not sure even other cuckolds will all understand this or agree with it, but to me seeing my wife in a really passionate kissing situation, sometimes even without it being directly part of sex but just, what, "passion and need for the guy," that to me is both the most exciting and humiliating, but also the most terrifying thing about being a cuckold. once you accept your own sexual limitations, you can get away with making yourself believe she is having sex just because she needs what you can't deliver. but real, loving, passionate kissing raises the sick feeling that you are losing her, or maybe have lost her, completely ... and you might just be dumped.