You might consider purchasing a hollow strapon dildo (for you, not her).
Deniedmike,
Regarding your initial question:
deniedmike said:
Quick question for all the cucks and cuckwannabes. How many of you go soft when trying to fuck your girl? And how many cum too fast? Or both?
I read somewhere that about 30% (~1/3rd) of the adult male population has problems with erectile disfunction (ED). I have no idea how accurate that estimate is, but if it's even approximately right, that's a lot. Among "older" men, presumably the percentage is higher... perhaps much higher. Thus, you aren't alone; far from it.
Regarding the rest of your initial post:
deniedmike said:
I'm in the "both" category, and I think it's happening more now. I KNOW I can't go deep enough for her anymore. I got her a BIG toy [dildo] which has become her addiction, and I can't last (no stamina), so I end up trying to put my cock in her while half-hard, half-soft. She laughs at me, but I'm turned on at the same time. Answers?
First, congratulations for being turned on when your woman laughs at your erection problems, instead of feeling devastated. Congratulations also for taking action to make things better for her, i.e., by purchasing a 10" dildo for her to use and/or (better still) for you to use on her. Both are very positive.
You might consider purchasing a relatively large hollow strapon with a harness, and wearing it while your woman fucks you on top so she can move in whatever ways maximize her pleasure. This would yield the advantages of combining a large dildo (which your woman likes, evidently) with the emotional satisfaction (for you) of her fucking you, instead of just the dildo, and the advantage of your strap-on hollow dildo never going soft, so she can fuck you as long as she likes.
A disadvantage, of course, is that it will be somewhat strange for your woman to fuck herself to orgasm (perhaps repeated orgasms) each time without you being able to feel anything yourself. But, you pays your money and makes your choices.
You can find one by going here:
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then scrolling down to "hollow strapons," or by going here:
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directly. Or better still, you might be able to find one to purchase firsthand by visiting a local sex shop with your woman.
—Custer