First, this thread is NOT going to help you guys who are here looking for a 'sex fix' or a one-night stand, although I will touch on that at some point in the post. I have watched all manner of guys attempting to connect with the woman who will be compatible with, complement, and complete him. They join dating clubs, surf the Internet, and spend countless hours in chat rooms looking, mostly without success. it seems. I'm not selling anything here; just offering an opinion based on my own experiences in searching for that 'special woman.'
The prevalent fixation here seems to be that White women will succumb to your ‘charms’ simply because you’ve got a BBC. That’s not so, any more than is the myth that Black men are more sexual, better lovers, and we all have big cocks (I call that ‘the fallacy of the phallus’). Granted, the focus here is on IR sex, but the paucity of real-time meets as a result of chat room or Forum connection seems to indicate that ‘it’s not really happening, people…’
You’d better able to bring much more to the table than sex if you’re serious about finding and wooing a quality woman of any culture. Good sex is simply one of the attributes that a woman looks for in a prospective partner, and it usually isn’t even the most important attribute, at that.
What is it then, that women really want in a man? I’ll list my thoughts here, in no special order. Women are complex creatures, diverse and unique, and changeable from one day (sometimes one hour) to the next. So, I’ll keep my thoughts general.
They want a man of character, intellect, and integrity. A man they can depend on to do what he says and say what he means. This also equates to truthfulness and honesty in your dealings with others.
They want a man they are proud to be seen with. Just as we want a woman who is ‘eye candy,’ they want a man who looks good, is well-groomed, smells good, and exudes confidence (as opposed to being cocky).
They want a man who makes them feel secure. A man of value and values; a man who they hold in high esteem because his values show through.
They want a man who makes them miss him when he’s not around. Yeah, they want romance, love, and affection; a man who is not afraid to show his emotions, and is strong enough (not afraid) to lead without being abusive in the relationship.
Of course, being self-sufficient helps; no woman wants to date a guy who spends more of her money (and drives her car more) than SHE does.
She wants a good lover, a considerate lover. If you’ve got a BBC; that helps. If you’ve got a big cock, that helps. If you’ve only got a small cock, what’s more important is HOW WELL you make love to her.
Value her. Whether you’ve got her on a leash, a pedestal, or a throne, make her know that she’s the most important person in your life. One thing I’ve found important is being able to judge her needs, and being what she needs you to be to her AT THAT MOMENT.
A woman wants a man that she can grow with—flourish with. If she’s ambitious and you’re not able to sustain the pace with her, find ways to further endear yourself to her. If the love and affection is sincere on both sides, the relationship will endure many obstacles.
It also helps if you’re a person who is able to share/give of himself to positive causes, projects, etc. Accomplish something, no matter how small. She’s going to see you in a very positive light because of it.
If you simply want a woman for a sexual encounter/one night stand, there are women for you, also. But first, look inward. Ask yourself if you’d want to have a sexual encounter with someone who has the same focus and ideals as you, because in this regard likes attract each other.
These are some of my thoughts about what women want from a real man. You don’t have to salute these ideas; you can discount them, boo, or yell ‘BS!!!,’ or whatever. If you have other ideas about what motivates a woman to respond to a man’s advances (these days, some women are strong enough to make the first move), share them with the Forum.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
The prevalent fixation here seems to be that White women will succumb to your ‘charms’ simply because you’ve got a BBC. That’s not so, any more than is the myth that Black men are more sexual, better lovers, and we all have big cocks (I call that ‘the fallacy of the phallus’). Granted, the focus here is on IR sex, but the paucity of real-time meets as a result of chat room or Forum connection seems to indicate that ‘it’s not really happening, people…’
You’d better able to bring much more to the table than sex if you’re serious about finding and wooing a quality woman of any culture. Good sex is simply one of the attributes that a woman looks for in a prospective partner, and it usually isn’t even the most important attribute, at that.
What is it then, that women really want in a man? I’ll list my thoughts here, in no special order. Women are complex creatures, diverse and unique, and changeable from one day (sometimes one hour) to the next. So, I’ll keep my thoughts general.
They want a man of character, intellect, and integrity. A man they can depend on to do what he says and say what he means. This also equates to truthfulness and honesty in your dealings with others.
They want a man they are proud to be seen with. Just as we want a woman who is ‘eye candy,’ they want a man who looks good, is well-groomed, smells good, and exudes confidence (as opposed to being cocky).
They want a man who makes them feel secure. A man of value and values; a man who they hold in high esteem because his values show through.
They want a man who makes them miss him when he’s not around. Yeah, they want romance, love, and affection; a man who is not afraid to show his emotions, and is strong enough (not afraid) to lead without being abusive in the relationship.
Of course, being self-sufficient helps; no woman wants to date a guy who spends more of her money (and drives her car more) than SHE does.
She wants a good lover, a considerate lover. If you’ve got a BBC; that helps. If you’ve got a big cock, that helps. If you’ve only got a small cock, what’s more important is HOW WELL you make love to her.
Value her. Whether you’ve got her on a leash, a pedestal, or a throne, make her know that she’s the most important person in your life. One thing I’ve found important is being able to judge her needs, and being what she needs you to be to her AT THAT MOMENT.
A woman wants a man that she can grow with—flourish with. If she’s ambitious and you’re not able to sustain the pace with her, find ways to further endear yourself to her. If the love and affection is sincere on both sides, the relationship will endure many obstacles.
It also helps if you’re a person who is able to share/give of himself to positive causes, projects, etc. Accomplish something, no matter how small. She’s going to see you in a very positive light because of it.
If you simply want a woman for a sexual encounter/one night stand, there are women for you, also. But first, look inward. Ask yourself if you’d want to have a sexual encounter with someone who has the same focus and ideals as you, because in this regard likes attract each other.
These are some of my thoughts about what women want from a real man. You don’t have to salute these ideas; you can discount them, boo, or yell ‘BS!!!,’ or whatever. If you have other ideas about what motivates a woman to respond to a man’s advances (these days, some women are strong enough to make the first move), share them with the Forum.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
