Steps in your hotwife's development

[Bishot]

Wanting to chat and hear stories about wives and when they started to enjoy the fantasy and/or reality of hotwifing or cuckolding.
It was a long process for my wife and I, with lots of exciting little moments and times when her comments or reactions were a huge turn on and it felt like the reality was suddenly closer.
I remember early on, during sex, I would dirty talk to her about having sex with other guys and I found that she would orgasm almost instantly when I whispered the word "boyfriend" into her ear. It was a huge turn on, and felt like affirmation that deep down, part of her really wanted to experience sex with other men.
Anyone else care to share stories? Maybe our shared experiences will help other hopefuls who have a reluctant wife?

 

[Custer Laststand]

I remember early on, during sex, I would dirty talk to her about having sex with other guys and I found that she would orgasm almost instantly when I whispered the word "boyfriend" into her ear.

Sounds like your wife had a potential candidate she was turned on by, who came to mind when you whispered the word "boyfriend" into her ear during sex.

 

[Bishot]

Sounds like your wife had a potential candidate she was turned on by, who came to mind when you whispered the word "boyfriend" into her ear during sex.

That's what I was hoping at the time, and I encouraged her to find one, but nothing ever materialized, really. I posted a couple of threads about the one guy she did start seeing, which never came to anything more than a blowjob. I'm still hoping she will find a guy she wants to date on her own, but in the meantime I'm working on finding good candidates for MFM threesomes

 

[Custer Laststand]

I'm still hoping [ will find a guy she wants to date on her own....

Maybe it would work better to give your wife some assistance, if she isn't bold enough to "come on" to other men

....but, in the meantime, I'm working on finding good candidates for MFM threesomes

That sounds like a plan. Apparently many "swinger" relationships evolve into hotwife / cuckold husband marriages, because a married woman usually finds it much easier to attract men who are unattached (or married to someone else ) than her husband finds it to attract women who are unattached (or married to someone else).

 

[biguy153]

im working with my gf, exploring this, nothings happened yet partly because of covid, im excited to hear how others have progress also

 

[Bishot]

I love that my wife is becoming more open minded about the possibilities when she meets new men. She has been doing some light flirting with a delivery driver that does orders from the store she works at, and has enlisted one of her girl-buddies to be her "wingman" and tell the guy that she has a crush on him.
She also had a customer come in and hit on her the other day, and she got all flushed and flustered because she thought he was really attractive. Hopefully he will come back into the store again and strike up a conversation

 

[KarenMWSlut4Blacks]

My husband was definitely not Gods gift to women and even Rob would own up to being sexually inadequate. In fact once we'd had the kids I didn't bother trying to coax him any more and invested in a vibrator.

Of course it wasn't rocket science to work out that he must be masturbating but it was a bit of an eyeopener when I discovered all the porn he'd hidden in an old suitcase.

There had to be something of course and by monitoring the new additions it was easy to see that his interest was in IR and cuckolding which I came to enjoy looking at when I was using my vibrator. It was more than a year before I took things into my hands and advertised in a contact magazine called Rendezvous.

After the advert was publish and I'd had an avalanche of replies I eventually confronted Rob and much as I expected his response was relief rather than fear. If I'd left it to him we would still be at first base but with a little nudge from me we've had a wonderful time over the last 20 plus years.

 

[cuckluck]

So, its a long story. My wife had a bf in high school, the first guy to play with her. Only tits, and pussy, and she would jerk him off. Back in the day she would say she didn't like oral, she finally told me he ****** her to one night, and she has bad feelings about it. Weve been married over 30 years, in the probably last 10 to 15 years we've been using dildos and vibes as other men on our play, she really loves it, and she's also a big squirter, I mean towels are a given when we play. So now and the. I would bring up past bf and she would call me weird, and sometime shutdown. We could talk about gangland by BBC, her eating pussy, doing close friends we know, but never him. Then in the last 3 or so years I started heavy about her fycking the old bf, one day I said it doesn't matter what you say, in my head you're fucking him, and she would laugh. Then one day I remember I had broke through, a lil, and the flood gates opened, pun intended, she admitted it turned her on, and she came and squirted like never before!!! He lived in Pa. and we had been using him in our fantasies all the time. I stalked his Fb account, and to my surprise he had actually moved back near us. When I told her she got even more excited, even admitting she had rode around hoping to run into him. He ended up moving about an hour and a half away, he is an assistant manager at a restaurant. Weve made the trip twice, but haven't made a connection yet. He really doesn't know what he's missing...lol.

 

[1SGRetired]

I married my wife when she was 18 and out of high school. I brought her on post to live with me and it began there. She started going out, when I was in the field guys would stop by, or she would go somewhere.

I did not know she was doing this at the time but found out about her adventures we had to have a talk. After a while we slowly worked into her continuing to see bbc. It was mostly black soldiers but that is how it went for us

Was some cheating then evolved into what we have now.

 

[Bishot]

So, its a long story. My wife had a bf in high school, the first guy to play with her. Only tits, and pussy, and she would jerk him off. Back in the day she would say she didn't like oral, she finally told me he ****** her to one night, and she has bad feelings about it. Weve been married over 30 years, in the probably last 10 to 15 years we've been using dildos and vibes as other men on our play, she really loves it, and she's also a big squirter, I mean towels are a given when we play. So now and the. I would bring up past bf and she would call me weird, and sometime shutdown. We could talk about gangland by BBC, her eating pussy, doing close friends we know, but never him. Then in the last 3 or so years I started heavy about her fycking the old bf, one day I said it doesn't matter what you say, in my head you're fucking him, and she would laugh. Then one day I remember I had broke through, a lil, and the flood gates opened, pun intended, she admitted it turned her on, and she came and squirted like never before!!! He lived in Pa. and we had been using him in our fantasies all the time. I stalked his Fb account, and to my surprise he had actually moved back near us. When I told her she got even more excited, even admitting she had rode around hoping to run into him. He ended up moving about an hour and a half away, he is an assistant manager at a restaurant. Weve made the trip twice, but haven't made a connection yet. He really doesn't know what he's missing...lol.

Nice job getting her to admit that about the old BF, it sounds like she might follow through on that if the opportunity presents itself. Maybe you should take it upon yourself to provide that opportunity...

 

[GehoernterEhemann]

My wife started cheating secretly when we had been together for just one year. She kept on for many years with different men.
When I found out a few years ago it turned me on - to my own surprise.
Now she regularly tells me about the sex with her current lover or former lovers while jerking me off.

 

[Custer Laststand]

My wife started cheating secretly when we had been together for just one year. She kept on for many years with different men. When I found out a few years ago, it turned me on — to my surprise. Now she regularly tells me about sex with her current lover, or former lovers, while jerking me off.

Cool. Does your sexy wife satisfy you only by giving you hand jobs, while telling you about her sexual adventures with other men (in a low sultry voice, no doubt), while denying you penetrative intercourse and, for her own sexual satisfaction, relying entirely on her trysts with her lover(s)?

 

[GehoernterEhemann]

Cool. Does your sexy wife satisfy you only by giving you hand jobs, while telling you about her sexual adventures with other men (in a low sultry voice, no doubt), while denying you penetrative intercourse and, for her own sexual satisfaction, relying entirely on her trysts with her lover(s)?

Almost like that. I get handjobs - sometimes with a short sucking. Penetrative sex only every few month. My wife gets her satisfaction only by her lover(s).
Before I found out her cheating I thought she didnt want much sex. Her lovers could have told me other stories ...

 

[lnohhnvm]

I married my wife when she was 18 and out of high school. I brought her on post to live with me and it began there. She started going out, when I was in the field guys would stop by, or she would go somewhere.

I did not know she was doing this at the time but found out about her adventures we had to have a talk. After a while we slowly worked into her continuing to see bbc. It was mostly black soldiers but that is how it went for us

Was some cheating then evolved into what we have now.

that is a story i liked. i gave my wife her first hall pass in 1968 while i was in the USAF.

 

[cuckluck]

Nice job getting her to admit that about the old BF, it sounds like she might follow through on that if the opportunity presents itself. Maybe you should take it upon yourself to provide that opportunity...

Did you miss the part where I drove her to where he works...lol. Just kidding, I have thought about making the trek myself, and starting a conversation and mention where I'm from. Who knows where that would lead.

 

[AstaSilva]

Cuckluck, you are a king. I envy you X>

 

[cuckluck]

Nice job getting her to admit that about the old BF, it sounds like she might follow through on that if the opportunity presents itself. Maybe you should take it upon yourself to provide that opportunity...

So we tried again, still no sign of him, well I thought i saw him enter the kitchen area, but never saw him again. That's 3 times, I just don't know how to get him out of the office. I could ask to see him, but I want it to happen more organic.

 

[Custer Laststand]

So we tried again, still no sign of him, well I thought i saw him enter the kitchen area, but never saw him again. That's 3 times, I just don't know how to get him out of the office. I could ask to see him, but I want it to happen more organic.

"Organic?!" Hey — if you want it to happen, you need to make it happen. If his office in the restaurant where he's the assistant manager is where he hangs out, tell a waitress or waiter there (when your wife is not present) that you'd like to speak with him. Then, introduce yourself and explain that as you understand it, he and your wife (use her maiden name, of course) are acquainted. Then, explain that she would like to see him again and, if he can find the time, you and your wife would like to meet him for drinks.

 

[cuckluck]

"Organic?!" Hey — if you want it to happen, you need to make it happen. If his office in the restaurant where he's the assistant manager is where he hangs out, tell a waitress or waiter there (when your wife is not present) that you'd like to speak with him. Then, introduce yourself and explain that as you understand it, he and your wife (use her maiden name, of course) are acquainted. Then, explain that she would like to see him again and, if he can find the time, you and your wife would like to meet him for drinks.

She wants to see him. I may have to do that.

 

[Custer Laststand]

She wants to see him. I may have to do that.

Go for it.