You are correct whtgirl4. My wife and met at an IR club years ago, she occasionally liked to be with Black Men, and I enjoyed ( and still do ) being in the company of Black Women. We are still free to persue these feelings when we wish. The rest of the time, we are a happily married white couple.
The idea of being a wanker watching is not part of my character. What a Black friend and she do is their business not mine. The white guys out there wanting their spouse to "go Black" have never really thought out what they are desiring. The vast large majority of them will never make an attempt to satisfy this fantasy.
The ones that get me are the single males who claim, I want my GF to be "blacked". Yeah sure, then go hang at IR clubs, identify a white female who dances with black and white guys alike. Introduce yourself to her, just be yourself, get to know each other and exchange this fantasy idea with her.
BTW, leave out this crap about wanting to wank.
However, I doubt of this will happen to the majority of those in the forum or chat room, because it requires contact with real people and fantasy is out the window.