How many would take the pass?

[The Grinch]

This has come up recently in talks with my wife...
She has offered me a "pass" to take a lover for myself.
My wife is very bisexual, and I asked her if this was something for both of us.
"No, this is for you" she told me. She wants me to have the freedom sexually that she has, to enjoy others outside the boundry of marriage.
I must admit, the idea does have a certain amount of attraction, if nothing else, it would give me something to do while she is out on a date...

But, on the other hand, I can not help but think there is some other reason for it. My wife can be a very calculating woman at times, so perhaps she has something else in mind...

My question is, how many guys here, if given the green light to bed some other woman, would do so?

 

[kinkyplace]

I think that many people here are turned by the unsymmetrical setup - where the wife enjoys freedom, but the husband doesn't. Getting such a "pass" wouldn't feel good for them.
Apparently you're not one of those, as you say that it would be fun. Perhaps it is some kind of test from her side?

 

[carina_halerose]

I have also been given a pass to find a lover if I wished. I declined the pass. We have a D/s relationship as well as a cuckold one. I felt at the time and still do that it may throw our D/s relationship into disarray. There is something inside me that needs and wants to see her with others. I need her to experience the pleasure that others can give. Any jealousy I may have had has been stripped away and been replaced by my submission and total love I have for her.

 

[Custer Laststand]

Your wife may actually be quite safe in offering you this freedom.

In her article:

The Science of Cuckoldry Cuckold Couple

Susan Gower points out that a marriage ring on a man tends to be an effective chastity device.

By contrast, a marriage ring on a woman who signals she wants sex from "other men" tends to *increase* her appeal. An obvious reason, beyond whether she seems hot in a physical and/or personal sense, would be that potential lovers know if they fuck her there will be no implied commitment. Men like that, as you know. Another reason would be that potential lovers realize she represents an opportunity, possibly, to propagate their genes via children another man (her cuckold husband) will be tricked into supporting and raising. The latter possibility has particular appeal if the lover can persuade the married woman to take him bareback, which is always a possibility even if the married woman insists on condoms and/or uses birth control early in their affair.

Thus, if you accept your wife's "pass" you may find that seemingly-available women who are desirable are less eager to fuck you as a married man than you might imagine in your fantasies. To put it another way, a married woman who is available for sex tends to cause a lot more excitement than a married man who makes it known he wants sex outside his marriage. The latter is more likely to cause yawns among available women.

You may, however, be able to find exceptions to this if you and your wife join a swinger's club in which there is an expectation that *both* husbands and wives will participate in extramarital sex with other members.

 

[marys_pet]

Nope, not interested. Not that I would ever be given the green light in the first place.

 

[jamon]

Custer... liked your reply.

 

[Puller]

Beware. What they say is not necessarily what they really mean.

I was given this, or did I take it?, I cannot remember. Either way I paid for it and the pleasure was outweighed by her displeasure in subtle ways. She was very jealous.

 

[jbrowning]

mine is the very jealous type don't know it would go swap would be good swinger party ect...she can take but another woman texting talking ect...she would be ready to kill hell she hates her b/fs other girlfreinds and wifes

 

[squirtgun]

I have the green light.I have had one 1-night-er where I was the bull for a hot wife who had her cuck tied to a chair and I currently have a playmate 19yrs my junior,I'm 42.
She also has the green light for solo play and has twice.We also play with other couples,but we found that meeting a couple that everyone was equally attracted was hard.
She is super jealous if she see me looking a lil to long at another woman,but sex with other women away or in another room from her plays out well.
I was into the swing and bull lifestyle when we met and she has gradually become comfortable with the games.She know at the end of the day I will be in her bed taking care of her needs and I always make sure her needs are met before I go see my playmate.

 

[Saraha]

It FEELS obvious that she does indeed want to rebuild her friendship with her female lovers. Surely, this gives you a negotiating opportunity. Just show your gentle, caring side while you are talking about it to her. Both discuss your unmet needs.

Woman can often become better lovers from pursuing their bi side, and if she is being emotionally fulfilled by lesbian sex, then she is likely to think well of you for giving her that "permission".

If her perception is that you do not approve of her being fucked by other women, then it will difficult for you both to rebuild the love and trust and friendship your marriage deserves. She will actually feel compelled to "go behind your back" as adultery. You already think she is in contact with one of her lovers.

 

[kevinsslave]

My question is, how many guys here, if given the green light to bed some other woman, would do so?

I was not given the green light but decided to crash through the intersection, anyway. Bedding the other woman has given me untold pleasure and, actually, seems to have, finally, spurred my wife into some action to try to save our marriage or, at least, make our relationship a bit healthier.

I recommend it, although, I'm probably the wrong guy to ask because I doubt that I was ever a "cuck" in the purest sense of the word. In a lot of ways, my foray into this lifestyle was more designed to give me some cheap (well, actually, fairly expensive) thrills. If you love women (and I do), march onward, I say.

 

[AngleBaby]

I would take the offer right away.

 

[Saraha]

If opportunity knocks, and it could at any moment, why punish yourself with turning it down? Never know where it could lead to.

 

[lifelong cuck]

Sorry Sara I'm only and always a Cuckold

If opportunity knocks, and it could at any moment, why punish yourself with turning it down? Never know where it could lead to.

Maybe it's because I've been a Cuckold too long or now accept my failings too completely but I'd pass on the pass.

My only sexual excitement comes from the vicarious thrill of my wife being fucked by any man who can make her cum. I have NO interest in being with another woman. Either to let myself and her down by my sexual 'short-comings' or my total lack of response to her feminine attractions.

 

[rickyny73]

I would not. My pleasure comes not from being with another woman but from watching (or in my case, imagining) my wife enjoy herself with another man, plus I agree that watching me with another woman is something my wife would enjoy. Whatever good comes out of that would quickly be covered by my wife's displeasure. What I'm trying to say is that this is not about me, it's about her. I get enough pleasure fucking my wife and imagining her with another man. Hopefully one day I'll actually get to see her fuck another man.

 

[deniedhubby]

I would not. My pleasure comes not from being with another woman but from watching (or in my case, imagining) my wife enjoy herself with another man, plus I agree that watching me with another woman is something my wife would enjoy. Whatever good comes out of that would quickly be covered by my wife's displeasure. What I'm trying to say is that this is not about me, it's about her. I get enough pleasure fucking my wife and imagining her with another man. Hopefully one day I'll actually get to see her fuck another man.

I couldn't have replied any better. Hopefully one day I'll actually get to see her fuck another man also.

 

[Melo-Jenny]

I would not. My pleasure comes not from being with another woman but from watching (or in my case, imagining) my wife enjoy herself with another man, plus I agree that watching me with another woman is something my wife would enjoy. Whatever good comes out of that would quickly be covered by my wife's displeasure. What I'm trying to say is that this is not about me, it's about her. I get enough pleasure fucking my wife and imagining her with another man. Hopefully one day I'll actually get to see her fuck another man.

I agree, my hubby's fantasy of me having sex with many men is erotic and a turn on, but I am very possessive and the thought of him with someone else is a big no-no for me.