babyruthiezhubby said:
...Why do many cuckold husbands want to be thought of as Sissy, impotent, small dicked worthless lovers. Why would any man want to be humiliated and thought of as less of a man by their wife? and how can a marriage survive the constant belittling of one or the other partner?...
Possibly in the long run it cannot. There are many different kinds of cuckoldry accepted as valid these days, but surely no one really doubts that there is an original meaning: that the woman has looked elsewhere because a human need (sex and/or love) isn't being satisfied at home.
Throughout history the sign of 'the horns' was a sign of humiliation and cause for behind-the-hands laughter of others. It was not the sign of sharing one's wife, lending her, pimping her out for one's own pleasure or any of the many other variants now accepted as part of the cuckoldry scene.
I see the word 'slut' used all over the place in these forums. It seems somewhat degrading to the female half of cuckold relationships to me. Okay, it's one of those 'turn-on' words of course - and did once derive from social attitudes centuries ago to women who didn't keep their marriage vows - but many of the women who quietly cuckold their husbands are not into casual meets, meets where the husband is present and approving, or anything else that resembles that kind of behaviour. They are simply finding elsewhere what they were originally led to believe they could expect from their husbands.
I am bi. I love women - but I'm also, and have been almost as far back as I can remember, a submissive cock-loving transvestite sissy
as well. I adored being an utter slut for men. It is in the nature of that urge for me that I always wanted my cock to be as small and insignificant as possible; I wanted to be as much like a girl as I could be - and wanted men to treat me like a girl, not a boy dressed as a girl.
Though my length is not unusually small I would say my girth is, fairly. Not much more than an inch across when erect. I know enough about anatomy to know that 'size isn't everything' - but I also know enough about women (married twice and many other straight relationships along the way) to know that women are notorious liars when they say that to men! They don't want to hurt our feelings.
Knowing what I do about the sissy side of my own nature (and what I was endowed with), how can I not feel that
any woman has the right ultimately to say to me 'You don't cut it, buster; I need more - more than you've got in your panties and more than you can manage in bed. I don't want a sissy for a husband, especially one who seems to like licking my pussy more than fucking it.'
What possible grounds have I for saying that is unfair of any woman? I was in a cuckold relationship for 13 years with my second wife. Parts of it were difficult to accept, very difficult, but on the whole it was wonderful. She chose to end it - and I believe any true cuckold ('True' in the sense I outlined above) must accept that the day will probably come when the woman has no further use for her cuckolded husband. In a way it is the completion of his cuckoldry to be thrown away as 'no longer required'!
And the terrible thing is, it excites me if a woman says those things. I understand the power women have when they say such a thing - after all, it's one of the things I found so deeply exciting about pretending to be one myself! Dicks seek; vaginas rule! 'No' is simultaneously the most power-enjoying and most erotic word of all! History is littered with men who heaped everything on the women who said 'no', to try and get them to say 'yes'.
And if I were in the fortunate position you are, BabyRuthiezHubby, with a wife this gorgeous (as in fact I once was)...
...I'd be beside myself with excitement to hear her say that though I might happen to
want her body I didn't deserve it, as she teased me every day with the sight of something so beautiful which I cannot have, but others can.
I know that doesn't really answer your question, but it's the best I can do.
