I have a lot to catch up on. I'll start with last night. Everyone was hanging out at our favorite Irish pub nearby. By the time I got there 12 of us were already hanging out. They had three tables pulled together along the back wall. Min-Ju was in the middle against the wall and dang if Darren wasn't sitting right beside her. I had to pull up an extra chair at the far end next to a friend and two other girls. I've seen Darren around vaguely but haven't met him before, and there were two other people I didn't know well, so introductions went around. Imagine having to lean way over the table to shake hands with the guy who's been flirting with your wife and sitting right next to her, and then say "Nice to meet you." I put on a show of smiling widely and acting friendly and casual, but inside I was feeling pretty emasculated. Marginalized, literally. Darren seemed smug, though probably that's in my imagination. I'm sure he's a nice guy but he rubs me the wrong way. After all the hellos, Min-Ju blew me a quick kiss and said, "It's about time you get here. We were about to give up on you."
I ordered a Guinness and drank it quickly. Conversation ebbed and flowed. We were all having loud fun, though mostly I was talking with Alex at the end of the table, and his girlfriend and another friend. My nervousness made me more expansive than I usually am, that and the beers. Min-Ju seemed more flirty and animated, too, which was fun to see -- she's such a great girl but gets self-conscious and anxious easily. I like seeing her feel like she fits in better. She's being flirty in general, not with Darren in particular. The whole night had a kind of dissonance and doubleness for me -- and, I later learned, for Min-Ju. On the surface everything was perfectly normal and innocent, just a big group of friends having loud fun. Nothing she was doing would raise any eyebrows (she was also wearing skinny jeans and a tank top, so no issue of flashing). But underneath was this secret layer of electric tension -- she was sitting with him, even if it seemed perfectly innocent. I didn't have a chance to read your suggestions of leaving them along for a while. That might have been fun, but really given the group dynamics I don't think that would have led them to get more intimate. Honestly, I doubt anyone noticed anything, and I'm not sure there was anything to notice. Our friends know we're married obviously, so even the newer friends like Darren would have to know we're at least together. Maybe some of our more social aware friends might have wondered why she wasn't sitting with me. Alex's girlfriend is pretty perceptive, and there was a point where she seemed to look at me funny but that was probably just in my head.
Things wound down around 10. Min-Ju and I left the same time as a couple others. She said goodbye to Darren the same way she did everyone else. After, we held hands walking home and talked about our days, but I also pressed her about Darren. She invited him, yes. But she said her message to him was casual. She wanted to expand her circle of friends -- but she also admitted she did it because it would be fun to see how I would react. "Did you get jealous?" she asked. "Yes," I said. "How did you feel when you showed up and saw us together?" I told her how I felt marginalized and how I was both upset and aroused. When I asked how she felt, she said she felt a little nervous waiting for me to show up. She really liked the look on my face when I saw her sitting with him. She was really proud of herself for arranging things so I would have to watch her with him. Interestingly, she described the night the same way I did -- surreal but ultimately innocent. Nothing "real" happened between her and Darren, they were just being friendly, and she had the same wild thought that to everyone else's eye this was totally innocent but that only I knew the game she was playing with me. She liked that. I asked her if she liked Darren and if she wanted something to happen with him. She said she wasn't sure. She likes that he's smart and a good artist, and likes talking with him, but she's not sure how much she likes him "that way." I replied with some kind of "I'm glad" -- and that stopped her. "Oh?" she asked, "You don't want me to be with him?" She seemed a little hurt. I tried to explain that yes, I wanted her to be with other guys, and that yes, she should pick who she likes, but that I kinda didn't like him, though I'm not sure why. She listened. And we were both trying to figure out if what I was feeling was reservations about the whole game, or just about Darren in particular. We walked in silence a little, holding hands. Then she turned to me and asked, "If I do want to be with Darren -- and I'm not saying I do -- will you say no?" I thought about it, and said, "You should be with who you want to. I won't say no." She smiled and hugged me. "How would you feel if I'm with a guy you don't like?" she asked. To my embarrassment, my cock gave her her answer. Even caged, when she's pressed against me she can feel they way the cage shifts when I get, or try to get, aroused.
Today has been more relaxed and mellow. We both have the afternoon off and are puttering around the house. All her attention now is on her date tomorrow night with Caleb. Poor Darren, even he can't compete. I promise to update again soon and catch up with all your comments (which have been making me very hot) soon. They made tentative plans for Saturday but apparently it's not a sure thing. It seems he's the kind of guy who does things on his own time. This frustrates her, and it's kind of cute to watch. I'm encouraging her to send some flirty texts, and I think she will eventually, but she's really sensitive about feeling rejected. Understandably. I took the suggestion of a spa day and set up an appointment for her and her friend tomorrow as a treat. She brightened when I mentioned it.
Several of you have been saying that there's been a real shift in power between us. You seem to be right. But more on that soon.
I ordered a Guinness and drank it quickly. Conversation ebbed and flowed. We were all having loud fun, though mostly I was talking with Alex at the end of the table, and his girlfriend and another friend. My nervousness made me more expansive than I usually am, that and the beers. Min-Ju seemed more flirty and animated, too, which was fun to see -- she's such a great girl but gets self-conscious and anxious easily. I like seeing her feel like she fits in better. She's being flirty in general, not with Darren in particular. The whole night had a kind of dissonance and doubleness for me -- and, I later learned, for Min-Ju. On the surface everything was perfectly normal and innocent, just a big group of friends having loud fun. Nothing she was doing would raise any eyebrows (she was also wearing skinny jeans and a tank top, so no issue of flashing). But underneath was this secret layer of electric tension -- she was sitting with him, even if it seemed perfectly innocent. I didn't have a chance to read your suggestions of leaving them along for a while. That might have been fun, but really given the group dynamics I don't think that would have led them to get more intimate. Honestly, I doubt anyone noticed anything, and I'm not sure there was anything to notice. Our friends know we're married obviously, so even the newer friends like Darren would have to know we're at least together. Maybe some of our more social aware friends might have wondered why she wasn't sitting with me. Alex's girlfriend is pretty perceptive, and there was a point where she seemed to look at me funny but that was probably just in my head.
Things wound down around 10. Min-Ju and I left the same time as a couple others. She said goodbye to Darren the same way she did everyone else. After, we held hands walking home and talked about our days, but I also pressed her about Darren. She invited him, yes. But she said her message to him was casual. She wanted to expand her circle of friends -- but she also admitted she did it because it would be fun to see how I would react. "Did you get jealous?" she asked. "Yes," I said. "How did you feel when you showed up and saw us together?" I told her how I felt marginalized and how I was both upset and aroused. When I asked how she felt, she said she felt a little nervous waiting for me to show up. She really liked the look on my face when I saw her sitting with him. She was really proud of herself for arranging things so I would have to watch her with him. Interestingly, she described the night the same way I did -- surreal but ultimately innocent. Nothing "real" happened between her and Darren, they were just being friendly, and she had the same wild thought that to everyone else's eye this was totally innocent but that only I knew the game she was playing with me. She liked that. I asked her if she liked Darren and if she wanted something to happen with him. She said she wasn't sure. She likes that he's smart and a good artist, and likes talking with him, but she's not sure how much she likes him "that way." I replied with some kind of "I'm glad" -- and that stopped her. "Oh?" she asked, "You don't want me to be with him?" She seemed a little hurt. I tried to explain that yes, I wanted her to be with other guys, and that yes, she should pick who she likes, but that I kinda didn't like him, though I'm not sure why. She listened. And we were both trying to figure out if what I was feeling was reservations about the whole game, or just about Darren in particular. We walked in silence a little, holding hands. Then she turned to me and asked, "If I do want to be with Darren -- and I'm not saying I do -- will you say no?" I thought about it, and said, "You should be with who you want to. I won't say no." She smiled and hugged me. "How would you feel if I'm with a guy you don't like?" she asked. To my embarrassment, my cock gave her her answer. Even caged, when she's pressed against me she can feel they way the cage shifts when I get, or try to get, aroused.
Today has been more relaxed and mellow. We both have the afternoon off and are puttering around the house. All her attention now is on her date tomorrow night with Caleb. Poor Darren, even he can't compete. I promise to update again soon and catch up with all your comments (which have been making me very hot) soon. They made tentative plans for Saturday but apparently it's not a sure thing. It seems he's the kind of guy who does things on his own time. This frustrates her, and it's kind of cute to watch. I'm encouraging her to send some flirty texts, and I think she will eventually, but she's really sensitive about feeling rejected. Understandably. I took the suggestion of a spa day and set up an appointment for her and her friend tomorrow as a treat. She brightened when I mentioned it.
Several of you have been saying that there's been a real shift in power between us. You seem to be right. But more on that soon.
