wedding day advice

[sarah]

I have some questions that somewhat intertwine I was hoping people here could help me out with but first a little background.

I met my fiancé specifically looking for another hedonist. I from my first sexual activity on realized I had zero intention of just being with one man but cuckolding never entered into my mind. Well as you can tell by me calling him my fiancé and posting on this board cuckolding has come into play. Early into are relationship it was clear this open approach to sex was one way and his interest was in me having multiple partners. Over the last two and half years the relationship has transformed to a cuckold relationship where I dominate him sexually 24/7 and I have learned to love and lust every minute of it.

Jim, my fiancé, particularly cannot get enough of the humiliation part and in particular people knowing that I fuck other people while he remains loyal to me. Finally getting to my point to post, we are getting married in May and we are having a hard time agreeing on something. It is the old wedding day fantasies that I have read up on. He has those fantasies big time, while I am reluctant to do anything on that day, honeymoon no such problem. My point that day is really just for us and family and his point is this is as much part of our relationship as anything else so there should be something done.

His fantasy is to have me fuck as many of the wedding party that I can seduce and his father the night or morning of the wedding and would just love if I could sneak off with someone during the reception. Personally I find this unrealistic. Now for a long time he has wanted me to start fucking people that are close to him and I have done a couple of his clients which he went gaga over but I am worried to close to him and at this event could cause problems. Does any one have any opinion or experience in this type of situation?

I have been thinking about doing something like trying to fuck a wedding party person the night before but more realistically since my maid of honor a fellow hedonist and knows of my cuckolding I can easily arrange a small party the night before and maybe a little fun in the morning and save the condoms and use the cum collected to get my wedding day panties full of wet cum as close as I can before walking down the aisle and in some other strategic places so when he becomes my husband the first experience of my body is to see, smell and lick dry cum that is not his. Is this reasonable or I should be more open to his wishes?

 

[diggedydawg]

Who can you trust?

You will have worked out who the "dirty" ones in the family are by now? There are some who would be wounded by the whole scene. Some who would be into it, but trouble later .. and the cool ones.

Invite them to the wedding night along with the dishonorable maid-of-honor and have a foursome (or moresome!)

Tell us more about the "candidates"

 

[Swedcuck]

He needs to know the difference between reality and fantasy. He wants more and more and I´m not sure that he is aware of the things that might follow if you go through with it.
Have your wedding night and make plans and fantasize all night about your life together and what the future might have for you, but stay away from his dad.
You could also arrange a marriage later and do it like a roleplay where you do all that stuff but with people that you are sure want to do it.

 

[nastroa]

Dangerous

It is a dangerour game to include family.

I think you are right to plan nothing more than a little get together the night before.. the day of your wedding should be for YOU and him... not the whole house ... after all you got the honeymoon to have much more fun with/at,

Good luck

 

[enser]

I dominate him sexually 24/7. So tell him how the wedding will be. You can arrange for a bacheloret party, where you can dance or fuck whom you like, but stay far away from relatives. If you do the father-in-law you wind up wrestling with a poisonous mother-in-law. After you are married let him watch and serve you, while you drain others.

Good luck, have a nice wedding.

 

[dfhviking]

Truly you have a dilemma!!!

Weddings are the most important events in most peoples' lives. And yours is no different. If you want to compromise with your intended, you may want to be very selective regarding who is in the wedding party. You may or may not be able to select only those who would be willing to participate in the fashion your intended desires. Certainly you have to be extremely careful about offending family members who are not into your lifestyle. I actually resent the term "dirty" used by another writer as this is indicates the writer views this more open lifestyle as something bad. This seems hypocritical from someone on this site. But, I digress.

My suggestion is that you be selective with the wedding party and only ask those who would be willing to participate. If this won't work, ie., you need to have family members or friends in the party who would be offended if asked to participate, then move on to plan B.

You could schedule a separate individual meeting with your intended and his father the night before or even the night of as long as it is away from everyone else. You don't want to alienate anyone.

Plan as many separate events around the wedding but not necessarily part of the wedding. And, schedule these events with your intended and all who would enjoy participating with you. This way you are not quite as open about your lifestyle and you will reduce the risk of offending anyone but still have a very memorable wedding. Just don't flaunt your lifestyle in the face of those who would be offended. No reason to do this and it serves no useful purpose. In fact, it would be incredibly insensitive. Plan events before and after the wedding but don't actually make it such an obvious part of the wedding that it offends. Be respectful of others feelings and you will do fine.

 

[sobernyer]

Hi Sarah,

In my opinion as a cuck wannabe, you should be in control of the situation and not jim. If it is something you do not want to happen, you should lay down the law and tell him that you are the one in charge of who you will have relations with and when it will happen.

Just my two cents.

 

[68jeepster]

fucking family members is a really bad idea. Your friend sounds like the perfect out in this scenario. Have her invite as many of her friends to the wedding as is feasible and then have them fuck you before the wedding ie after the reception then again on you wedding night. Preferably while you're still in your wedding gown. But do not invite family to participate. This should satisfy him.

 

[tuppinsinmo]

hmm intresting situration

I have some questions that somewhat intertwine I was hoping people here could help me out with but first a little background.

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Intresting situration, my thoughts are marrage is for a lifetime, though they don't always last that long it's the plan going into it. I don't rule family out all together but I think its nice to leave something to fantize about down the road. A brother, or uncle or something, but the dad, I would say no way. I love the ideal of my wife getting fucked in her wedding dress just before the cermony, but it didn't work out because as so many already point out, it's not that easy of a thing to work out. I would agree with most do something the night before, and then have one hell of a love making sesion with new hubby as you give him details. Yet there is one thing that bothers me, and not with you alone but with many stories or posts on here. Seems to me the underlying suggestion is the only way you really enjoy each other in bed is after you have fucked someone else or at least talk about that fantisy. A heathly relationship is about each other, and the other sex is icing on the cake not the cake. The reason some physiologist's are so againast porno's is that some men become so addicted they can not have sex with the spouse unless they fantise the movie or he watchs one before sex. Some of the things, and maybe I misread between the lines, sounds very much like the same serno occuring. If in order for you and him to have great lovemaking you have to sleep around, then seems to me it saying I don't want to marry a lady that knows how to play like a slut and be that when we want, but I want to marry a *****. If your ok with that, then so be it, but one day you get older and the tool don't work like it used too, and your body is not so smolding hot anymore and guys won't be falling all over you, if all that holds you to each other is sex then its trouble. There is a huge difference between a hot lust pounding, and nice slow love making. Before saying I do work out those issues of where your going, and how far do you want it to go. Do not be pushed into being something that is not what you want to be. As someone once said, its one thing to play the harlot and another to be a harlot. I wish you nothing but happyness and do not mean to offend in any way.

 

[cleanuppro]

Congrats and good luck.

Sarah, your fiance is a very lucky man and he shouldn't be pressing his luck. I'm a firm believer in female superiority. This shouldn't just be about his fantasies. He's trying to top from the bottom. Don't let him get away with that shit. If you want to include this in your wedding, by all means do... but in a way you are comfortable with. I agree that family members are a bad idea. Maybe he should let you pick the best man and you could make love to him in place of your husband on your wedding night. I would recomend denying him sex all together from now until the wedding. That way anything you do will drive him wild. And, by the way, your own ideas is realy hot. Walking down the aisle in your wetting dress with your panties soaked by another man's cum... what could be better? Does your husband expect to be present while he's being cuckolded? That should be up to you as well. If he doesn't straighten up you should look into buying a chastity device for him. He will be much more compliant if he can't masterbate, and any cuckolding experience is far more intense when you are denied. Perhaps he shouldn't be allowed any sexual contact at all with you other than servicing you orally or with a strap on until after the honeymoon. Best of luck and best wishes.

 

[sarah]

Thanks

I want to thank everyone who has replied, I think there was good food for thought in every reply.

First my view on domination, I believe this is about control and not all about me. I am in a very loving relationship and this requires his needs to be met and hopefully his desires but on my terms and timetable, hopefully. So I do take things that he talks about into consideration.

Clear up things, I do believe Jim’s ideas are too fantasy based but he is not lost in fantasy. It would be better to call it overly wishful thinking. Both of us are not into me fucking his relatives at all but his father is a different story all together and it would be best that I might just post a new thread as it is really a different topic.

Dfhviking – This has been my thinking and I think this is why I am leaning toward no wedding party situation. To me this is our day but with our families as well and to me this is just too stressful to do for it only represents part of our life together.

We have grown into this. While he kind of knew what he was all about and while I was looking for an open relationship this whole domination/cuckolding has been a journey. I just know for a fact that he just loves that people who know him are aware that his woman stepping out on him. We have done this with a couple of his clients and it is just not in his head. We have both promise to work on one thing for each other in the future. I am to try to play with people that come into some contact of his social circle and he has promised to finally let me have men over the house to entertain. This is probably why I have just not dismissed his thoughts off hand. I think he even picked a couple of people for the wedding party who were single hoping I might as I do not do married men without their spouse knowing.

68jeepster – You hit on my number one fantasy but will not happen, to get fucked in my wedding dress throughout the whole wedding day events. My goal is to wear it one day while I am entertaining several men.

Tuppinsinmo – We have a complete life and that includes lots of good old regular sex. I do not believe in denying him sexual gratification and more importantly mine! Reality is you cannot play around that much with a regular life and I am not going to deny myself access to a functioning cock and tongue. I do sometimes like to play with him though, my favorite just lying there like a corpse as he takes care of his business. I would call our sex life outside the cuckolding part healthy but not great. We both from the beginning did not want a monogamous relationship and nothing has changed. The fact while he is adequate in bed he lacks that something from the presentation to the demeanor to leave me with the feeling of boy did I just get properly fucked. Everything else in our life he gets A+++++.

Anyway thanks again for all the advice, it is nice to hear from people that understand the dynamic me and Jim are living.

 

[enser]

Bravo, Bravissimo, That’s a healthy attitude, that’s the way to run an airline.
I like that, that’s a partnership, with a hotwife theme. You will be a happy couple with a long life together.
Wish you all the luck

 

[okdeacon]

Holy Shit

Sarah You must be the best soon to be Hot Wife in the whole blissful world. You are for sure a very special bride to be. There is nothing wrong at all with what you are doing and are thinking of doing as long as he wants it. I also dont believe in holding sex from a spouse, unless that is what HE wants. But fucking othere men any time you feel like it is one big ass turn on. Fuckin his clients is great shit and you should be fucking some of his friends. I also see nothing wrong with fucking some of his relatives IF HE WANTS IT. But the final decision must be yours. Remember he wants this. Also fucking on your wedding day for HIM is also in my opinion just fine. I guarantee it will be a good memory for him forever as he knows if you do its all for him. I also assure who ever you fuck on your wedding day would also have a very special memory for all his (or their) lives.His boss would also be a good mark if the boss qualifies as hot in your opinion. Fuck only hot men and he will like it even more.Sarah its just hotter and blazes knowing that you as a bride is already fucking and his friends know it and he loves it. This is some good stuff as I bet you are as well Have All The Best You Two.Again Sarah you are VERY SPECIAL,so enjoy all that cock okdeacon

 

[Rover68uk]

Congratulations on your impendign wedding

Hi Sarah,

Must say that I loved your post and also your thoughts on the whole thing. It was also nice to hear how much you want the day to be special.
An idea I had that I thought could perhaps meet both yours and the future cucks ideas would be to play more mental games with him in the lead up to and on the day itself. Why not keep him in chastitry for the week of the weddign until you get on the honeymoon. You can tell him you are playign around and even get hold of some filled condoms if he wishes to see the evidence, but he would be on pins the whole time, and of course, if he wants humiliation, then what could be more humiliating than having to explain his chastity device when he sets off the metal detector at the airport!
Also, if you do not wish to make a big show of your relationship in front of those who could be offended, then how about having his ring engraved with "CUCKOLD". That would certainly be seen by the best man, maids and celebrant, but not by the masses.
Just a though, and best of luck

 

[tuppinsinmo]

Sounds like a great relationship

I want to thank everyone who has replied, I think there was good food for thought in every reply.

g.

I really want to thank you for your response. Sounds as if you two are on the road for a good life together enjoying each other and others. Good luck and may all go well in whatever your pursue. I'll close with this wedding story, a close freind of mine was going to get married, she and I are close and have spent the weekend together in the past. Her new husband knew that we were close but never knew about the sex part of it. She asked me to come to the wedding, the plan was I would go back just before she went down the isle and talk with her privately, she was going to bend over lift the dress and me give her a quick fuck. As things would have it, she is in a different town and the day of the wedding I had a emergency so didn't get to go. I have to admit I have always regetted it and so has she.

 

[markieboy]

Congratulations our your nuptials!

Sarah – I do now want to “hijack” your thread, so I apologize in advance for this long post, but I have really enjoyed your thoughtful posts and got a bit carried away here.

I am so impressed that you are planning a delightfully femdom-cuckold wedding celebration. My wife and I did the same and we will always remember it. As you have noted, your wedding day is very special and your memories will be much enhanced if you do spice it up a bit. My wife and I also wanted the wedding event to reflect her femdom control without getting out of control. The highlights included:

1 Pre-marital Chastity for the Cuck – I proposed in February with the thought of a June wedding that eventually became a June the next year wedding. Little did I know that when, after I asked my girlfriend to marry, (we were already playing some mild femdom and cuck games, often focused around her kidding me about my performance between the sheets compared to some of her previous lovers and fellow ski team members) she said she would love to accept but she was going to have a few special conditions, and one of them was that I (certainly not her) forego intercourse or blow-jobs until the wedding night – to make it very special for us. I would still go down on her and I could masturbate and she might wank me off, but to put me in the proper frame of mind heading towards the wedding, cherishing her, her freedom and my wish to please her, etc. etc. no intercourse for me until I had given her my vows. Not until the wedding night. Of course, I agreed, both loving her taking such dom control and thinking it was not quite four months of chastity, certainly not expecting sixteen months! As the wedding date got pushed out, my chastity became her special joke each time she decided we needed more time to get the right location, better invitations, etc. etc.

2 The night before – she decided I should be on my best “goodboy” behavior, not catting around or having a bachelor event! At six p.m. my wife accompanied me to my Mother’s home and left me in her charge, which she had pre-arranged a few weeks before, noting it was bad luck for the groom to see the bride in her wedding gown etc. My fiancé had me bring my tux, suitcase and other stuff, even making a point with my Mom about how she had packed my toothbrush and wanted my Mom to make sure I went to bed sober and early so that I would be on my toes at the wedding. My Mother was delighted with this plan and praised my wife for caring so much about me. If only she knew! I was a good boy, though I could not help myself from jerking off as I wondered what my bride was doing. Plus, I was so anticipating putting my pecker into her wonderful pussy the next night.

3 Of course, I strongly suspected my fiancé was going to very much misbehave that night. When I had asked her, she just smiled and told me I would hear all about it after the wedding. My fiancé went out with a few girlfriends to a dance club, had a great time and was “surprised” to run into her favorite ex-boyfriend and bed partner at the club. Her girlfriends were a bit scandalized, lots of winks and toasts about her last free night, as she let him ****** her to his car for the ride home. Of course, they had a great night and when her Sisters and Mom arrived at seven the next morning, they were all amused to see him wearing a towel at the kitchen table. Yes, they did smirk at the wedding.

4 The Ceremony – My wife decided that a “clean and fresh” feeling while walking down the aisle and going thru the ceremony was preferable than trying to misbehave just before the wedding (though she did have sex with Jack very early that morning). However, we did make sure that my vows included “love, honor, obey and forsake all others”, while hers were limited to “love and cherish”. For those who noticed, I explained it as a slip of my tongue to the old fashioned approach, while her explanations tended to be a bit racier.

5 The Reception – While maintaining general appearances, it is important to dance with any boyfriends at the wedding and to invite them around you, along with hubby, when you slip off the garter. My wife went a bit overboard when she stuck her leg out, asked her ex-boyfriend Tom to help her hold up her dress, took my hand and placed it on the garter and then, as I very slowly pulled it down her very long, sexy leg, she asked Jack, her favorite bed partner, the stud she has spend the night with, “Jack, can you help with my garter – you surely have more experience with that kind of thing!” Her Mom and Sisters and her two girl-friends who were there with the rest of us just started giggling into hysterics! Jack firmly pushed my hand away and raised her foot to his jacket, ******** her long leg to her thong as he masterfully pulled off the garter. The moment was literally priceless and the photographer got some truly great shots.

6 Speaking of photos, at the photo-shoot before the reception and at the reception, my wife had invited 4 of her then current or recent bed partners, including Jack and Tom to the wedding and went out of her way to have several “group” photos of the five of them taken.

7 Our reception was otherwise reasonably tame – she did dance and flirt heavily with her boyfriends who were there, but nothing too outrageous that people could not explain away by her excitement and the champagne. But those in the know (her boyfriends, sisters and Mom and a few girlfriends), found her behavior scandalous and very entertaining.

8 The much anticipated wedding night. I was anxious to leave the reception after our nuptial dance, but my new wife sensibly insisted on the obligatory dance with her Father, then my Father, the another quick dance with me, and then she drove me crazy dancing with Jack and Tom and her other fuck buddies, the Jack again. I was beside myself with lust, watching her favorite studs nuzzle and paw her a bit too much as she wiggled against them. We ended up hanging around another ninety minutes and I was so anxious. I know I should have been upset, but she looked so incredible in that beautiful white wedding gown, dancing with her lovers!

We finally left to go to our hotel, as we were flying out the next day for our honeymoon. I kissed her neck and cleavage and mouth on the short ride, and she kiddingly patted my crotch, with remarks like “Is my little boy excited at finally getting to fuck his horny bride? I bet you are ready to pop after watching me with those studdly men at the reception? Control yourself, honey, you don’t want to get too excited!” She knew exactly what she was doing.

I felt such the stud, walking my bride, in her beautiful gown, through the grand hotel lobby, everyone looking at us knowing that I would soon be making love to my beautiful and so desirable bride. I was in heaven as we headed up to the room.

In the room she sat on the bed, undressing me as she let me pull her breasts out of the white corset top. She giggled at the white lace panties that she had specially picked out for me to wear under the tux and she kissed and licked my pecker when it popped out, hard and so ready for her. I begged her to stop, as I did not want to come except inside of her. She brought me right to the edge and then had me lay naked on the bed. I asked her if she was going to undress, but she smiled and asked, “Shouldn’t the bride get a proper fucking in her wedding dress?” Not being one to complain, I watcher her straddle me and felt her soft hand reach down and rub my pecker on her smooth crotch. She was up on her knees and she kidded me mercilessly about my little, goodboy pecker and how excited I was at finally having sex with my bride. She proceeded to rub my straining pecker on her smooth pussy, masterfully jerking me with her right hand under he gown – I couldn’t see anything but her dress, but it felt so good.

As she played with me, I again thanked her for taking control and admitted that my chastity set the right tone for our marriage. She kidded me about her better hung study boys and drove me nuts with comments about how they would play with her often to make sure she never became a bored wife. I was ready to burst and begged her to put me inside her pussy. She finally put the head of my penis against her very wet pussy and remarked how this was so special for me, as usually I would only get to go inside her after a real stud had filler her up. I was going crazy as she lowered herself onto me, asking if I was in all the way, kidding me as she knows how to do so well. I bucked up into her and she rode me roughly for about thirty seconds, going so fast and rough that I knew I was going to come right away.

Smiling down at me, as I told her I was about to come, she smiled lovingly down at me and remarked, knowing it was a good part her fault for teasing me so, “So soon, new husband? What a bad little boy!” And then she gave me two more brutal rides up and down my penis and was so energetic that I popped out. I frantically tried to get back in, but she reached down and grabbed my five inch pecker, and brusquely finishing me off with her hand, as she had for the last year.

 

[markieboy]

conclusion...

She knew exactly what she was doing as she smirked at me and said I had made a little mess as she brought her hand to my mouth for me to lick clean. I apologized for coming so soon and asked her forgiveness and said I hoped to be ready soon. She smiled and, still sitting astride me, reached over and grabbed her little white brides purse and looked inside it as she remarked, “Well honey, I’m sure you’ll try to do better, but don’t you think a bride deserves a great fuck on her wedding night? I still feel like I need to break in this beautiful wedding dress! I’m gonna call Jack and invite him into our bridal suite to give me what every good bride deserves, and as a special treat, you can watch.”

With mixed emotions, I nodded yes as she tousled my hair like a Mom would treat her boy as she pulled open her cell phone and rang up Jack. I listened as she said, “Jack, Darling, are you still free tonight? I know a very horny sweet young bride who needs a great fucking in her wedding dress?… Really, well, we’re in Suite XXX at the Hyatt. Yes, dear, hurry on over – We will be waiting.”

Looking down at me, as she closed the phone, my wonderful bride said, “Aren’t you glad we have such good friends who can help out our marriage and make sure I am always pleased? Now be a good boy and slide under my dress and lick me clean of your goo so Jack will get a sweet, clean, unsullied bride for our special night.”

Jack fucked my wife very intensely, in her wedding dress, but then graciously left us to spend the night together. On our honeymoon my wife was as faithful as she had been during our engagement and on our wedding night. We are still very happily wed.

 

[sarah]

thank you

Thank you for sharing your wedding experience markieboy, it was a very interesting.

We have discussed chastity before the wedding, right now I am leaning toward a month before but might make it two weeks. As I wrote before in the thread I do not like to punish myself, but you have given me some thought about refraining from intercourse with him for a longer period.

Jim will have a bachelor party. If it was only him then I would squash it but again that is a friend thing/long time tradition. I like to encourage him to be with friends and not isolate him by playing the stern spouse. Besides, I am having two bachelorette parties. One with regular friends and another I am being teased that will make me sore to walk days afterwards.

We are having a fairly small wedding so no studs were invited. Certainly there will be some people there who know me sexually rather well as swinging friends and a few others but probably not much flirting. I really do not like to flirt and tease for fun prefer to do it for results.

I have decided that our wedding night will be for just us. I liked your story very much, but I think I will be too tired after a long day and we will be getting up early to make it to the airport. I do though have every intention to indulge myself while we are on our honeymoon and be quite scandalous in doing so.

Thanks again for sharing your experience. It did help me think.

 

[markieboy]

Thanks for your thoughtful reply.

I heartily recommend as long a period of chastity for him as you can manage - he will always remember it and he will be so hot on the wedding night.

Not to pick on you, but I will say that my wife's flirting, whether or not it leads to more, is so hot for me to watch. When I look back at our wedding photos - and she has several very flirtatious ones framed in our bedroom, every time I look at them it makes me tingle.

You are such a sweetie to let him to the batchelor party. My wife had initially said I could have one, and then changed her mind. Yes, I felt a bit whipped about declining, but being "handed" over to my Mom for safe keeping while I knew my wife was out having a last hot single night was very delicious. Plus, my Mom loved it.

Lastly, I had also thought our wedding night would be just us, we had discussed that several times. But when I came too soon, I knew she deserved better. I was pleased when he left after an hour or so of pleasing my wife. I have no regrets and I doubt, from your earlier post, that your husband will either.

You will have a great wedding regardless of how much of a cuck he is. Congratulations again. And take good care of your cucky.

You will have to tell us if you enforce a bit of chastity on him. He will love it. And you will then definitely need to look elsewhere, as you should.

 

[cuckollie]

be careful!

Wow, that is one hot idea! But you have to be careful. Of course it is ridiculous to have sex with his father (unless you know for sure that he wants this and would be able to keep it secret-- and even then, it is very risky). But the idea of her coming to the wedding full of cum is fantastic!

I would suggest that she gets fucked JUST before the wedding, if at all possible, by any pre-aranged fuck buddy. Of course it would be gret if the maid of honor also had a dripping pussy while she stands there for the wedding.

For the sake of the relationship, perhaps the first night of the honeymoon (or the second-- after she gets fucked first by a fuck-buddy?) should be for the bride and groom, and the rest of the honeymoon he should not be allowed sex with her.

That'S my two cents!