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New Cuck (Maybe)
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This is hard to answer without knowing of the dynamics of you and wife's relationship, and how that interacts with the dynamics between the three of you when the other guy is added.Hawkdoctor said:
What I would fear the most is if they begin to spend 'alone' time together, it increases the chance of them falling in love and it becoming more than a physical and/or casual relationship. Especially in your specific case; your wife could easily fulfill the role of being his replacement wife, and you already know that she has deceived you by hiding what she was doing.
I'm not saying that a night or a weekend alone with him is impossible, but I would tread very carefully.
It's great for your sex life if it can happen. I've always loved when my wife would take solo vacations, some of them for 5-6 days at a time.
I can't recall if she ever spent a night or a weekend with a boyfriend specifically, but she has had some guys spend the night (or most of it) when I've been away from home.
Since I've been giving updates, I'll give you the Thursday leaving for the dinner date update. I happened to catch a view of her getting dressed. She put on the sexy ruffled see through red bra and panties I bought her. My favorite!! See looks like a million dollars with the sun dress she's wearing. I was watching the baseball game. She came to the recliner and gave me a very passionate kiss good bye. I told her to have fun and enjoy the night. More tomorrow.
Interesting.Hawkdoctor said:
I can see the dilemma.
Most cuckold husbands would prefer their wife to continue an ongoing relationship, perhaps even hoping for a long-term one.
And it's not always a bad thing. Or doesn't have to be.
In your case, I'm not sure how you can add any rules or stipulations that makes any sense.
In other words, if he is interested in remarrying, he should direct his attention to other women that are not your wife. But how can you dictate such a thing?
Conversely, if he is not interested in marriage at this time, his attention should be redirected as above. And you still have the same problem of trying to impose limits
I hope all of you can find a reasonable compromise that satisfies everyone.
Here is the update and it sounds like a good one. She said they went to Des Moines for dinner to avoid someone they know seeing them together. During dinner he said he was aware that this "fling," as he called it, was about to end. He said he couldn't thank her enough for what she did for him. Said he wouldn't be nearly ready to socialize without her help. he said to thank me for my understanding and knows it was above and beyond expectations. He said she has been a wonderful lover.
They returned to his place around 9:30 to 10:00. He served a couple glasses of wine and then began to undress her. She said they made love and then talked for at least an hour while still naked and snuggling. I was surprised when added he kissed her and then she helped him get erect again. She has excellent oral skills so I'm sure she used those skills. They fucked again and then got dressed. He walked her to the car and thanked her again. She said good luck and drove home around 1:00 a.m.
This is a perfect outcome and I know she did a good deed for someone. While I wanted her to try other guys, there was certainly mixed emotions. I was thinking about then tonight, as I was reading my book, and got a raging hard on so subconsciously I know I approved. Maybe now, as time passes, we can do those things together. Whether I watch, join in, or let her go solo will be fine as long as there are no secrets. Thanks for following my story.
They returned to his place around 9:30 to 10:00. He served a couple glasses of wine and then began to undress her. She said they made love and then talked for at least an hour while still naked and snuggling. I was surprised when added he kissed her and then she helped him get erect again. She has excellent oral skills so I'm sure she used those skills. They fucked again and then got dressed. He walked her to the car and thanked her again. She said good luck and drove home around 1:00 a.m.
This is a perfect outcome and I know she did a good deed for someone. While I wanted her to try other guys, there was certainly mixed emotions. I was thinking about then tonight, as I was reading my book, and got a raging hard on so subconsciously I know I approved. Maybe now, as time passes, we can do those things together. Whether I watch, join in, or let her go solo will be fine as long as there are no secrets. Thanks for following my story.
You guys (cucks) that are use to this probably don't go through this like I did. I encouraged her to fuck other guys and she did, but did it behind my back. Most of my thinking is very supportive of her fucking other guys. At other times I wonder what I'm doing. This little saga confirmed my bias that she is good fucking. He fucked her five times and twice last night. She used her excellent oral skills to get him erect again (I'm assuming). I'd like to join in or watch. I know she is uncomfortable with me watching. Maybe joining in will work. As I said above, I'm feeling pretty good. Her little fling is probably over.
Thanks for all the comments as I dealt with this. It was very helpful. She and I will discuss the future of sharing, swapping, and cuckhold.
Thanks for all the comments as I dealt with this. It was very helpful. She and I will discuss the future of sharing, swapping, and cuckhold.
As ex light swingers, my wife Claire also has the green light to go with any guy she wishes as things have now morphed into cuckolding. I got all my kicks from seeing her with other men. But the bottom line for me is absolute honesty right from their first 'hello' to 'how did it feel when he entered you?' It's a shared excitement and arousal. I see it more as part of our sex life rather than something detached from me. It all started as pillow talk and a dare. But she's clearly a little uncomfortable with talking about it in any great detail. I've put this down to a sense of guilt as a married woman, despite numerous reassurances from me that I adore her for what she's doing.Hawkdoctor said:
Your wife's motivation for keeping things from you could be either guilt, protection of your feelings, or to hide a deeper feeling for him. We play with fire when we make this about regular meets, especially if the third party is unattached. I guess that's all part of the thrill. It's a difficult balance to make between granting her sexual freedom and fulfillment and losing her to someone else. My wife always says she prefers one-offs with no strings attached as there are 'fewer complications'. I've been present for the majority of her encounters. If your presence has been declined I might call that into question, although the thought of sitting at home while she's with someone else is a huge turn on. But the success of such an arrangement stands or falls on absolute trust and honesty. You are both in it for the thrill and she needs to share that with you. Look out for those red lights.
Several months have passed since I posted my concern and then the reality of her fucking a guy that just lost his wife and was isolating himself. The last dinner night ended up not being the last one. The guy is dating another lady fairly regularly. However, he occasionally will contact my wife for another fling. A month went by without any contact. In November into December when we left for South Padre Island he had a dinner date four times. Each time they went to Des Moines to not be seen. The evening was from around 7:00 - 1:00 a.m. So he fucked her four more times and each time stated he was so grateful she got him past the grief of losing his wife. I might be cuck but I haven't watched. 
Sounds like she should be the grateful one,getting as much cock as she wants.Hawkdoctor said:Several months have passed since I posted my concern and then the reality of her fucking a guy that just lost his wife and was isolating himself. The last dinner night ended up not being the last one. The guy is dating another lady fairly regularly. However, he occasionally will contact my wife for another fling. A month went by without any contact. In November into December when we left for South Padre Island he had a dinner date four times. Each time they went to Des Moines to not be seen. The evening was from around 7:00 - 1:00 a.m. So he fucked her four more times and each time stated he was so grateful she got him past the grief of losing his wife. I might be cuck but I haven't watched.
