The Short Soft Path to Becoming a Cuckold

[lilhusband]

The point of my post here is to describe some of my efforts toward becoming a cuckold husband and hopefully get some feedback from other guys who are in similar situations, or were. Hopefully this inspires someone just starting or someone can inspire me with realistic tips. I am a long time DC lurker since about 1999 or so, and think that finding DC and this unique hobby way back then is either one of the best or worst things that have happened to me. Its shown me a better and more adventurous way of living, but one that's very difficult for me to achieve...but I still have the glimmering hope that it's not impossible. As far as interests go, I am wanting the full experience with humiliation, total denial, and everything that has ever been proposed on this board.

I'm 29, white, male and wanting more than anything for my wife to play with black guys. After 10 years of the fantasy consuming me, I've moved beyond the point of asking myself why and am just trying to push it toward reality using whatever means necessary. My wife is not one of the IR fetishist girls that are common on this board and in 8 years of marriage, the closest we've come to a kinky lifestyle is attending the Halloween Ball in Vegas. Add to this that we have 2 small kids and no babysitter...so, with all this in mind here is my best attempt at becoming a cuckold...an interracial cuckold specifically..she could play with 1000 non-black guys and it wouldn't be the same.

2003: Told her that I wanted to see her with other guys. Her response was that, if I loved her, I'd be jealous and not want this.

2004: Started to watch interracial porn occasionally with her. This isn't great cause the scenarios and type of sex in IR porn is never the kind of thing that gives a girl the idea that she wants to start doing that....the porn is made for guys and only maybe 1 in a half-million girls want that stuff like guys talking down to girls, gb's, etc. Those videos aren't the place to start..I very much want to find a romantic IR video that shows a black man *making love* to a white woman, just like the way my wife would want be to make love to her.

2005: Keeping it up with the IR porn occasionally and letting her know how hot it would be to see her with another guy. I also started saying bad things about my dick, like it's small, etc...just to reinforce the fact that I am NOT the macho kind of stud guy that a girl should want to have as a lover. I also stopped having her give me BJ's except occasionally, I usually stop her and jerk off on her boobs, then sometimes lick them clean.

2006: Same as 2005, no change from what I had been doing.

2007: Now most of our sex life consists of me jerking off on her boobs and we don't have sex very often.

2008: Her vibrator had broken, so I took the opportunity to replace it with an 8" realistic black one. She was surprised when I pulled it out and used it on her, but didn't complain at all. I started the 'session' with the dildo, then with only a partial hard-on, did her a little with my short and mostly soft one to hopefully demonstrate that she's better off with the black dildo. Then we finished with the black dildo and with me jerking off on her boobs.

She commented that the dildo is not bigger than me, so this told me that it's time for getting a Lexington Steele model, which is much, much bigger in girth. I am going to hide the other one, gift wrap this, and give it to her. I am hoping that this Lex dildo will fit, and that once she accommodates it I can use mine and it will seem like a toothpick.

The first goal is to get to the point where she would want to put up a personal ad for a nice black friend here in Pittsburgh. I think the best way is to reinforce the idea of her being with black men is as follows:

1. Keep insulting my junk and sexual performance
2. Get rid of any non-IR porn
3. Use the Lex dildo and then insert mine afterward to show that it is not as fun, then finish with the Lex
4. Don't require any more BJ's or stimulation from her. Make it all about her and the Lex dildo. Always jerk off on her boobs and lick them clean. No decent man would do this or find any pleasure in it. I can't believe she doesn't look down on me for doing it already, she just lets me do it and doesn't say anything about it.
5. Keep up with the offhanded comments about her booty being a black man's dream, etc. I have to push this talk about IR sex even though it's awkward and embarassing to me sometimes.


So do any cuckolds or wannabes have any tips for me, experiences or thoughts? Where are you at in this process. Black men, yes, before you say it, I know how "dumb" I am and all that...but this is a special experience...a guy can get normal sex any day of the week...but being cuckolded is a *exquisite* psychological experience that goes way beyond the physical benefits that you guys get because of people like me. You could get simple sex from some girl at a bar...it's boring..

 

[gentleguy]

sounds like your doing a good job already

 

[cuckoldstanley]

Here are a few things I have tried:

Over the past ten years of marriage to my lovely conservative wife, I have gotten her to:

- measure my dick
- make me kiss/lick her ass
- tell me my dick doesn't make her cum (I have to use my mouth or fingers)
- tell my my balls feel like marbles
- sit on my face after doing her
- watch some porn
- watch a DVD I made with just pictures of big cocks while I just licked her (she came twice)
- let me put my fingers in her, with my little one, while we are doing it so she can feel me

I did her, well she was on top and when she asked me to rub her, so she can cum (my dick won't make her cum) I pulled her up on to my face - it wasn't a creampie, but very very wet... Then she came on my face. Now she does it a lot!!!

The other morning when she got out of the shower, I called her over and told her I wanted to kiss her ass. She came over and I kissed her ass, then she sat on my face (didn't touch my dick). After she came on my face, she jumps off and started getting dressed for work. I asked her to write something on my dick, and she did: "TINY." Then I told her I want to kiss her ass every morning. So far, so good; she is jumping up on the bed and making me kiss her ass - haven't been to orgasm again - yet, because she is usually running late for work. but that is more progress...

Last night was great... My wife asked me to rub her ass, which I did. Then she rolled onto her side and reached around and felt my little soft dick, she yanked it (in and attempt to make it bigger) till it got hard, then she rubbed my dick on her pussy for a minute. Then she asked me to to fuck her with my fingers. I did. After she came she asked me if I wanted to see her ass (which is how I normally cum by my own hand). I said no, it is alright as long as you came. Then I asked her to write something on my dick, she wrote, "NOT big." Then I told her I really liked that she teased my dick on her pussy then asked for my fingers. I also told her I wanted her to control when I cum and that she should make me earn an orgasm, like I have to make her cum 5 times first or something. She said, if I am good she will let me cum tomorrow. About 5 minutes later she stroked my very hard dick a couple of times and I told her, see how hard what you did made my dick, she said yes and stopped stroking.

It was a great night and I would say some serious progress was made...

But now a warning... Go slow young man. i continued to push and showed her some "talkies" from various sites, and then she blew up that night in bed, saying that she didn't like 'humiliating me,' etc. and that she has in the past because I asked her to. Had I been patient and waiting a year or so playing the same 'games,' I believe she would have began to find enjoyment in them. But, like the saying goes, two steps forward, one step back. Unfortunately, I am on the back step right now.

Good luck!

 

[mhall]

I would confirm the "go slow" advice. The most important thing for me was making sure the wife was fully aware of our love and that anything she did was purely for her pleasure and wasn't an excuse for me to cheat.

It took me about three years in all to get the wife to take a "friend" and I am lucky enough to have a small dick. If you are not blessed with a small dick it may well take you longer.

I can also confirm the success of the "talkies" - some are so ridiculous that she will laugh at them but deep down they will be pressing a button. I also was able to get her to call me her "little dick" and if she grabbed me when lovemaking I would ask her if she had found something small to play with. I wish I had thought of writing on my dick - that would have been fun!

Once I had convinced her that this "humiliation" turned me on she started to get into it. I knew I would get my reward when she said "put your tiny little willy in me". For months she would tell me she loved my little dick - almost as if she was tying to talk herself out of it, and she acted horrified when I bought a 3 inch extension - until she sat on me with me wearing it. Soon after she would initiate talk about bigger men and "would you want to watch" . I discovered she wouldn't want that which made it easier to "pretend" she had been with another man, telling me all about it and noticing how hard I got as she humilated me. After a couple of months of that, when she actually did it, there was no guilt or fear - just the actual evidence which, in our case, were cum stained tits as she always used a condom. Going black was really a secondary step for us.

 

[cuckoldstanley]

It has been a couple weeks since by few steps back, hopefully I can continue forward here in the very near future... Any subtle ideas???

 

[cuckoldstanley]

A couple nights ago, I was on top working away, then she slid a finger in with my dick. Then she put the same finger in my mouth. Then she used two hands, three fingers on each hand, and inserted them inside with my dick. She was enjoying six fingers and me, making me suck the fingers every few seconds.

I asked her if she was ready to cum, she said I would have to rub her. So, I pulled out and eat her until she came. Then, she wanted me to cum too. I had her sit on my face and really force it down on me - I came instantly. Hopefully she continues to be creative - I believe that is some progress, she never made me like her fingers before...

 

[Slimdickens]

DFW KNIGHT has several romantic ir vids. Very tastefully done i may say. You should try them.

 

[cuckoldstanley]

Ok, the other night more progress was made. We started our normal pre-sex fondling, then I said if she would like a new job as a sports reporter. This was right after the Cavs/Celtics game by the way. She said why. Then I said so she could do locker room interviews after the game. She played along the whole night. At one point I said some of the big dicks would hit her shoulder as she sat on the bench; then I hit her shoulder with my finger and she immediately turned her head and began to suck my fingers (she has never done that). Through out the night she said she wanted to fuck a big dick. The word "black" never was expressed, but she asked if "they" would like her; and I said yes, a pretty little white girl like you. I think I will explode when she finally admits she would like a BBC. Then towards the end, she said I would be waiting outside and she would make me eat her pussy when she came out, because my dick is too small - that is when I came!! In the morning we went at it again - I mentioned she had a busy night getting fucked twice, she said yes. Then I said, what am I supposed to do after you get fucked. She said, eat my pussy, then she pushed me down!!!

This is going to be a great couple weeks of NBA playoffs!!!

This one worked!! Any other 'story lines' that work?

 

[cd_danielle_ny_slut]

Keep up the good work, cuckstanley. Just be patient; you need to coax her slowly, and you're doing a great job. Love the stories!

 

[cuckoldstanley]

Keep up the good work, cuckstanley. Just be patient; you need to coax her slowly, and you're doing a great job. Love the stories!

Thanks. They really aren't 'stories'. Everything I have said actually happened. I am just seeking some new subtle approaches.?.?

 

[mwdad]

this is a very interesting thread, mostly i think becasue the slow progress seems more realistic to me than some of the things you see where the female instantly becomes a BBC slut. Also i very much identify with the guys who crave real men to use their loved ones and enjoy the humiliation of being told we have small dicks

 

[cuckoldstanley]

My latest 'accomplishment' happened a couple weeks ago. I found a CFNM locker room reporter scene, to bring back out locker room reporter fantasy from the NBA play-offs, and I got her to watch it. I licked her while she watched - she liked it! Both athletes were much bigger than I (me hard them flaccid). After she watched the clips, she asked me if I wanted her to search the web for more porn, I said yes. She searched for group sex!!! Interesting, I know. She was disappointed when the movie sites kept redirecting, etc. So she shut the computer off (I made her a page with link to 'good' sites and movie clips, so she will not be disappointed again). At any rate, after she came about three times, I convinced her to not let me cum. She said, "ok, I've decided, you don't get to cum tonight." I was strokin, and she told me to stop. Then she made me give her a massage, for about 1 hour (my back hurt afterwards). The next morning, I prompted her, I asked her if I could play with my little dick. She said yes. About five minuted into it, she said, "remember, you don't get to cum." Five minutes after that, she said that's enough, stop. Later that day, I asked her if she wanted me to clean the shower - I did. The next day I had to clean the toilets and do laundry. It was a great couple of days. Then it went away... No more "games" since that couple of days, I am hoping to recreate the same couple days again soon. As always, i am looking for subtle approaches.?.?.?