Thank you Custer for your comments and insight.
My role as her cuckold husband is similar to what it has always been, her sexual satisfaction. The difference is that it used to be my responsibility for her sexual satisfaction now it's my facilitation of that satisfaction. To me there is a minor difference in wording but a major difference in life, some readers may not quite understand the nuance. She certainly gets a huge high from NRE, I think most people do, until it becomes that same old same old.
She understands it's about the sex, she doesn't want a connection. My take is that if a guy can't perform, he's one and done, if he can perform he's there until she starts to feel a connection. The exception is the Bartender. But keep in mind we new to this, though she's not new to a plethora of men.
Sex wears her out. Always did and now with her medical issues even more so.
Sorry to be so verbose, once I start writing the details start flooding and I can't write fast enough to get them all down, but I feel it's important to get as much down in as much detail as I can, lest it's just another short story of 'she met him they fucked he left'.
"....description of what it was like for a woman (now your hotwife) who can be described as a true sex addict — but who thought she had 'kicked the habit' by marrying you, pledging to remain faithful, seeing a psychologist, then actually doing so (mostly), thus becoming a 'respectable married woman' — only to finally give it up under extended pressure from you, and accept, once again, her strongly sexual nature and her need to fuck a variety of men."
This so damn accurate (except to marry #1) it's scary.
"You seem to be having a hard time, though, accepting in its totality your new role as your wife's cuckold. This is perfectly captured by your resentful comment, "I have the impression I'm on a bus I'm no longer driving." In other words, you want your wife to fuck other men for your pleasure, enjoyment and sexual satisfaction, but you want to be in control of your marriage and her sex life. It's a near-perfect expression of the traditional male patriarchal view that 'men should be in control of women,' and especially that 'married men should keep their wives under control.'
One aspect of being your wife's cuckold will be acceptance of the fact that, even though your wife uses a walker, you are no longer in the drivers seat in your marriage. She is. Ergo, you are no longer in a position to order her around. Now, you have competition from other men — and they aren't married, some of them are very good in bed, and they have great admiration for your wife being a 'great piece of ass' whose cuckold (you) 'is 'willing to share her.'"
There is great about of truth in that evaluation. I had envisioned occasional 'play' periods, due to her reluctance it would be at my initiation and arrangements. I may have envisioned not 9 men in 4 weeks but in a year. I should have been smarter, she said the had more than 500 different guys in her youth (17-26) that should have told me her propensity for sexual activity, I never put that together. And yes I wanted it, but equally for my satisfcation as well as hers. Perhaps I should used the term "I have the impression I'm more of a spectator than a participant", because truth be told I never was in control. She who has the pussy is on charge!
I am a product of the 60s, she of the 70s that single decade difference was in effect cataclysmic when viewed through the eyes of a female. And she willingly, gladly indulged in the benefits that newly found sexual freedoms afforded women at that time. At some point she was motivated to stop, it was long before I came along it was on her first husbands 'watch'.
She can't be ordered around, PERIOD! Yes I originally felt there was competition but she's going out of her way to prove that it isn't a competition and that 'I may not have her body exclusively I do have her emotions exclusively'.
"Your internal struggles coming to grips with being your hotwife's cuckold, most of which seem related to losing personal control of her newly-reliberated sexuality, bring to mind a comment on another forum (elsewhere on the web): "You asked your wife to make you a cuckold, and she did. Now, a cuckold is what you are.""
No, it's not about control. Yes I asked for and I got it and I am surprisingly comfortable in that skin. My issues were the kissing as emotional not the sex but she has explained to me that for her it's an important part of sex (which I already knew), so I am pigeon holing that as best I can.
"If, at 65, your wife actually does look roughly similar to the photo you posted in this thread (which, as you pointed out, is not her), when dressed in her lingerie to fuck a man for the first time in front of her husband (you), that's very impressive. She's a sensuously-sexual and hot-looking woman. And, you can tell her I said that."
If you are interested I will send a pic of her by PM so you can make your own eval, but understand it is not to be circulated. She has no idea I'm on any of these types of forums, she'd be mortified and probably castrate me in my sleep. So, she'll never see your flattering comment.
"Also, I think it's really impressive that your hotwife can more-or-less instantly seduce and pick up men in a bar (e.g., the Dispensary), even though she has to use a walker to get around. And, that she is multi-orgasmic while fucking them.... up to 12 or 15 orgasms per session(!) That's impressive-plus. It brings to mind (again) one of the better comments in David J. Ley's book, "insatiable Wives: Women who stray and the men who love them" (2009, Rowman & Littlefield Publishers [291 pp.]): "Comparing the orgasmic capacity of a typical woman with that of an average man is like comparing the drag-racing capability of a new Ferrari with that of an old, used Chevy." You might consider purchasing a copy of this book and encouraging your hotwife to read it."
It's actual the "The Old Town Distillery" I labeled it incorrectly. I think for most women promiscuity is a new experience. For her it's an old experience updated. She's very pragmatic about sex, "men want pussy, if you need to seduce or entice him, he isn't the right guy."
"Your wife's renewed sexuality at 65 brings to mind a comment passed along by my late father (may he rest in peace): "The 'golden years,' if there are any such years, are the 60's. The 70's.... well.... they aren't so golden. After 80, it's all downhill." Ergo, I urge you to encourage your wife to continue pursuing her renewed sexuality while she can. If she keeps at it, she may find what other married women who take lovers typically find (as suggested by the experiences of others in this forum): the more 'other men' they fuck, the more they want to fuck."
I am encouraging her in pursuing her renewed sexual activity. My pleasure is her pleasure. I would gladly sacrifice my orgasm for hers. I get the greatest of joy out of her joy. I think that's called compersion. I do agree about the more she gets the more she wants. I just primed the pump, now I facilitate.
Thank you for your kudos.
My role as her cuckold husband is similar to what it has always been, her sexual satisfaction. The difference is that it used to be my responsibility for her sexual satisfaction now it's my facilitation of that satisfaction. To me there is a minor difference in wording but a major difference in life, some readers may not quite understand the nuance. She certainly gets a huge high from NRE, I think most people do, until it becomes that same old same old.
She understands it's about the sex, she doesn't want a connection. My take is that if a guy can't perform, he's one and done, if he can perform he's there until she starts to feel a connection. The exception is the Bartender. But keep in mind we new to this, though she's not new to a plethora of men.
Sex wears her out. Always did and now with her medical issues even more so.
Sorry to be so verbose, once I start writing the details start flooding and I can't write fast enough to get them all down, but I feel it's important to get as much down in as much detail as I can, lest it's just another short story of 'she met him they fucked he left'.
"....description of what it was like for a woman (now your hotwife) who can be described as a true sex addict — but who thought she had 'kicked the habit' by marrying you, pledging to remain faithful, seeing a psychologist, then actually doing so (mostly), thus becoming a 'respectable married woman' — only to finally give it up under extended pressure from you, and accept, once again, her strongly sexual nature and her need to fuck a variety of men."
This so damn accurate (except to marry #1) it's scary.
"You seem to be having a hard time, though, accepting in its totality your new role as your wife's cuckold. This is perfectly captured by your resentful comment, "I have the impression I'm on a bus I'm no longer driving." In other words, you want your wife to fuck other men for your pleasure, enjoyment and sexual satisfaction, but you want to be in control of your marriage and her sex life. It's a near-perfect expression of the traditional male patriarchal view that 'men should be in control of women,' and especially that 'married men should keep their wives under control.'
One aspect of being your wife's cuckold will be acceptance of the fact that, even though your wife uses a walker, you are no longer in the drivers seat in your marriage. She is. Ergo, you are no longer in a position to order her around. Now, you have competition from other men — and they aren't married, some of them are very good in bed, and they have great admiration for your wife being a 'great piece of ass' whose cuckold (you) 'is 'willing to share her.'"
There is great about of truth in that evaluation. I had envisioned occasional 'play' periods, due to her reluctance it would be at my initiation and arrangements. I may have envisioned not 9 men in 4 weeks but in a year. I should have been smarter, she said the had more than 500 different guys in her youth (17-26) that should have told me her propensity for sexual activity, I never put that together. And yes I wanted it, but equally for my satisfcation as well as hers. Perhaps I should used the term "I have the impression I'm more of a spectator than a participant", because truth be told I never was in control. She who has the pussy is on charge!
I am a product of the 60s, she of the 70s that single decade difference was in effect cataclysmic when viewed through the eyes of a female. And she willingly, gladly indulged in the benefits that newly found sexual freedoms afforded women at that time. At some point she was motivated to stop, it was long before I came along it was on her first husbands 'watch'.
She can't be ordered around, PERIOD! Yes I originally felt there was competition but she's going out of her way to prove that it isn't a competition and that 'I may not have her body exclusively I do have her emotions exclusively'.
"Your internal struggles coming to grips with being your hotwife's cuckold, most of which seem related to losing personal control of her newly-reliberated sexuality, bring to mind a comment on another forum (elsewhere on the web): "You asked your wife to make you a cuckold, and she did. Now, a cuckold is what you are.""
No, it's not about control. Yes I asked for and I got it and I am surprisingly comfortable in that skin. My issues were the kissing as emotional not the sex but she has explained to me that for her it's an important part of sex (which I already knew), so I am pigeon holing that as best I can.
"If, at 65, your wife actually does look roughly similar to the photo you posted in this thread (which, as you pointed out, is not her), when dressed in her lingerie to fuck a man for the first time in front of her husband (you), that's very impressive. She's a sensuously-sexual and hot-looking woman. And, you can tell her I said that."
If you are interested I will send a pic of her by PM so you can make your own eval, but understand it is not to be circulated. She has no idea I'm on any of these types of forums, she'd be mortified and probably castrate me in my sleep. So, she'll never see your flattering comment.
"Also, I think it's really impressive that your hotwife can more-or-less instantly seduce and pick up men in a bar (e.g., the Dispensary), even though she has to use a walker to get around. And, that she is multi-orgasmic while fucking them.... up to 12 or 15 orgasms per session(!) That's impressive-plus. It brings to mind (again) one of the better comments in David J. Ley's book, "insatiable Wives: Women who stray and the men who love them" (2009, Rowman & Littlefield Publishers [291 pp.]): "Comparing the orgasmic capacity of a typical woman with that of an average man is like comparing the drag-racing capability of a new Ferrari with that of an old, used Chevy." You might consider purchasing a copy of this book and encouraging your hotwife to read it."
It's actual the "The Old Town Distillery" I labeled it incorrectly. I think for most women promiscuity is a new experience. For her it's an old experience updated. She's very pragmatic about sex, "men want pussy, if you need to seduce or entice him, he isn't the right guy."
"Your wife's renewed sexuality at 65 brings to mind a comment passed along by my late father (may he rest in peace): "The 'golden years,' if there are any such years, are the 60's. The 70's.... well.... they aren't so golden. After 80, it's all downhill." Ergo, I urge you to encourage your wife to continue pursuing her renewed sexuality while she can. If she keeps at it, she may find what other married women who take lovers typically find (as suggested by the experiences of others in this forum): the more 'other men' they fuck, the more they want to fuck."
I am encouraging her in pursuing her renewed sexual activity. My pleasure is her pleasure. I would gladly sacrifice my orgasm for hers. I get the greatest of joy out of her joy. I think that's called compersion. I do agree about the more she gets the more she wants. I just primed the pump, now I facilitate.
Thank you for your kudos.
