my experience.
here's a twist on the "first" scenerio - my first time was with a girl who admitted to having a previous blk bf. she also said that she'd never had sex before either. Keep in mind, i was pretty inexperienced. Anyways, foreplay was always incredible, and she's still the only woman i've been with who could "take" more than two fingers.
The "big day" finally comes, and we have sex for the first time, at 2 a.m., in her bedroom. I was prepared to expect her to have discomfort, to have to go easy etc.
but didn't have anything like that happen. Instead, she had no problems taking all of me..and then some. "Roomy" is one way to explain how she felt.
we had a lot of sex over the few months we were together, and tried a lot of stuff. anal. every position you could imagine. public play. but she never seemed to "fit," in the sense that i felt like she could easily take two-three times me.
well, we broke it off after awhile - it wasn't a healthy relationship, or a good break up. My experiences with women afterwards who'd never had sex before were very much like i expected - it took care, time, a "gentle touch" to make the first time more than just a painful experience for them.
And while this girl never did say i wasn't good in bed (quite the contrary), or was small (i'm only 4.5 inches), she did say that she had been sneaking around with another guy.
She made me well aware that her and her blk ex were still in contact with one another during our relationship. I'm convinced, based on what i know now, that they were sleeping together too.
so that's my take on the "black guy taking virginity" story.