I was reading this excellent post thanks to whoever bumped it up - http://www.cuckolds.com/forums/general-cuckoldry/455-how-get-your-wife-fuck-other-men.html and was thinking that this is a very interesting and informative thread. I’m no expert on the ways in which men go about getting their wives to become sluts, hotwives, cuckoldress’ or whatever, but the logic of the OP seems spot on to me. I would have said that a woman either is that way, or isn’t, and is not likely to change her perspective on her sexuality one way or another. Perhaps though, some are that way and only need some positive reinforcement to allow it to come out. Or maybe there are other factors that allow normally faithful and traditionally monogamous women to turn ***** (although I am convinced that if a woman is not already predisposed to that sort of behavior there is little chance of her ripening up).
This has me thinking about what stage my wife might be at in her progression towards full-fledged slut. For a while now I’ve sensed that she is just on the cusp of becoming a totally unabashed ***** but something still seems to be holding her back.
She certainly has it in her, I made sure of that from the very beginning, as I’ve never been someone who had any interest in a vanilla relationship. Though for the most part on the surface she presents herself as what polite society would deem “respectable” (what I would call prude), she has a far more deviant side to her that only becomes evident either when intoxicated or during sex. When I first met her I thought she might be way too vanilla for my taste but I soon found out that one of her co-workers was the cousin of a good friend of mine, and from him I learned that it had been open season on her around the office for quite some time. Now THAT is my kind of girl, I thought – I’ve always gone for the slutty ones, even though past girlfriends had been far more outwardly *****-ish than her - I thought a little discretion might not be such a bad thing. As I am finding out though, her inner slut is extremely passive-aggressive. And call me odd, but it’s becoming rather annoying. Luckily I’m a patient man.
In the beginning she did her best to hide it. She adamantly rejected any insinuation that she was anything but a pure innocent little angel, which we now both find laughable. The sex was very plain, and yet her sex drive was insatiable. So insatiable that she would often get angry and start huge fights with me whenever I didn’t want to fuck her.
Often she would accuse me of cheating on her because after all if I’m not fucking her I must be fucking someone else right? (That was her logic). THIS statement by her is KEY, because is it not true that when one has a guilty conscience they often project that guilt onto others? When someone accuses you of something that you are not doing it can be a sign that they themselves are doing what they accuse you of - her words – remember that for now because it becomes relevant later.
I failed miserably at communicating to her that the reason for my growing lack of interest in sex was her lack of kink, energy and seduction. As it turned out I never needed to relay that message because as the spells between our rare sexual encounters grew longer and longer apart she became all the more aggressive, and kinky. At times I was practically being *****! The menu opened up vastly – anal is her favorite orgasm, swallowing cum, facials, hair pulling, spanking, being called dirty names – her penchant for rough and kinky sex became transparent as time went by. And my interest went up needless to say, but I soon found myself over sexed to the point where I was avoiding it at all costs. I never thought it possible but I was just getting TOO much. And so our sex life began to wane once again and she became extremely bitter about it.
Now there is a difference between being a “slut in the bedroom” and just being a slut. The first is exclusive and the latter is not. I know that my wife is, in effect, both, but I wonder just how long she has been the latter of the two. Recent developments have made me realize it may have been right under my nose all along.
My wife would on occasion get extremely ***** and end up kissing someone at a bar or club. She would show a little recourse here and there but mostly just blame it on the liquor. I have never discouraged this even slightly. In fact I have always encouraged her and flat out told her in the past that she can do far more than that if she chooses, just so long as there are no secrets and no lies. She says she wouldn’t want to do that, then she changes her tune and begins to ponder the idea, and then backpedals again, and ultimately claims that she really only wants to have sex with me…yeah right.
Most recently we went through a long sexless spell, I’m talking maybe 3 or 4 times in a period of a year. We fought constantly, argued about every stupid little thing, typical marriage on the rocks. During that time, I ended up cheating on her a handful of times over the course of about a month and half, which was only about 4 or 5 months ago. I regretted it even before it was revealed. And when she found out, needless to say it was nearly the end of our marriage, but we ended up reconciling and agreeing to try and work things out.
That’s when she dropped her own news on me – I wasn’t the only one who’d had some indiscretions! And this revelation came not at the moment when we were supposed to be fessing up to everything under the premise that whatever was admitted to at the time could be forgiven and forgotten, but an entire month later. Considering I had to make confessions of the same nature I’ve no idea the reason for her hesitation in confessing to her own infidelity.
The first thing she admitted to dated back almost 2 years ago, and involved another woman who was the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine. This wasn’t totally shocking as it wasn’t much of a secret that this girl had a thing for my wife. Apparently one night after a night of clubbing and drinking they ended up kissing in the bar and later eating each other out, and whatever else happened “she doesn’t remember” (“I don’t remember”, I have found, is her way of saying she doesn’t want to tell me). How did it happen? According to her – after making out with this girl at the bar the girl told her she wanted to eat her pussy and while my wife claims she had no intention of going that far she went back to her place and then - “I don’t know… it just happened”. This is what I mean by her slutty side being passive-aggressive – she knows what the girl wants, claims she does not want that, yet puts herself in a perfect position for it to happen.
This has me thinking about what stage my wife might be at in her progression towards full-fledged slut. For a while now I’ve sensed that she is just on the cusp of becoming a totally unabashed ***** but something still seems to be holding her back.
She certainly has it in her, I made sure of that from the very beginning, as I’ve never been someone who had any interest in a vanilla relationship. Though for the most part on the surface she presents herself as what polite society would deem “respectable” (what I would call prude), she has a far more deviant side to her that only becomes evident either when intoxicated or during sex. When I first met her I thought she might be way too vanilla for my taste but I soon found out that one of her co-workers was the cousin of a good friend of mine, and from him I learned that it had been open season on her around the office for quite some time. Now THAT is my kind of girl, I thought – I’ve always gone for the slutty ones, even though past girlfriends had been far more outwardly *****-ish than her - I thought a little discretion might not be such a bad thing. As I am finding out though, her inner slut is extremely passive-aggressive. And call me odd, but it’s becoming rather annoying. Luckily I’m a patient man.
In the beginning she did her best to hide it. She adamantly rejected any insinuation that she was anything but a pure innocent little angel, which we now both find laughable. The sex was very plain, and yet her sex drive was insatiable. So insatiable that she would often get angry and start huge fights with me whenever I didn’t want to fuck her.
Often she would accuse me of cheating on her because after all if I’m not fucking her I must be fucking someone else right? (That was her logic). THIS statement by her is KEY, because is it not true that when one has a guilty conscience they often project that guilt onto others? When someone accuses you of something that you are not doing it can be a sign that they themselves are doing what they accuse you of - her words – remember that for now because it becomes relevant later.
I failed miserably at communicating to her that the reason for my growing lack of interest in sex was her lack of kink, energy and seduction. As it turned out I never needed to relay that message because as the spells between our rare sexual encounters grew longer and longer apart she became all the more aggressive, and kinky. At times I was practically being *****! The menu opened up vastly – anal is her favorite orgasm, swallowing cum, facials, hair pulling, spanking, being called dirty names – her penchant for rough and kinky sex became transparent as time went by. And my interest went up needless to say, but I soon found myself over sexed to the point where I was avoiding it at all costs. I never thought it possible but I was just getting TOO much. And so our sex life began to wane once again and she became extremely bitter about it.
Now there is a difference between being a “slut in the bedroom” and just being a slut. The first is exclusive and the latter is not. I know that my wife is, in effect, both, but I wonder just how long she has been the latter of the two. Recent developments have made me realize it may have been right under my nose all along.
My wife would on occasion get extremely ***** and end up kissing someone at a bar or club. She would show a little recourse here and there but mostly just blame it on the liquor. I have never discouraged this even slightly. In fact I have always encouraged her and flat out told her in the past that she can do far more than that if she chooses, just so long as there are no secrets and no lies. She says she wouldn’t want to do that, then she changes her tune and begins to ponder the idea, and then backpedals again, and ultimately claims that she really only wants to have sex with me…yeah right.
Most recently we went through a long sexless spell, I’m talking maybe 3 or 4 times in a period of a year. We fought constantly, argued about every stupid little thing, typical marriage on the rocks. During that time, I ended up cheating on her a handful of times over the course of about a month and half, which was only about 4 or 5 months ago. I regretted it even before it was revealed. And when she found out, needless to say it was nearly the end of our marriage, but we ended up reconciling and agreeing to try and work things out.
That’s when she dropped her own news on me – I wasn’t the only one who’d had some indiscretions! And this revelation came not at the moment when we were supposed to be fessing up to everything under the premise that whatever was admitted to at the time could be forgiven and forgotten, but an entire month later. Considering I had to make confessions of the same nature I’ve no idea the reason for her hesitation in confessing to her own infidelity.
The first thing she admitted to dated back almost 2 years ago, and involved another woman who was the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine. This wasn’t totally shocking as it wasn’t much of a secret that this girl had a thing for my wife. Apparently one night after a night of clubbing and drinking they ended up kissing in the bar and later eating each other out, and whatever else happened “she doesn’t remember” (“I don’t remember”, I have found, is her way of saying she doesn’t want to tell me). How did it happen? According to her – after making out with this girl at the bar the girl told her she wanted to eat her pussy and while my wife claims she had no intention of going that far she went back to her place and then - “I don’t know… it just happened”. This is what I mean by her slutty side being passive-aggressive – she knows what the girl wants, claims she does not want that, yet puts herself in a perfect position for it to happen.
