lincs male UK said:
Hi, sorry I haven't posted for a while, but was reading this recently and realised how many supporting and understanding replies I got, it made me want to share my update with you all.
I don't have anyone that I can tell about this and was feeling the need to unburden myself again.
Sharon is still seeing Paul. It has become almost "normal" now that my pretty wife meets her lover for her "me time". I haven' had full sex with my wife for months and months now. I have finally accepted that I lost her sexually some time ago. She will occasionally wank me off as she tells me about her sex life with him and I am also allowed to masturbate myself as she tells me too. She prefers me not to touch her body sexually now, yet otherwise our relationship is strong. In fact if anything she is even more loving and affectionate, particularly if we are out with friends. No one would ever suspect that my sweet little wife could ever be unfaithful. To everyone else she is a perfect wife and mummy....and only me and Sharon know the truth.
It has been an absolute roller coaster of emotions to get here and I have gone from being totally distraught and crying to the opposite extreme and revelling in my humiliation, wanting or trying to make myself a wimp of a cuckold. I still fluctuate but think I pretty much resign myself to accepting what she does now.
Since I last wrote Sharon has been away with Paul a few times, stopping over. He has even fucked her in her wedding dress one night and did this thing where he physically cut off her bridal panties with scissors to symbolise her cutting her sexual ties to me and him having her in her wedding dress somehow made her "his wife".
I have even spoken with Paul on the phone a few times. This was something I asked for and he took great pleasure explaining in detail the tings he has done to her, what she wears, where they have done it and how much she loves it. He told me that I had to play with myself as he told me ( something I gladly did) and would wank myself stupid as he told me. He thought it highly amusing to hear me cumming as he told me things and then would call me something pretty derogatory before hanging up. I would then be left feeling humiliated and stupid covered in my own cum. Twice this happened when I was in my car (alone obviously) with no tissues to even clean myself up.
Paul got bored of this though and hasn't done it for ages.
The biggest revelation though came a few weeks ago when she confessed that she had let Paul's friend join them too. She said it was a one off but was something she had fantasised about for years and wanted to do. She said she had spent virtually all her life being a "Good girl" refusing several offers and advances from men over the years, because she was married, even though she really wanted to. Now she is enjoying also being a "naughty girl" and loved her one night of being a slut for two hunky men.
If I've missed anything I will let you know or if you'd like more detail please let me know or pm me
Thanks
Hi lincs male UK,
Well, that is some story.
First a little about myself, I am a very dow to earth guy, who likes to analyse situations.
I must say, I find yours very interesting, but also worrying. I will not say I have everything right, but I do hope you respond to this in other to correct my analysis and assumptions.
So, my first analisys is that you realy do not like this situation.
You've come to accept it, but it is not something you realy want.
Look realy deep into your hart, is this the life you want? Do you realy like being sexualy ignored by your wife?
Do you realy like not to have sex with your wife, and only allowed to wank, and then only when she approves it?
As I've read your story, I think deep down you do not want this.
Maybe you wanted to spice up your sexlife a little, so maybe she would fuck another guy once in a while.
But I think you never planned to be fully denied.
So if this is true (and I think it is), then you need to do something about it.
Why? It is your life too. You are allowed to have fun and enjoy life too. That is not only for her.
You are allowed to enjoy sex as well, that is not only her privilage.
So, now what. Well there are a lot of possibility's. From very hard to mild, but all leading to you having sex with a woman again.
Yes, I said woman, not your wife. That woman could be your wife, but does not have to be.
It would not be smart to start with the hardest one, because that would be divorce. I do not think you want that.
The mildest is to talk to her again. In that talk, do not let her touch your dick. It has to be a non-sexual talk, so all business.
Tell her you do not like the current situation. Tell her you do not want to be denied. Tell het you want to have intimate sex with her.
Tell her that you would be okay if she cotinues to see Paul, and have sex with him, but the sex count with you and her should be higher than her with Paul, just because you are her husband.
Tell her you do not want to be left out. Tell her you understand that she want to have fun, but that doesn't mean it should ruin your life.
This is the mildest one. And don't let her turn you around. Stick with your demands. If you get into a fight, fine, then fight.
Remember, you have only one lifetime, use it well.
Okay, that was very mild. You can also let her 'feel' that you are not okay with the situation. First it can be rather harmless.
Buy some womans parfume, not the one your wife uses. Tell your wife that she needs to be home at a certain evening, you have to attand at something, or you that you go out
with friends, or something like that. When you go home, spray some of the womans parfume on you clothes, just enough that she can smell it at some point.
If she does not smell it the first evening, then you will have to repeat it some times. The point would be that she notices it and start ask questions.
It could be that she will get very mad, she will demand an explanation. Your only answer would be "If you are allowed to have fun, so am I.".
Two things can happen, she will get very mad, or she is okay with it. If she gets very mad, just tell her she has no real reason to get mad,
she is fucking another man already for a long time. Do not bulge, in anyway, just stick to this. Do not give in, just say "I want to have a lot of sex with a woman again,
if you do not want it to be with another woman, than it must be you, that would be fine with me. If you would have a lot of sex with me again, then I will quit with the other.".
Here again, it is your life, you can only live it once. Make the most of it, do not deny your own pleasure.
So, that was a little bolder, and playing on her emotions. Advantage in that is you instantly know what she thinks about you with other woman.
Next step, turning up a notch. It is almost as above, but now actualy search for a woman/girlfriend. Go out, place online ads, search. Or even go to a ********** if you have to.
Point is, have real sex with a woman. Your wife will notice at some point, she will needs to be home when you go out. If she ask where you going, just first
say going out with friends. Later you can tell you are going to see a woman. See how her reaction is and act accordingly, try to bounce everything back at her, she is
doing the same, so it is obvious you can do the same. If she says that you lied to her, you can pass that back as well, she lied with what would happen on the first date with
Paul, you thought it would only be wanking, but they knew it would be sex, and she had wanked Paul a week earlier which she did not mention to you. So she lies to you too.
That was another level, but at least you enjoyd having sex with a woman.
You can step it up even a little further. Not only see other woman, or have a girlfriend, but also pay no more attention to her. Just the normal family stuf.
No more questions about Paul, no more interest in her sexlife. Be at home for the kids, but other than that, be away as much as possible. If she asks if she looks great in
something, just a "yeah" or "yeah fine" will do, but not enthausiastic, more like you are reading something interesting and you did not pay realy any attention what she was saying.
She will notice at some point something is not alright anymore. A discusion of anysort will come.
If you would dare to step up even further, then this will get her attention, but also is very very dangerous.
Get some information from a divorce lawyer, have it send to your home, addressed to you. Leave the envelope closed on a table for a while. This can only be done if the
envelope clearly shows it is from a lawyer, prevered a divorce lawyer. That will certainly get her attention.
It can also mean she does not want to fight and agrees right away. On the other hand, if that is the case, then you know for sure she was planning on doing that anyway, just
not so soon. If she does not agree, then she will get very mad, but that is okay, you then just tell her that this is not what you want. You want to have sex too.
You want to enjoy life as well. That can be with her, if not, then it will be without her. It is hard, very hard and not for wimps. You have to be strong doing this.
And of course take into account that it could lead to a real divorce.
Then the top one. Could it go any further, yes it can. Where this would lead to, well, no one knows. This could get real ugly, big chance it would lead to divorce, plus
a lot of people would be angry at you. Only do this if you are realy strong, and it would be the last thing you could do.
Get in contact with Pauls wife. Tell her Paul is fucking your wife. Tells you want to prove it to her, you know when and where they meet so she can catch them in the act.
Or better, set something up at your home, let them have the idea they can use your house, then also invite Pauls wife. She will ring on the doorbell when they are very busy,
you let her in and let her see what they are doing. Then get out of the house, hell will break lose, you do not want to be there.
There is also another way. If you know she and Paul are going somewhere where you can take pictures, then let your wife believe your at work, then just follow them and take
pictures. Send tose pictures, printed, in an envelope (posted from another city then your, prefered not close by) to Pauls wife.
Of course your wife will suspect you, but you were at work. But there is a big chance she will find out eventually.
So, that was a long text with possibilitys. Best is to do the first one. Try to communicate with her. If that doesn't work, then you can plan the next step.
I think you realy need to do this for yourself, I realy think you are not happy with the situation.
I know there are a lot of people who are congratulate you on this big achievement, but those people realy want this kind of life themselves.
In your story I read you do not realy want this. Yes, you want your wife to be happy, but you also deserve to be happy, and as I read it, you are not happy right now.
You just accepted the situation, that does not sound as if you wanted this. Yes, you maybe wanted to see your wife fucked by another man, but not be denied for a long time.
You were at the step of seeing her wank another guy, instead you saw them fuck. You were played as you said it, I call it a big lie from her end. She already knew she
was going to fuck Paul, she did not tell you, she told you something else. That is just lying, nothing else.
Did you know about the chemical bond between man and woman? If a man cums in a woman, they get a chemical connection through the sperm and the femal juices. The woman bonds
with the man. You haven't cum in your wife for a while now, that bond with you is gone, that is for sure. Guess who she has a bond with now. Right, with Paul.
I think those two are very much in love with eachother. It would be of no surprise to me if they are talking about divorce, she from you, and Paul from his wife.
They just want to pick the right time. Of course, this is al guessing from my end, but it would not surprise me.
The reason I mention this because I have an expierience with this. Not as a cuck, but as a 'bull'. In short, the woman was all loving to her husband, telling all kind of
reassuring stuff, but bedroomtalk with me was that she wanted to leave him for me. She did not expected that I would tell him......
Hope you managed to read all this.
I am very curious about your reaction to this.
Also a lot of people would reply to this, all telling you are doing fine and that you are in a good situation.
Thruth is, only you can tell that, and be realy realy true to yourself, no matter how hard it is.
Remember, you have only one life, do not let it be ruined by something you do not want.
One more thing, if she trhreatens you with divorce, then you know they are already planning something. If she threaten you with this, you know she doesn't love you anymore.
Best regards,
Marco.