Agreed but after talking more her odd mood was more that she was shocked at her own reaction rather than upset about what happened.Nazareth said:It's not a comfortable feeling when you may feel a need to 'protect' your wife, but are helpless to do so.
As long as s is comfortable, I wouldn't worry too much.
Perhaps she can get this bloke to slow down, take it easy for the beginning. Once she is more used to his size and technique, she can let him go at it harder until they find a happy medium.
Ive told her if she does meet him again she should set her boundaries .
Then push them if she wants to.