I am new to this forum, and wanted to introduce myself, my situation and ask for advice.
I am 47, and my wife Karin is 36. We have been married for 12 years, do not have children and have been exploring a Female Led Relationship (FLR) for about three years. Things evolved slowly at first, but are going quickly and perhaps beyond what I had expected. I am trying hard to deal with many conflicting feelings and having trouble.
About four years ago I found some websites that explained how exciting and fulfilling a FLR can be. I realized that this would be perfect for us! My wife is naturally very competent, and is a leader in virtually any group she participates in, and I am much less a leader. I introduced my wife to the concept, and after over a year of slow progress, she had me doing almost all of the housework, and she had included many of the concepts from the Female superiority websites in our marriage. She still asks my opinion, but the final decision is hers alone! We do not argue any more, and I recognize her as the superior person she is! Her happiness is the most important thing in my life. Some of those sites stress that sex is for the pleasure of the woman, and that is often achieved with the man’s tongue licking the woman’s pussy. That became the norm for us, and I am allowed to cum only when told to masturbate with Karin watching and given permission.
There are parts of our relationship that others may consider odd, but I do not care! Over time, she began to indicate to our friends that she is in charge. That was to be expected. Recently, she has been obvious to the point of embarrassing me. When she has a girl friend over I am expected to serve them both. A couple of months ago while Karin was out of the room, her friend, Gail, said to me “I understand that when you do the housework, the only thing you are allowed to wear is a frilly apron”. I didn’t know that Karin had told anyone about that!
This has all been background. When we began exploring our FLR, I mentioned to my wife that I get really distracted by her beautiful boobs, and if she dressed a little more provocatively in public, that she would see that others would also demonstrate their appreciation. For a time Karen did not believe me. Finally she said something like “You say you want this FLR, but you are pushing me to do something that is a turn on for you, not for me.” I had to think about that one for a while. A couple of weeks later I said “I know that you enjoy attention from others. If you showed more cleavage, you’d get a LOT of attention and positive feedback”. She thought for a while and said “You have a point”.
Well, she bought a couple of tops that showed lots of cleavage, and arranged with Gail to go to a bar in another part of the city. That night when she came home (and it was REALLY late), she was excited. It turns out that several guys hit on her, and she enjoyed it a LOT. That started the ball rolling. Her wardrobe changed dramatically. Tops were more revealing, skirts shorter. Pants tighter! She began to wear revealing clothes to work, and within a week, one of her co-workers, Paul, had invited her for drinks after work. She told me all about it! Shortly after they sat at the bar, his hand brushed her leg. Karin said that she encouraged him by saying “I like”. One thing led to another, and although they did not get a room, Paul asked Karin if she would like him to get a room later in the week. She quickly agreed.
Karin informed me of all this, not asking if it was OK, just telling me. She also said “I plan to fuck him good.” As it turned out, that’s exactly what happened. While she was telling me this I could feel myself getting hard. She told me that she was going to dinner with Paul on Thursday, and that he would arrange for a room for them for after dinner. Thursday night late, around midnight, she returned and told me that he had come twice, once in her mouth, and once in her cunt. Karin then said “Let me show you.” She takes my hand and places it on her wet pussy. “Lick me clean!” she demanded. Of course I quickly complied. I was hard the entire time, not that I got to fuck her.
I asked Karin why she let Paul fuck her while I was limited to using my tongue. She replied “Well, to start with, he is bigger than you are, and I do still like a hard fuck. You’re just not all that good at it any more.” That really hurt!
Now here is what I’m asking for help about. I feel turned on thinking about Karin being fucked by other men, but I also want some of that action. Perhaps I am envious of Paul, but I am really mixed up right now. Is all this normal? Karin has said in no uncertain terms that she will not be limiting herself to Paul, but that she will not even ask for my opinion about who she sees. What should I do from here?
One For Sure
I am 47, and my wife Karin is 36. We have been married for 12 years, do not have children and have been exploring a Female Led Relationship (FLR) for about three years. Things evolved slowly at first, but are going quickly and perhaps beyond what I had expected. I am trying hard to deal with many conflicting feelings and having trouble.
About four years ago I found some websites that explained how exciting and fulfilling a FLR can be. I realized that this would be perfect for us! My wife is naturally very competent, and is a leader in virtually any group she participates in, and I am much less a leader. I introduced my wife to the concept, and after over a year of slow progress, she had me doing almost all of the housework, and she had included many of the concepts from the Female superiority websites in our marriage. She still asks my opinion, but the final decision is hers alone! We do not argue any more, and I recognize her as the superior person she is! Her happiness is the most important thing in my life. Some of those sites stress that sex is for the pleasure of the woman, and that is often achieved with the man’s tongue licking the woman’s pussy. That became the norm for us, and I am allowed to cum only when told to masturbate with Karin watching and given permission.
There are parts of our relationship that others may consider odd, but I do not care! Over time, she began to indicate to our friends that she is in charge. That was to be expected. Recently, she has been obvious to the point of embarrassing me. When she has a girl friend over I am expected to serve them both. A couple of months ago while Karin was out of the room, her friend, Gail, said to me “I understand that when you do the housework, the only thing you are allowed to wear is a frilly apron”. I didn’t know that Karin had told anyone about that!
This has all been background. When we began exploring our FLR, I mentioned to my wife that I get really distracted by her beautiful boobs, and if she dressed a little more provocatively in public, that she would see that others would also demonstrate their appreciation. For a time Karen did not believe me. Finally she said something like “You say you want this FLR, but you are pushing me to do something that is a turn on for you, not for me.” I had to think about that one for a while. A couple of weeks later I said “I know that you enjoy attention from others. If you showed more cleavage, you’d get a LOT of attention and positive feedback”. She thought for a while and said “You have a point”.
Well, she bought a couple of tops that showed lots of cleavage, and arranged with Gail to go to a bar in another part of the city. That night when she came home (and it was REALLY late), she was excited. It turns out that several guys hit on her, and she enjoyed it a LOT. That started the ball rolling. Her wardrobe changed dramatically. Tops were more revealing, skirts shorter. Pants tighter! She began to wear revealing clothes to work, and within a week, one of her co-workers, Paul, had invited her for drinks after work. She told me all about it! Shortly after they sat at the bar, his hand brushed her leg. Karin said that she encouraged him by saying “I like”. One thing led to another, and although they did not get a room, Paul asked Karin if she would like him to get a room later in the week. She quickly agreed.
Karin informed me of all this, not asking if it was OK, just telling me. She also said “I plan to fuck him good.” As it turned out, that’s exactly what happened. While she was telling me this I could feel myself getting hard. She told me that she was going to dinner with Paul on Thursday, and that he would arrange for a room for them for after dinner. Thursday night late, around midnight, she returned and told me that he had come twice, once in her mouth, and once in her cunt. Karin then said “Let me show you.” She takes my hand and places it on her wet pussy. “Lick me clean!” she demanded. Of course I quickly complied. I was hard the entire time, not that I got to fuck her.
I asked Karin why she let Paul fuck her while I was limited to using my tongue. She replied “Well, to start with, he is bigger than you are, and I do still like a hard fuck. You’re just not all that good at it any more.” That really hurt!
Now here is what I’m asking for help about. I feel turned on thinking about Karin being fucked by other men, but I also want some of that action. Perhaps I am envious of Paul, but I am really mixed up right now. Is all this normal? Karin has said in no uncertain terms that she will not be limiting herself to Paul, but that she will not even ask for my opinion about who she sees. What should I do from here?
One For Sure
