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[RuthlessHeathen]

Hello Everyone! I am new to the site. I was searching around for a group to find out more info and get on the right track with all of this.

A little background if you will. My bf and I have been together strong for 4 1/2 years. He is everything I ever wanted in a man. I love him more then life itself. With that said before we met I was slightly inexperienced sexually. I had been with plenty of guys but had never experienced anything from the usual other then different positions. My boyfriend on the other hand was very experienced and had tried many of his fantasies and liked them. He is not the kind of guy that can have normal vanilla sex if that is what you would call it. It started to appear to me when he couldnt keep an erection while having normal sex that he needed a little something extra. So we started to talk and he started to open up to me that he was a bi sub. I had no problem with this as I knew I couldnt fulfill those fantasies and if he wanted to explore that more then he was allowed.

He then started to open up about wanting me to find someone who satisfied me and that it would turn him on if I did so. I had no idea of what to think of what he was saying. I had never "cheated" in any relationship. I then started to endulge him and started to look for people to engage and he got excited and wanted to have intercourse with me more. We started talking about it during sex and he got harder and more turned on then I ever saw him. The more I told him I was doing the more our sex life had gone into over drive. Now I am 27 and he is 31 so he has slowed down from his prime so I wasnt getting it as much as I wanted. This was the perfect oppertunity that I saw to get my needs met and his fantasies fulfilled.

The first time I did it I met someone and we had sex at night behind a resturant. This was exciting and I came home with a creampie for him which was what he wanted. He also wanted me to call him while I was having sex so he could listen and that didnt pan out. The second time I invited the guy over to our place without him knowing it I had my boyfriend in the other room listening as he had his way with me. After he left my boyfriend ate his cum out of me.

It seems though that the more I do this the more frustrated he gets with me. If I dont do it exactly as he wants (ie call him so he can hear or do it close to the time he comes home so it is fresh in me) he gets all upset. He finally told me the word that what he is or what this all is is ...cuckolding. So I wanted to know more.

I want to know how to turn him on and have fun myself. I am trying to get comfortable having sex with other men when I have learned to trust him so much and at the same time fulfill what he wants which is hard. The more I read it states that woman do what they want and the men learn to deal with it and are sissified... how do I get him to let me do what I want without the hassle he gives me to do it his way? You cant be cuckolded and be in control at the same time?

Any help, suggestions, or advice appreciated.

 

[Custer Laststand]

You B/F seems somewhat conflicted. He doesn't "get it" (yet)....

Hi Ms. Ruthlessheathen—

Nice screen name, BTW. To be your B/F's cuckoldress, and he your cuckold, you will need to take control of your relationship. I suggest reading Elise Sutton's web page:

Elise Sutton's Female Superiority Page

and the first of her two books:

Sutton, Elise. 2003. Female Domination: an exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (298 pp)

and moving your relationship in that direction. If you find this appeals to you, Ms. Elise has an e-zine, "Predominant," you may be interested in subscribing to.

Best wishes—

Custer

 

[RuthlessHeathen]

Thank You

Custer,

Thank you for the link. I am really enjoying learning about this new side of myself. I find that I am in a constant state of learning but I am open to all of this and I would like to explore deeper.

PS. Thanks for the compliment on the screen name...

 

[Custer Laststand]

Cool....

Ms. Ruthlessheathen,

Great! Ms. Elise's e-zine, "Predominant," includes a fairly vast archive of "Real Life Experiences" subdivided into FemDom categories, one of which is female domination through cuckolding. Each "experience" consists of a letter (to her) by a man or woman about their experiences relevant, mostly or in part, to the category it appears in. Also, on her web page (as you may have found), there is a section of "Questions and Answers" re. FemDom.

It sounds like you're on your way.

—Custer

PS. You're welcome....

 

[AngleBaby]

Hello and welcome to the board. Hope you find what you are looking for, but one thing you need to set straight right away is who is the dom in the relationship. I am a bit strict about this, but I see the healthiest and longest D/s relationships are clear about this. The sub should not be a dom from below you. Take control and make it clear, you are in control, even if you are still learning. He may be frustrated over this, but that is what he actually wants.

 

[cuckbook]

As a Cuck I'm in that kind of stage where I'm trying to be a bit "top". It isn't the way I want it, but we're still establishing boundries through experiment before she takes full control over our relationship.

I'm just scared of getting hurt and losing her as new things come up, like we previously agreed that Bulls would be unknown to both of us to prevent a risk of a bonding relationship and thus her leaving me for one of them. However she now wants to sleep with one of her best mates that I dont know, so it's all abit in limbo!

Stick to it, and take full control, don't be afraid as there's plenty of input online for you to use that will suprise him.

 

[mincercuck]

Hello and welcome to the board. Hope you find what you are looking for, but one thing you need to set straight right away is who is the dom in the relationship. I am a bit strict about this, but I see the healthiest and longest D/s relationships are clear about this. The sub should not be a dom from below you. Take control and make it clear, you are in control, even if you are still learning. He may be frustrated over this, but that is what he actually wants.

I agree,he is controlling you from below,but that maybe that he is just playing at it,for his own gratification and although i think you should take it slow at first,there comes a time when you must take control,and tell him what YOU want,and he will have to realise that your satisfaction comes first,his second,which can be very rewarding for everyone in the long run.