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vgncpl

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My wife has always shown ZERO interest in other men and especially black men even with my coxing to get her to consider a three way with another man. Well after we went to a party the other night things may be changing. There was a black man there that was not her typical black man stereotype as he was close to our age (mid 40's) in the military, educated and he had the body of a Chippendale dancer. I first noticed her talking to him with her friends who were commenting on his physique and they were trying to get him to do a semi strip show. The opportunity never arose but he did pull up his shirt and show his 6 pack and she said wow. I purposely spent the night giving them time to talk without me there and he did show a lot of interest in her.

On the way home we talked about the party and I brought up her new friend. I asked what they talked about and she said things like his job, his son (who was at the party) and his wife who was out of town in school. I asked if she thought he was sexy and at first she said no but then with a little coxing she finally admitted he was very hot for a black man. I asked if she wanted to fuck him and she said no, then maybe and finally she said “oh hell yes he is the hottest man she has ever seen”. She also admitted that he politely said “I find you very attractive” and later he hugged her goodbye and said “I won’t tell you about my dreams tonight”. I offered to turn back and see if he was still there but she said lets go home and fuck.

Well it took about 45 minutes to get home and I asked her to ****** her breast and she surprised me by doing it. This is not something she has ever done so maybe the drinks were losing her up. I rubbed them asking if she wanted his cock and she just moaned so I asked her to pull up her dress and ****** her pussy. Again she surprised me by complying and I started rubbing it as we approached home. The more I mentioned his body and cock the wetter she got. She started saying, “I want his big black cock and I want to rub his big muscles and abs”. When I pulled up into the driveway she said fuck me now and I said lets go but she pulled me over to her side of the truck. I looked around to make sure the neighbors were not walking the dog after midnight and we screwed like two teenagers. She said I want his big black cock very loud as I plunged into her. I was surprised I lasted as long as I did with her acting like a slut but I was not going to let this opportunity slip away.

Now my dilemma: I was stupid, as I did not get a phone number to call him and set up something. I do know his name and where he works (navy base) but his phone number is not listed. I can try to call our friends but how do I ask for his number without bringing up suspicion or I can call the base and tell them I am a old friend and see if they can have him call me? I think this may be my only opportunity to see her with a black man or any man.
 
no picture of her but she is about 5'-6, 120#, brunette, 34C 23 35
 
Read your question...Personal advice from a Black Man

vgncpl asked:

I was stupid, as I did not get a phone number to call him and set up something. I do know his name and where he works (navy base) but his phone number is not listed. I can try to call our friends but how do I ask for his number without bringing up suspicion or I can call the base and tell them I am a old friend and see if they can have him call me? I think this may be my only opportunity to see her with a black man or any man.

I am a Black man, and I read your question. I am not a moderator, nor the owner of the group. (Getting this out of the way, so DC won't get sued, and it falls back on me. lol)

I have been in your shoes, being that I attracted women during my time in the Marines. My personal advice is to keep the fantasies going, and get the best sex from her...then pursue this a little more slowly. You don't know if she will be too addicted, or just do this as a fantasy.

My wife told me the infamous phrase: 'The family that plays together, stays together.' Having her do this too soon may have an adverse effect on her...that being a fetish turned obsession - which is chronic, if not kept in check.

I have seen friends in the First Gulf war lose their marriages to this fashion, and I lost my first wife because she obeyed her mother rather than me. (After 9/11, actually.)

I will digress from my life, because we are discussing your wife's desire. Seducing her with this sounds good, but you BOTH have to want this 110%. (Not you 110%, and she 50%.)

Others will discuss this with you, and may have more expertise. Take everything with an open mind.
 
Copied a post from a DC member...

Hope it helps: (edited and modified from his post to another couple.)

From WifeShafter11x7:

At your ages you want to be careful. Mindi might enjoy the sex and might get attached as well to a potential lover. 25 is young, I'm 30 and have been with wives from 22-50 and the younger, 22-30 generally let feelings get involved so you need to keep things balanced. And at that age, without having a real foundation in terms of marriage underneath you, you might lose all respect for Andy over time. COuples that are older respect one another in this lifestyle because they've built something over time, if you are just getting married, Andy isn't giving you satisfaction physically, you might lose more than just sexual respect for him.

Drop me a line if you have additional questions, I am very exp with couples

Hope it made sense...if not, let me know.
 
The moderator posted this...

Feel free to read it...

From SandyWho - Dark Cavern Moderator, to a couple in the same situation you are in:

Expanding your sexual partners can be fun but also a source of conflict. As long as you both fully agree it is for the experience and fun, then you can enjoy the swinging lifestyle as full partners. But what happens is that there are lots more men in to this life style than women so you have to keep your jealousy from ruining your pleasure. Believe it or not, most women prefer having a "Main Man" and sexual partners are just like new shoes. They make you feel sexy but sometimes they hurt your feet.
 
Thanks for the advice. I plan to keep encourging her and let her decide. I am sure I want this but she has those old beliefs that this would be cheating. I told her it is not if I am involved and suporting it.

Must suck to be a woman at times. I just want her to turn lose and have fun.
 
stay the course steady

sounds like we're in the same boat - I encourage Col, and enjoy the hottest sex I ever had (when she's got black dick on the brain) - but pushing to hard and proceeding too quickly might f the whole thing up and she'll withdraw... or worse, you'll be left with nothing and divorced. I'm just enjoyin the moment, role-play, IR porn, her occasional flirtin and flashin and llettin Col know I'm cool if she ever decides to vebture over the line!
 
Take It Slow

I think it's best to take it slow. Remember, the biggest sex organ with a women is her brain, so you must create the right images in her mind.

Show her X-Rated interracial moves to creat images in her mind. If she starts fucking black men, there is a good chance she will become addicted. You must be ready to allow a black man to have full access to your wife, if she enjoys it at that level.

While you watch your wife with the right black man, you may have a desire to give this men full access to your wife and your home, I've seen it happen where husbands get addicted to this.

You may not feel qualified to fuck your wife after watching her with the right black man, and this feeling may lead you to submit, and make the black man first in your wifes sexual needs.
 

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