]

I think

this is not just a cuckold lifestyle problem, but an internet one in general. There are a lot of keyboard jackers who are too scared to meet in "r/l," as they would say.

My girl and I put an ad on craigslist about a month ago, and out of 40 or 50 responses we had ONE person that met our criteria and met us in real life.

It's disheartening; we're starting to look into area swing clubs at this point, because we're tired of the fakes.

 

[sissyfairy]

agreement here

As said it works both way and I have certainly heard it from both sides. Yet, I will give some thoughts to the original post because the second response is self explanatory for sure. Many guys just get a turn on seeing someones wife naked, instead of model.

1. Sometimes at least many that post here are just fantasying about what they think they want to have happen. If it really did they would be the first to toss her out on her ass. Dreaming about it and jerking off is a hell of whole lot different then waiting on her to come home and wonder and worry that goes with it. Fear of HIV or some STD is always side effect of those who want the cream pies, the danger of her getting hurt, or the ideal of losing of her attention, and on and on.
2. Many men that post here or closet gays who want you to think they have a wife, when in fact what they want you to be is their bull. Others are cross dressers who might have a real wife that accepts the mixed role but again its the guy who wants you not the women.
3. If a woman wants to play, any woman, even one ugly as hell never really has a problem of finding a willing male. Why take the risks that are involved, and time and effort of going after some guy on line, who might be a ******, or a murderer. After all a lot of men that post on this site are doing it from the prison library computers.
4. My wife and I are often asked if we would be willing to meet someone from this site or others we belong too. So far the answer has always been no. Again safety is a issue, she has to be in the mood, and she has to be home, we both travel a great deal in our jobs, so planning a encounter with a stranger from the net is not easy to set up.
5. Costs, seems that often the guy who is planning to fuck your wife thinks you should wine and dine him, pay for a motel room, and then let him do what ever he wants with your woman. As my wife put it, why in the hell would I pay for a fuck when I can get a new one every day if I want to.
6. The bullshit of normal or regular boyfriends for a sex partner, is more then sharing your wife sex organs, then your really sharing her and your life, truth is not many people really go in for this, and most who do end in divorce.
7. My wife and I have been to gather for almost nine years, she has played, had some bad experiences, where at one time she would do something almost weekly now she is not sure she even wants to continue to play. Many of the bragging bulls don't know how to do any thing more then jamb it in, pump hard, in five minutes its over. As she puts it hell I can last for hour on my bad days and two or more on a good one. Not one guy that ever has fucked her has given her what we have at home. She does it more for me, and my pushing to have her do it.
8. This site is not a good site, or any like it to really find honest open couples. You would be off if your honest, STD free, and good looking or at least with a big cock to join a local swingers club, or private sites that do charge for membership but at least those that are paying seem to be more honest.
9. My last point, to many guys watch way to many pornos and have no ideal real sex is not like the movies, this is true for women as well. Cuckolding is not about white or black, it is a bout a wife that cheats on her husband in pure definition. So a cheating wife is more likely to be found in private chat rooms or groups. If you want what is really known as a hot wifing, or open relationship wifes, same is true. To many crazies on sites like this one. What real man wants what most of the posters put on this site. The answer is the ones that are dreaming and jerking off and not really married.

one other factor here is perhaps in some cases the wife does not actually want to do it, so is only involved to a certain extent but as she still loves her husband does not want to go any further, most we have found though are fakes

 

[ohcpl4blk2use]

There are real people everywhere, I promise. It just takes some getting through the crap to get to the real ones. I am real, Jason is real. I have pics to prove it as well as a lovely pussy to prove.

I wish you luck on your search.

Erin

 

[StuffItIn]

I don't think it's so much "fakes in the lifestyle" as it is "fakes on sites like these".

Coming here, it's easy for you, me, or anyone else to pretend they are a cuck, cuckoldress, bull, etc... whatever you want, go nuts and no one will know.

You and I both know that all of the wife pics here in the forums are not real. I've posted pics of my wife in the past to get some comments, and it's hot as hell as far as I'm concerned. I'm not a cuck. Some days I'd like to be, some days I wouldn't. I had thought about arranging to meet someone local to us from this site, but I decided it wasn't in the best interest as expectations would be too high going on what I had read here in the forums. We *have* met some guys in clubs, and explored some fantasies. We're not looking for a 'boyfriend' for my wife, simply to fuck around every now and then to be honest. lol.

I guess I'm getting off topic now, so I won't continue on with anything about us.... but keep searching for exactly what you're looking for. Just remember that women do not need to post on a site similar to this to find a guy, and guys don't need to post here to find someone to fuck their wife. Find someone in the local scene, and I think wit the right attitude you'll find exactly what you are looking for, and much more.

 

[Tiger_Bull]

I don't think it's so much "fakes in the lifestyle" as it is "fakes on sites like these".

Coming here, it's easy for you, me, or anyone else to pretend they are a cuck, cuckoldress, bull, etc... whatever you want, go nuts and no one will know.

You and I both know that all of the wife pics here in the forums are not real. I've posted pics of my wife in the past to get some comments, and it's hot as hell as far as I'm concerned. I'm not a cuck. Some days I'd like to be, some days I wouldn't. I had thought about arranging to meet someone local to us from this site, but I decided it wasn't in the best interest as expectations would be too high going on what I had read here in the forums. We *have* met some guys in clubs, and explored some fantasies. We're not looking for a 'boyfriend' for my wife, simply to fuck around every now and then to be honest. lol.

I guess I'm getting off topic now, so I won't continue on with anything about us.... but keep searching for exactly what you're looking for. Just remember that women do not need to post on a site similar to this to find a guy, and guys don't need to post here to find someone to fuck their wife. Find someone in the local scene, and I think wit the right attitude you'll find exactly what you are looking for, and much more.

this place is for sharing ideas man...it is not ONLY for searching for others...so take it easy buddy

 

[boxerkink@yahoo.com]

there are a lot of very frightened fantasizers!

yes, whether it is just a fantasy to play with, a fear of STDs, a fear of the REAL THING! A lot of guys are all talk and no walk. I don;t waste my time with couples who won't play play for real and I am not into chat or fone sex.
However, I have done a lot of hotwuives in real life and also played at GB house parties, as bother the creampie clean up guy AND as the bull-stud. I highly urge all you fakes to break out of your shells and give the real thing a try! HIV tests are easily available now and other STDs are what you fear. See my yahoo group at Yahoo! Groups

 

[StuffItIn]

this place is for sharing ideas man...it is not ONLY for searching for others...so take it easy buddy

I think you took my post the wrong way, and I apologize if I misled or said anything to give off that tone as that's certainly not how I meant it.

My point was simply that it's easy for someone to come to a site such as this, and advertise they are looking for a bull (for example). Where locally, with the right crowd, you may find what you are looking for a bit quicker.

No offense intended.

 

[Meat4MySweet]

well said............mac...

 

[Jessica Jaimes]

I've only just begun to actively seek out a cuck couple but it became apparent to me very quickly that legitimate cuck couples are few and far between. I understand this is not for everybody. I also understand that not everybody is looking for the same thing. But even with those things in mind is boggles my mind as to some of the stuff I've experienced. For example:

* I've had a few guys who tell me they're looking for a hung bull and later reveal that they're really looking for a guy to seduce their wife who has no idea about any of this.
* Men posing as half of a couple in a lame attempt to solicit pics from me
* Couples that want to appear to be legit but back out or don't return emails at the last minutes
* Couple that want to make plans "someday" or if they're "in the area". What a great way to straddle the fence while you get to hide behind a keyboard and jerkoff.

I guess maybe that's just the nature of the internet - having to wade through a lot of trash to get to what you want. But believe me it's very frustrating.

I've run into all those things and some really lame stories, the one I get all the time is the guy contacting me telling me his girl wants to do a threesome, but she is always too busy to talk to me herself, and then when we decide on a date she gets called in to work but I can come over anyway. Yeah right! I'll be the one taking a frying pan to the head when the girl gets home early! One guy tried to get me to come over sight unseen and his girlfriend wanted to give me to him as a present, he was going to leave the door unlocked and I was to come in and get in bed with him, but unfortunately she had to work. I always wondered if he got that to work somehow. All these guys once you insist on talking to the partner disappear.
Sometimes I think testosterone is more mind altering than the strongest narcotic. You're right you have to wade through the trash to find the prizes.
xoxo,
Jessica

 

[wellhunginnyc]

Happened again.

I had an ad up on craigslist and was contacted by several people. One of these people claimed to be a cuck couple in my area based on the email address they were using. They never made it clear if it was the husband, the wife, or both that were emailing me.

Anyway, the ad they responded to had pictures of myself in it. Their initial email to me asked for more pictures. When I said I would do that only if they first sent some of themselves to me they explained "well I'm married so I can't do that".

I hate this shit.

 

[Glenn]

Well, to start, and for what it's worth (nothing really), I am a REAL (non-traditional) cuck. I've been around the net for a number of years of course (early 80's), and occasionally read and post to forums and sites such as these, and I must agree that MOST of the stuff that I read is OBVIOUSLY fake. I've just come to accept it. Guys fantasize about many different things, and that's not a crime. At this point, I simply consider it pretending (kinda like role-play I guess). Personally I prefer honesty though, so I tend to just move along if the pretending is too silly.

Now, if you are SERIOUS about finding a couple then I would recommend a paid adult matching site AND/OR a swing club.

As for the adult matching sites (such as adultfriendfinder), you will still find a LOT of fakes, but you will also find enough REAL people to give you some real hope. That said, if you are a single male looking for a couple, you will need to be patient (and/or lucky). The 'cuckold' fetish does exist but is not as common as it seems.

As for swing clubs, SOME allow single men on Friday nights. Such nights are not as busy as a regular 'couples only' night of course, and there will be a LOT of competition (ie, single men). Also, it's VERY expensive for single men to attend (usually double that of a couple's admission) - typically a single man will have to pay around $80 admission, AND there are NO guarantees.