So very true.julie43mwf said:interesting, I know with my husband I am much more conservitive, not that I a really conservitive, but more so with him, and using my brain first. With the black men I have been with, they seem to like to push my limits, so its kinda like a challenge, and yes, have done my share of public things, although, don't do it in the town i live, I still and thinking somewhat. but out of town, yea, I tend to not think, and just do, and know I would be embaressed if caught.