My Wife Just Cuckolded Me. How Should I Feel

[Nick1976]

My wife just cuckolded me for the first time. We have been married 7 years and I'm 10 years her senior. We have always had an awesome sex life but we have been growing apart with my work schedule being quite taxing. The kids are amazing but having two young boys in the house cuts into our alone time too. I've always been a little more on the submissive side in bed and I guess she had gotten bored with that too. Anyway I recently found a message on her phone which she forgot to delete from a guy that had been texting her. He had done some work for us in the past and started flirting with her when she would call to arrange the jobs. My wife is only 27 and very attractive. I know guys stare at her but seeing an actual text from a guy about wanting to fuck her set me off. I confronted her and she admitted to flirting with him for some time. She said she was tired of being in control sexually and liked that he took control of her. Also she admitted that he had a huge dick that she really like. When I asked how she knew he had a huge dick she told me they had exchanged pics. When I pressed her she admitted to me that she had given him a blowjob in our house while he was working on our kitchen. I lost my temper and stormed out. Later that night I tried to understand what had happened and called and spoke to her. She begged me to come home and told me how much she loved me. We talked late into the night and decided to work things out. She woke me up early in the morning and we had amazing sex. The best we had had in years. She told me that she wanted to fuck him just once and begged me to let her. I was really reluctant but she promised me it was just sex and that she really really wanted to feel his dick inside her because it was so big. She promised to make it worth my while. Later while I was at work she kept sending me links to cuckolding videos and pictures. She would send me texts telling me that she knew how much i liked her dominating me in bed and this would be fun if i just let her. After about a week of her pestering me I guess I gave in. In truth think mentally I had just given up and figured our marriage was broken and that we were going to stay together for the kids and this was just the first step. Anyway all aha today she kept sending me very seductive texts and told me that she was going to see him tonight. I wasn't turned on by the thought of her with another man but I was very turned on by the way she was verbally dominating me through the text messages. When I came home there was a note on the fridge telling me that dinner was in the fridge and I was to pop it in the oven at 6. There was also a very nice bottle of wine and on our dining table that was set up for a fancy dinner for two, candles and all. Her note instructed me to have the dinner on the table at 7 and to have the bottle open and candles lit. She was true to her word and walked in at exactly 7 and kissed me very deeply and passionately then told me that she didn't have much time. We ate dinner much the same as any other night, taking about work and the kids and I thought maybe she wasn't going to go through with it. We were laughing and joking and she squeezed my hand, leaned over and kissed me softly and whispered I love you. The she jumped up and said I have to get ready. She ran into our bedroom and re-applied her makeup and came out looking ravishing in a tight black dress that barely made it past her ass. She kissed me again and thanked me for letting her do this then hurried out the door. I was on pins and needles waiting for her to come home. I tried to watch tv and read a book but i was too distracted. At around 9:45 I got a text from her that just said "Finished be home soon". I didn't know how to feel. Then another that said "be naked". I usually sleep nude anyway so that wasn't a big deal. She came in the bedroom and clicked on the lights. She still looked amazing but her hair was messed and her eyes were glassy. She had clearly been drinking. She said that she loved me then she jumped on top of me and straddled my chest.
"Do you want to hear about it?" She asked. I didn't know how to respond but deep down I needed to know. I nodded my consent. "It was so fucking good baby. I don't want to hurt your feelings but it was so fucking good." I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I guess the expression on my face gave me because she bent down and kissed me.
"Baby don't be sad." She assured me. "I'll never love anyone but you. But it was so nice to have a guy tell me what to do and fuck me like I need to be fucked."
"What does that mean?!" I asked her angrily.
She thought for a second before responding. "Just that sometimes a girl just wants to feel like a slut. She wants a guy to throw her down, bend her over, pull her hair and fuck the shit out of her. And that's not your thing baby. Even when you're in control it's always like you're making love to me. Sometimes I just want to get fucked. And it doesn't hurt that his dick really stretched me out," she added. Again I guess my face gave me away. "Don't worry though baby. No one has ever made me cum like you do. Your tongue is everything."
Then she asked if I was horny. I really wasn't. But she reached back with her left hand and started stroking my cock. I started to get hard. "You're gonna eat me." She said commandingly. "I need to come so bad." Then she lifted her ass off my chest and slid up towards my face. I've always loved going down on her and when she sits on my face I go crazy. She pulled up herself dress and i mentioned that she wasn't wearing any panties. "Don't worry, he wore a condom" she assured me as she rested her pussy on my face. She commanded me to eat her pussy and I did as I was told. "Baby that's so good." She told me. "My pussy is so sore after the pounding it just took. Make it feel good baby. Make me cum." I was suddenly very turned on. She started bucking and grinding her pussy down onto my mouth while I licked and sucked her clit. "That's it baby. Eat that pussy! You know you're my bitch now and you're going to eat my pussy when ever I want." Her talking was driving me crazy. I had always wanted her to talk to me like that but she was never into it. "How does it taste baby?" She asked. "Can you tell how wet I am after being fucked? He fucked me with my legs around his shoulders then flipped me over onto my knees and pounded me til I came. I fucking loved it!" It was too much for me. I needed to fuck her. I threw her off of me and got on top of her but she stopped me. "You always wanted me to be in control right?" She asked. I told her I did. "Then from now on I'm in control in the bedroom. Tonight you don't get to fuck me. You get to eat me and make me cum."
"Babe, seriously?" I asked.
"Yes bitch," she answered with a smirk on her face. She spread her legs and lightly pulled apart her pussy lips to give me beautiful view. "Tell me that this pussy owns you." She said. I hesitated and she said "Tell me this pussy owns you!!!" Much more forcefully this time.
"Your pussy owns me," I said.
"Yeah it does," she smiled. "Tell me you're my bitch."
"I am your bitch," I repeated back to her.
"Good boy." She smiled her sexy smile at me. "Now come finish me".
She laid back and went down on her like I never had before. She came hard with my tongue on her clit and two of my fingers inside her. Then she made me get her vibrator out and and she had me suck on her toes while she made herself come again. When she was finished she told me that I could jerk off. I laid down next to her and started to jerk off. The whole time she told me about how hot it was getting fucked and how she loved the idea that I was at home waiting to clean her pussy for her. I was so turned on that I came like a fire hose all over my stomach and chest. My wife leaned over and licked every drop of come off my stomach and chest and then kissed me deeply for almost a minute before pulling away.
Afterward when the sex was done and the passion was gone I started to feel scared and jealous and ashamed. I guess she could tell as she sat at her vanity taking her makeup off because she blew me a kiss and again told me how much she loved me.
"You're amazing," she said. "You really are. Thank you for letting me do this. If you never want me to do it again I won't. But I really did love it. I loved fucking him and I loved how big he was but I love you more than I love how that felt."
"I don't know how I feel yet," I told her honestly. "I was so turned on by how dominant you were but now I feel really guilty or ashamed...I don't know." I said forlornly.
She got up and came and sat next to me on the bed. She leaned over again and kissed me. "You're my world and I'm sorry I ever even thought about cheating on you. I won't ever bring this up again if you don't want me to but please don't be ashamed. Why should you be ashamed about giving me my greatest night of pleasure ever. Why should you feel guilty about loving me enough to let me go out and get what I needed sexually. That just shows how strong you are and how much you love me."
"So you want to do it again?" I asked
"Only if you want me to babe," she said. "I did love it. And I really got turned on controlling you when I got home too. I never really like it that much until tonight. It was like the best of both worlds. Having a guy fuck me like a sexual object and having you at home to tend to my other needs like my sex slave." She giggled a little. "It was really hot. And I thought about some other sexy things I want to try with you. I watched some videos on you porn of girls dominating guys."
"But only if I let you keep fucking him," I said matter of factly.
"No baby. Either way. I want to turn you on and make you cum like you did tonight. I know how much you like being dominated. It turned me on to see how much you liked it. If you don't want me to do it again I won't. I'll cut off all contact with him. But I will need you to control me and fuck me how I like too."
"And what about his dick?" I asked
"You can get me a big toy," she laughed. She spent some more time reassuring me before she went to bed. I told her that I wasn't tired and wanted to watch sports center for a while. So now she's asleep in our bed and I'm writing this very conflicted. Do I continue? Tonight was so hot for me and I loved the idea of her being with another guy and then dominating me and telling me about it...but I liked the idea. After I came and had a moment to think all I could think was that my wife that I love had just fucked another guy. Part of me wants to find him and beat him. Part of me wants her to do it again so we can have another night like this. Part of me is ashamed I liked it. Another part is worried that she will fall for him and leave me. Even though she assured me that he was not her type (can't even carry on a conversation or talk intelligently about anything and only seems to worry about who won at hockey last night were her exact words). I looked for advice on line then found this forum looking for advice since I clearly don't want to talk to any of my friends or family about this. Please any advice would be appreciated. Be courteous and respectful please. Thank you

 

[Nazareth]

I'd say your feelings are typical for a first-time cuck. Angst, rage, humiliation, jealousy...and it gives you a hard-on!

I'll also say the two of you have LOTS to talk about. It's possible there wasn't enough of it beforehand, but you have plenty to talk about now.
You may want to start by figuring out what it is that YOU want within your marriage, as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned. For instance, are you willing to submit totally to your wife and have her be the dominant partner? This means letting her making the decisions on who she fucks (and when), including yourself, to what degree she will enforce her domination (will you be allowed to observe or participate, will she become exclusive to her lover(s) while denying you, etc), and so much more.
Or do you want her to be dominant in role-playing situations only?

From your story, it would seem she has you in a prime position to 'force' the cuckold role, and completely dominate you sexually. There are pros and cons to either side, of course, but it will come down to whether you are willing to accept it or not.
Best of luck to you both! I hope you both can be happy and enjoy your marriage.

 

[2wheel]

Sounds like typical 1st time after event angst.

To it feels like this is the beginning. And if you say no she's gonna do it anyway. So my advice is to enjoy the ride, and be part of it rather than disliking the ride and being an outsider.

 

[Mike and Chris]

Accept that she still loves you but simply needs a more Alfa male to satisfy her sexual needs.
Mike

 

[sissystephanie]

I hope you have already told Her it will be okay to see him again. You are a very lucky cuck!

 

[Sub_022]

Tread very lightly. This is new territory for you two. Ensure you discuss everything at length. Establish ground rules of expectations and responsibilities. Do not take this as just a fantasy coming to life. There will be very large bumps in the road as you try to deal with the pscological effects that will be coursing through your thoughts. If you are not open and honest with each other, this will end in disaster for your marriage.

 

[milfchaser]

Remember that her suggestion of roleplay (dominate her in bed as she wants, use a big dildo, etc.) may be OK. A lot of sex is just in the head. Couples roleplay all the time and have a good time of it. Don't remove that as an option.

 

[scuck7]

Your wife is adopting the hotwife mentality and enjoying herself. You need to bask in the feeling of being a cuckold and encourage her to explore all the fantasies she wants with your support. She's adopting her rightful female role of sitting with her cum-filled pussy on your face: clean her, pamper her, and help her meet new men and more perverse sexual encounters as she sees fit. Cleaning strangers cum out of her lovely pussy lips is now one of your duties as a husband.

 

[mwm_49_Wife_did_Blk]

You need to be honest with yourself and her about what you both want and need. One thing that is undeniable you are a cuckold now and she will cuck you again.

She might say she only had to do it once and now she can stop, but what about months from now. The current thrill will be gone and her pussy will ache, longing to feel the high again of being taken by a man. She will reason its only sex, what could once more hurt. At that point if you tell her no she can't go have a hot fuck, she will resent you for it.

You have definitely crossed a line, kinda like loosing your cherry, you're a cuckold and there is no going back.

Are you ready for the next time she comes home after a hot fuck and climbs on your face, but you realize this time she didn't require him to use a condom. Are you ready to clean her when she is full of his cum.

Are you ready for the next guy to come along who is handsome, charming and not just interested in fucking and hockey. How will you feel if wants more and more of her time. When he wants to own more than her pussy.

I can ask these things because I'm going through the same questions with my wife. She cuckold me for the first time this past New Years with a black friend of mine who was in town for the holidays. Well now my wife wants more and she is talking about going to spend the weekend with him.

Good luck hope it works out for you and her.

 

[Sub_022]

Just so you know she wants to do it again and if you forbid it she may hold off for a while - a few months, a year, but she will do it again.

When you have two people with submissive sexual tendencies than the sex works when she gets dominated. She feels used, dirty, slutty and at those sexual highs has no problem making you feel the same. If you enjoyed it than enjoy it again, and keep her honest.

How should you feel - like all of us CONFUSED, horny, jealous, in love, passionate, have a need to reclaim her pussy as yours and make sure she has too much pleasure she knows you love her

True story here. I told my wife after the first exploration (three different go rounds, three different guys, three different nights) that I wanted to stop. She just cucked me this weekend, without me knowing it until she was in another city doing it.

It totally was deceitful and against what we had discussed. It has now turned into more like cheating than anything. This could spell the end of our relationship. We are working on it though, so there may be hope yet.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Nick,

Congratulations! You are coming to grips with your proper status, in your marriage (and in society), as your wife’s cuckold.
The short answer to your post is, read:

The Science of Cuckoldry,
by sex therapist and relationships counselor Susan Gower:

The Science of Cuckoldry

The cuckold husband / hotwife phenomena,
by Dr. Cherry Lee, Ph.D.

The Cuckold Phenomena

For a more extended treatment of your questions, I suggest reading:

Ley, David J., 2009, Insatiable Wives: Women who stray and the men who love them (Roman & Littlefield Publishers, Inc., 291 pp. [hardcover]).

You might suggest to your brand new hotwife that she also read the first two references — perhaps pass them along to her with an e-mail note, if you find this subject awkward to talk about. While reading the third reference, you might leave it sitting on your bedroom nightstand so your wife will know you’re taking her needs seriously.

Regarding your post:

My wife just cuckolded me for the first time. We have been married 7 years and I'm 10 years her senior.

You seem to recognize this won’t be the last time. If you’re ten years older, your wife’s sexuality will increase, almost certainly, as yours wanes.

We have always had an awesome sex life, but we have been growing apart with my work schedule being quite taxing. The kids are amazing, but having two young boys in the house cuts into our alone time too.

In other words, you’ve been neglecting your wife. But regardless, you can’t expect your wife to remain satisfied with fucking only you after 7 years, especially if other men are letting her know, directly and/or indirectly, they find her attractive.

I've always been a little more on the submissive side in bed, and I guess she had gotten bored with that too.

That’s OK. Lots of men…. many of them secretly…. want their wives to be the dominant partner at home and in bed. That more often tends to be the case, apparently, among men who attain dominant positions in their work lives. When they get home, including in bed, they don’t want to be in charge anymore. Rather, they want their wives to be in charge. To see how you and your wife can build a satisfying marriage — for both of you — around this personality characteristic (of yours), I suggest reading:

Sutton, Elise, 2003, Female Domination: An exploration of the male desire for loving female authority (Lulu Publishing, 298 pp., softcover).

I’ve given you rather a lot of homework, so I’ll stop here instead of commenting on the rest of your post. I encourage you to post again after you’ve read some…. preferably all…. of the above and given your (actually quite normal) situation further thought, while talking further with your wife about her need to transform your relationship to a cuckold husband / hotwife form of marriage and (I hope) your reasoned acquiescence.

Disclaimer: I do not know, nor do I have have any kind of relationship with, any of the above authors and gain nothing — financial nor otherwise — from recommending their writings.

—Custer

 

[blahblah]

My wife just cuckolded me for the first time. We have been married 7 years and I'm 10 years her senior. We have always had an awesome sex life but we have been growing apart with my work schedule being quite taxing. The kids are amazing but having two young boys in the house cuts into our alone time too. I've always been a little more on the submissive side in bed and I guess she had gotten bored with that too. Anyway I recently found a message on her phone which she forgot to delete from a guy that had been texting her. He had done some work for us in the past and started flirting with her when she would call to arrange the jobs. My wife is only 27 and very attractive. I know guys stare at her but seeing an actual text from a guy about wanting to fuck her set me off. I confronted her and she admitted to flirting with him for some time. She said she was tired of being in control sexually and liked that he took control of her. Also she admitted that he had a huge dick that she really like. When I asked how she knew he had a huge dick she told me they had exchanged pics. When I pressed her she admitted to me that she had given him a blowjob in our house while he was working on our kitchen. I lost my temper and stormed out. Later that night I tried to understand what had happened and called and spoke to her. She begged me to come home and told me how much she loved me. We talked late into the night and decided to work things out. She woke me up early in the morning and we had amazing sex. The best we had had in years. She told me that she wanted to fuck him just once and begged me to let her. I was really reluctant but she promised me it was just sex and that she really really wanted to feel his dick inside her because it was so big. She promised to make it worth my while. Later while I was at work she kept sending me links to cuckolding videos and pictures. She would send me texts telling me that she knew how much i liked her dominating me in bed and this would be fun if i just let her. After about a week of her pestering me I guess I gave in. In truth think mentally I had just given up and figured our marriage was broken and that we were going to stay together for the kids and this was just the first step. Anyway all aha today she kept sending me very seductive texts and told me that she was going to see him tonight. I wasn't turned on by the thought of her with another man but I was very turned on by the way she was verbally dominating me through the text messages. When I came home there was a note on the fridge telling me that dinner was in the fridge and I was to pop it in the oven at 6. There was also a very nice bottle of wine and on our dining table that was set up for a fancy dinner for two, candles and all. Her note instructed me to have the dinner on the table at 7 and to have the bottle open and candles lit. She was true to her word and walked in at exactly 7 and kissed me very deeply and passionately then told me that she didn't have much time. We ate dinner much the same as any other night, taking about work and the kids and I thought maybe she wasn't going to go through with it. We were laughing and joking and she squeezed my hand, leaned over and kissed me softly and whispered I love you. The she jumped up and said I have to get ready. She ran into our bedroom and re-applied her makeup and came out looking ravishing in a tight black dress that barely made it past her ass. She kissed me again and thanked me for letting her do this then hurried out the door. I was on pins and needles waiting for her to come home. I tried to watch tv and read a book but i was too distracted. At around 9:45 I got a text from her that just said "Finished be home soon". I didn't know how to feel. Then another that said "be naked". I usually sleep nude anyway so that wasn't a big deal. She came in the bedroom and clicked on the lights. She still looked amazing but her hair was messed and her eyes were glassy. She had clearly been drinking. She said that she loved me then she jumped on top of me and straddled my chest.
"Do you want to hear about it?" She asked. I didn't know how to respond but deep down I needed to know. I nodded my consent. "It was so fucking good baby. I don't want to hurt your feelings but it was so fucking good." I felt like I had been punched in the gut. I guess the expression on my face gave me because she bent down and kissed me.
"Baby don't be sad." She assured me. "I'll never love anyone but you. But it was so nice to have a guy tell me what to do and fuck me like I need to be fucked."
"What does that mean?!" I asked her angrily.
She thought for a second before responding. "Just that sometimes a girl just wants to feel like a slut. She wants a guy to throw her down, bend her over, pull her hair and fuck the shit out of her. And that's not your thing baby. Even when you're in control it's always like you're making love to me. Sometimes I just want to get fucked. And it doesn't hurt that his dick really stretched me out," she added. Again I guess my face gave me away. "Don't worry though baby. No one has ever made me cum like you do. Your tongue is everything."
Then she asked if I was horny. I really wasn't. But she reached back with her left hand and started stroking my cock. I started to get hard. "You're gonna eat me." She said commandingly. "I need to come so bad." Then she lifted her ass off my chest and slid up towards my face. I've always loved going down on her and when she sits on my face I go crazy. She pulled up herself dress and i mentioned that she wasn't wearing any panties. "Don't worry, he wore a condom" she assured me as she rested her pussy on my face. She commanded me to eat her pussy and I did as I was told. "Baby that's so good." She told me. "My pussy is so sore after the pounding it just took. Make it feel good baby. Make me cum." I was suddenly very turned on. She started bucking and grinding her pussy down onto my mouth while I licked and sucked her clit. "That's it baby. Eat that pussy! You know you're my bitch now and you're going to eat my pussy when ever I want." Her talking was driving me crazy. I had always wanted her to talk to me like that but she was never into it. "How does it taste baby?" She asked. "Can you tell how wet I am after being fucked? He fucked me with my legs around his shoulders then flipped me over onto my knees and pounded me til I came. I fucking loved it!" It was too much for me. I needed to fuck her. I threw her off of me and got on top of her but she stopped me. "You always wanted me to be in control right?" She asked. I told her I did. "Then from now on I'm in control in the bedroom. Tonight you don't get to fuck me. You get to eat me and make me cum."
"Babe, seriously?" I asked.
"Yes bitch," she answered with a smirk on her face. She spread her legs and lightly pulled apart her pussy lips to give me beautiful view. "Tell me that this pussy owns you." She said. I hesitated and she said "Tell me this pussy owns you!!!" Much more forcefully this time.
"Your pussy owns me," I said.
"Yeah it does," she smiled. "Tell me you're my bitch."
"I am your bitch," I repeated back to her.
"Good boy." She smiled her sexy smile at me. "Now come finish me".
She laid back and went down on her like I never had before. She came hard with my tongue on her clit and two of my fingers inside her. Then she made me get her vibrator out and and she had me suck on her toes while she made herself come again. When she was finished she told me that I could jerk off. I laid down next to her and started to jerk off. The whole time she told me about how hot it was getting fucked and how she loved the idea that I was at home waiting to clean her pussy for her. I was so turned on that I came like a fire hose all over my stomach and chest. My wife leaned over and licked every drop of come off my stomach and chest and then kissed me deeply for almost a minute before pulling away.
Afterward when the sex was done and the passion was gone I started to feel scared and jealous and ashamed. I guess she could tell as she sat at her vanity taking her makeup off because she blew me a kiss and again told me how much she loved me.
"You're amazing," she said. "You really are. Thank you for letting me do this. If you never want me to do it again I won't. But I really did love it. I loved fucking him and I loved how big he was but I love you more than I love how that felt."
"I don't know how I feel yet," I told her honestly. "I was so turned on by how dominant you were but now I feel really guilty or ashamed...I don't know." I said forlornly.
She got up and came and sat next to me on the bed. She leaned over again and kissed me. "You're my world and I'm sorry I ever even thought about cheating on you. I won't ever bring this up again if you don't want me to but please don't be ashamed. Why should you be ashamed about giving me my greatest night of pleasure ever. Why should you feel guilty about loving me enough to let me go out and get what I needed sexually. That just shows how strong you are and how much you love me."
"So you want to do it again?" I asked
"Only if you want me to babe," she said. "I did love it. And I really got turned on controlling you when I got home too. I never really like it that much until tonight. It was like the best of both worlds. Having a guy fuck me like a sexual object and having you at home to tend to my other needs like my sex slave." She giggled a little. "It was really hot. And I thought about some other sexy things I want to try with you. I watched some videos on you porn of girls dominating guys."
"But only if I let you keep fucking him," I said matter of factly.
"No baby. Either way. I want to turn you on and make you cum like you did tonight. I know how much you like being dominated. It turned me on to see how much you liked it. If you don't want me to do it again I won't. I'll cut off all contact with him. But I will need you to control me and fuck me how I like too."
"And what about his dick?" I asked
"You can get me a big toy," she laughed. She spent some more time reassuring me before she went to bed. I told her that I wasn't tired and wanted to watch sports center for a while. So now she's asleep in our bed and I'm writing this very conflicted. Do I continue? Tonight was so hot for me and I loved the idea of her being with another guy and then dominating me and telling me about it...but I liked the idea. After I came and had a moment to think all I could think was that my wife that I love had just fucked another guy. Part of me wants to find him and beat him. Part of me wants her to do it again so we can have another night like this. Part of me is ashamed I liked it. Another part is worried that she will fall for him and leave me. Even though she assured me that he was not her type (can't even carry on a conversation or talk intelligently about anything and only seems to worry about who won at hockey last night were her exact words). I looked for advice on line then found this forum looking for advice since I clearly don't want to talk to any of my friends or family about this. Please any advice would be appreciated. Be courteous and respectful please. Thank you

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