My Requested Response
ou get what you pay for and you paid nothing for this so here goes.
My wife and I met when we were 18 in college, we started dating at the beginning of our second semester. The morning after our first date we ran into each other in the cafeteria, and I was thinking what a leech and she was thinking that she felt obligated (to sit together)...not a great start. Over time we came to love each other. If you see from a previous post we had an experience with a friend of ours shortly thereafter. At the age of 19 by then it didn't seem to funky.
I lived a very wild life in HS while my then gf had only been with 2 guys but fantasized greatly. Thus the story about the friends house where she had sex with a mutual friend.
As we dated for 5 years we always fantasized about her having more external sex. Those of you that think humiliation, sissy, and all of that, is so far from me that you could not believe it. There is no humiliation to Linda or to me, there is a trusting and loving relationship between us. I have sowed my wild oats and I have no desire to be with another woman.
As an FYI I fly 1st class, stay in great hotels, and run a couple of successful businesses, one traded on NASDAQ, so please do not try to play the fantasy games. I get hit on quite often, I am 6'1, 190 lbs in great shape at 45 and I do not think that I could even get it up for anyone other than Linda. Not out of submission but sex does not rule my life, it is simply a part of it.
Sex does not rule Lindas life either, it is a part of it. Her relationships over our 20 years of marriage have been with 1-2 year lovers, a matter of relationship not the BBC bs, most don't bother me. What did bother me was her HS boyfriend, that was tough as I know that she still loves him to a degree and he her. So I got to know him to make it easier on me...didn't work
At the end of the day we trust each other, she knows that I have no desire for anyone other than her. The toughest part for me is not the sex that she has with her men it is seeing the passion in the kiss, the gleam in the eye, or seeing them together at a restaurant giggling over a bottle of wine and holding hands...that sucks. And as an FYI I have never seen her have sex with another man, that would simply be rude, as it would be for her to barge into a meeting that I was in at work...trust...comprende? She has to trust me with our assets.
I played Div I basketball, I have seen many naked men in the locker rooms, anyone that thinks that blacks have larger members on average are fantasy players.
I say all of this to say, to each their own, I see some, what I would consider despicable behavior on this site, but have never put anyone down.
I forget who but someone asked what is the difference between being a cuckold to keep your wife happy and being bisexual? I would argue that there are 2 large differences. First if my wife wants my to suck another mans cock that is significantly different in that it is as asking me to do something that I do not want to do, wherein, her relationship with other men is something that she desires.
For all of you that are going to come out and say that jweiner is a homophobe, let me please address that. First, that word should be banned. The end of that word is phobe...meaning fear. The homosexual community has done a great job of slipping this under the rug. As an FYI one of my best friends is a flamboyant gay ex employee of mine, who is not only a great friend of mine, but my children and wife as well, we love him dearly, one of the first gay marriages in LA, so don't even think of going there as he agrees with me. Just because I don't want to be with a man does not mean that I am scared of the act. Hell I don't want to move to Iowa but I am not an Iowanianphobe, I just don't want to do it...it doesn't appeal to me.
I was asked to respond and to give some relevance from a real life 20+ relationship that deals with my wife and amazing mother of our children and I hope that I have been successful at accomplishing this goal. Still waiting on marketing to get me their numbers tonight.